re honouring each other

Sat Nov 21 09:09:31 PST 2009

These are compelling questions Ashley (and Erik!).  As i sat with them  
so many rich avenues for exploration opened up.  Would you be willing  
to start a new thread for this conversation?

Hugs,
Wendy

On 21-Nov-09, at 8:42 AM, ashley cooper wrote:

> I agree with you, Wendy, about the essence of contraction and  
> expansion. I'm intrigued by how people perceive/experience 'this  
> space'. There is a great deal of diversity present in the OSlist  
> space... a fundamental aspect that keeps it vibrant.
>
> And I'm intrigued by the perception that areas of the space may feel  
> closed to moments of contraction.
>
> What are some of the forms that arise as a system learns to breathe  
> together?
>
> On Sat, Nov 21, 2009 at 11:33 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil <wendy at xe.net>  
> wrote:
> No Erik.  That would neither be possible nor desirable.  Contraction  
> and Expansion.  Breathing.  The breath is an essential part of both  
> the form and the essence of Open Space and Life.
>
> Love,
> Wendy
>
>
> On 21-Nov-09, at 6:33 AM, Erik Fabian wrote:
>
> Is this space closed to moments of contraction?
>
> Erik
>
>
> On Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:12:32 -0600, Denise Tennen <denisetennen at comcast.net 
> > wrote:
>
> Thank you so much for your comments, Wendy
>
> Denise
> On Nov 20, 2009, at 4:51 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil wrote:
>
> In my experience, truth is relative.  It depends essentially on my
> perspective.  The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted
> truth appears.  Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a
> living process than a static fact.
>
> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList
> throughout this conversation.  To me that signals the presence of
> aggression.  Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant.  Either
> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target.
>
> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression,
> its evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily
> bread.  I still have a lifetime�s worth to learn about it.  I
> believe that the purpose of conflict is harmony.  What I have
> learned so far, is that aggression is a destructive, life denying
> vector in that equation.  And that clean heart anger is a
> generative life affirming vector.
>
> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation.  I have
> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises.  I have
> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few.
>
> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency
> if it serves no better purpose.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools
> because for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan�s voice when
> he wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between
> people he cares about.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling.
>
> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned
> well argument.
>
> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of
> an old hurt.
>
> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to
> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath.
>
> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I
> usually see in a month.
>
> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you
> in this circle who are listening or speaking.  It is you who I most
> want to speak to right now.
>
> Here is my hand.
>
> I offer it in absolute commitment.  I will never put you out of my
> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all.  Even in
> our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places.  I�m game to face
> the monsters of the deep.  I prefer them to the shallows.
>
> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the
> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to
> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or
> choices were in conflict with their own agendas.  It has been the
> root of much human suffering.  I can feel suffering present on this
> list right now.  I don�t like it.  I won�t support it.  I am
> saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way.  I
> am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-
> channel story-telling stop.  If you do not have the integrity to
> air your complaints directly, at least have the decency not to
> perpetrate slander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not
> one person in particular, because I�m certain it�s going on in
> several directions.)
>
> I guess we have finally grown up.  We are apparently big enough,
> brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon.  Can�t wait
> to see what we do with the treasure.
>
> In deepest respect and with great love for you all,
>
> Wendy
>
>
>
>
>
> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote:
>
> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil
> CEO Prospera Consulting
> wendy at xe.net
> 1-800-713-2351
>
> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich
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