<html><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; ">These are compelling questions Ashley (and Erik!). As i sat with them so many rich avenues for exploration opened up. Would you be willing to start a new thread for this conversation?<div><br></div><div><div>Hugs,</div><div>Wendy</div><div><br></div><div><br><div><div>On 21-Nov-09, at 8:42 AM, ashley cooper wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><blockquote type="cite">I agree with you, Wendy, about the essence of contraction and expansion. I'm intrigued by how people perceive/experience 'this space'. There is a great deal of diversity present in the OSlist space... a fundamental aspect that keeps it vibrant. <br> <br>And I'm intrigued by the perception that areas of the space may feel closed to moments of contraction. <br><br>What are some of the forms that arise as a system learns to breathe together?<br><br><div class="gmail_quote"> On Sat, Nov 21, 2009 at 11:33 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:wendy@xe.net" target="_blank">wendy@xe.net</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;"> No Erik. That would neither be possible nor desirable. Contraction and Expansion. Breathing. The breath is an essential part of both the form and the essence of Open Space and Life.<br> <br> Love,<br><font color="#888888"> Wendy</font><div><div></div><div><br> <br> On 21-Nov-09, at 6:33 AM, Erik Fabian wrote:<br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;"> Is this space closed to moments of contraction?<br> <br> Erik<br> <br> <br> On Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:12:32 -0600, Denise Tennen <<a href="mailto:denisetennen@comcast.net" target="_blank">denisetennen@comcast.net</a>> wrote:<br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;"> Thank you so much for your comments, Wendy<br> <br> Denise<br> On Nov 20, 2009, at 4:51 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil wrote:<br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="border-left: 1px solid rgb(204, 204, 204); margin: 0pt 0pt 0pt 0.8ex; padding-left: 1ex;"> In my experience, truth is relative. It depends essentially on my<br> perspective. The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted<br> truth appears. Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a<br> living process than a static fact.<br> <br> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList<br> throughout this conversation. To me that signals the presence of<br> aggression. Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant. Either<br> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target.<br> <br> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression,<br> its evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily<br> bread. I still have a lifetime�s worth to learn about it. I<br> believe that the purpose of conflict is harmony. What I have<br> learned so far, is that aggression is a destructive, life denying<br> vector in that equation. And that clean heart anger is a<br> generative life affirming vector.<br> <br> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation. I have<br> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises. I have<br> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few.<br> <br> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency<br> if it serves no better purpose.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools<br> because for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan�s voice when<br> he wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between<br> people he cares about.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned<br> well argument.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of<br> an old hurt.<br> <br> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to<br> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath.<br> <br> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I<br> usually see in a month.<br> <br> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you<br> in this circle who are listening or speaking. It is you who I most<br> want to speak to right now.<br> <br> Here is my hand.<br> <br> I offer it in absolute commitment. I will never put you out of my<br> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all. Even in<br> our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places. I�m game to face<br> the monsters of the deep. I prefer them to the shallows.<br> <br> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the<br> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to<br> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or<br> choices were in conflict with their own agendas. It has been the<br> root of much human suffering. I can feel suffering present on this<br> list right now. I don�t like it. I won�t support it. I am<br> saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way. I<br> am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back-<br> channel story-telling stop. If you do not have the integrity to<br> air your complaints directly, at least have the decency not to<br> perpetrate slander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not<br> one person in particular, because I�m certain it�s going on in<br> several directions.)<br> <br> I guess we have finally grown up. We are apparently big enough,<br> brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon. Can�t wait<br> to see what we do with the treasure.<br> <br> In deepest respect and with great love for you all,<br> <br> Wendy<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote:<br> <br> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil<br> CEO Prospera Consulting<br> <a href="mailto:wendy@xe.net" target="_blank">wendy@xe.net</a><br> 1-800-713-2351<br> <br> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich<br> <br> *<br> *<br> ==========================================================<br> <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br> ------------------------------<br> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options,<br> view the archives of <a href="mailto:oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu" target="_blank">oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu</a>:<br> <a href="http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html" target="_blank">http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html</a><br> <br> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs:<br> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist" target="_blank">http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist</a><br> </blockquote> <br> *<br> *<br> ==========================================================<br> <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br> ------------------------------<br> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options,<br> view the archives of <a href="mailto:oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu" target="_blank">oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu</a>:<br> <a href="http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html" target="_blank">http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html</a><br> <br> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs:<br> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist" target="_blank">http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist</a><br> ===========================================================<br> </blockquote> ==============<br> <br> *<br> *<br> ==========================================================<br> <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br> ------------------------------<br> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options,<br> view the archives of <a href="mailto:oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu" target="_blank">oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu</a>:<br> <a href="http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html" target="_blank">http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html</a><br> <br> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs:<br> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist" target="_blank">http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist</a><br> <br> </blockquote> <br> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil<br> CEO Prospera Consulting<br> <a href="mailto:wendy@xe.net" target="_blank">wendy@xe.net</a><br> 1-800-713-2351<br> <br> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich<br> <br> *<br> *<br> ==========================================================<br> <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br> ------------------------------<br> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options,<br> view the archives of <a href="mailto:oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu" target="_blank">oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu</a>:<br> <a href="http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html" target="_blank">http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html</a><br> <br> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs:<br> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist" target="_blank">http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist</a><br> </div></div></blockquote></div><br> * * ========================================================== OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of oslist@listserv.boisestate.edu: <a href="http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html">http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html</a> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist">http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist</a></blockquote></div><br><div apple-content-edited="true"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; 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