[OSList] [SPAM] - Re: Trust

[paul levy]

The danger here Is too fall down the trapdoor that lies just outside the
Gates of Heaven.

That danger is to try to ensure the absence of control by trying to control
that absence.

Hi

Paul

On Sunday, 2 February 2014 <x-apple-data-detectors://30>, Harrison Owen
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> David - "Could you say more about "the mere search for control being the
> total antithesis of trust." Sure. Nothing complicated or esoteric. If you
> walk into a group of people with the notion that you need to, or have to,
> control what is going on - that would be a pretty clear indication to me
> that you didn't trust the people to do what was needed if left to their own
> devices.
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> Harrison,
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> I'd like to deepen my understanding of something you shared in this
> post......Could you say more about "the mere search for control being the
> total antithesis of trust."
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> David
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> On Sun, Feb 2, 2014 at 10:03 AM, Harrison Owen <hhowen at verizon.net>
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> Annamarie - Meditation. It has been my experience that meditation prior to
> opening space, particularly in a "difficult" situation, is the only
> absolutely essential prework for the facilitator. All the rest can be
> helpful, but coming to the circle scattered, confused and anxious is a good
> way to fry your soul and create an environment that matches your state. The
> core issue is that losing your center is very nervous making - and in such
> a state it is all too easy to fall back into that old bug-a-boo, The Need
> for Control. Of course you will never achieve Control, but the mere search
> for it is the total antithesis of trust.   And you can see where that gets
> you...
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> It is certainly true that OS seems to work even when the facilitator is a
> nervous wreck, which I think says more about the power of self organization
> than anything else, but how much better things seem to go when you enter
> that circle calm, cool, and comfortable - just radiating trust in the
> people and their capacity.
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> The key for me is presence and focus. Being totally present and at one
> with the situation. There is no magic here but a period of meditation has
> been my way. Others will find a different way, a good walk for example.
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> Harrison
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> Harrison Owen
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