[OSList] Conflict and Caring

[Peggy Holman]

I think conflict exists because of caring.  If someone doesn't care, there's no energy, hence no conflict.  

The aikido of our work is tapping the emotional energy that is often expressed in anger or other raw emotions such that people discover the deeper meaning that fuels their angst.  And not just their own but each others.  Doing so can turn conflicted parties into unlikely partners.

Suzanne -- your story about your dad is a great example!

Peggy




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On Jul 28, 2012, at 4:36 AM, Harrison Owen wrote:

> Caring and Conflict seem almost like polar opposites – but as Marie suggests, they are integrally related, I think. I had a neighbor who was described as “the most even tempered man in town – Always mad!” It was kind of a joke, but after knowing him for 40 years I came to see that his anger was actually a manifestation of the deep caring he felt, but could not fully express. Because of an odd combination of social pressures and norms he never had the space to be the caring person he was. Sad! So I think it is true: Show me a situation where there is no conflict, and I will show you a situation where nobody cares.
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