Shy people... (?)

[Jack Martin Leith]

Hiya Jon.

I agree with Barry's comments.

Sometimes I get people back to the wall after the first round of sessions,
to see if people want to cancel their posted session, or add a new session.

A participant who was apprehensive about hosting a session has just
experienced what little it takes, and may now be ready to step into the role
of host.

I know one OS facilitator who has the participants create the agenda one
round at a time - i.e. they return to the circle at the end of each round.
There's a lot to be said for this approach as it enables greater emergence.
Yes, there are downsides too. But when I told my friend "It's not usually
done that way" and he replied "Why not?", I was stuck for an answer, beyond
that old standy, "In his book, Harrison Owen says ... "

Hope all's good where you are, Jon.

Jack
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On 22 July 2010 12:41, Barry Owen <barryo at comcast.net> wrote:

> Jon,
>
> My experience is that the process (OST) takes care of these "shy" people
> without anything new for me to do (no intervention)
>
> Many of them become butterflies and say what they came to say one-on-one .
> . . a bumblebee gets ahold of their ideas and buzzes around with them
> thereby becoming their megaphone.
>
> I believe many shy people want to find "co-conspirators" to raise their
> confidence before opening their mouths . . . so they typically are mute at
> the opening . . . and sometimes the most vocal after they've found some
> kindred Spirits.
>
> There's my 2 cents . . . Looking forward to "hearing what others have to
> say.
>
> Best,
> b
>
>   On Thu, Jul 22, 2010 at 3:26 AM, Jon Harvey <
> jon at jonharveyassociates.co.uk> wrote:
>
>>  Dear all
>>
>>
>>
>> You won’t be surprised to know that I have never had a problem speaking
>> (and even performing) in public. This isn’t just because I have a lot of
>> passion and desire to make the world a better place (and entertain people!)
>> – it is because I have a good dollop of confidence. I probably blame my
>> parents for this as they always had lots of confidence in me.
>>
>>
>>
>> So when it comes to speaking up in an Open Space and saying what session I
>> would like to run, there is no problem for me. But there does appear to be a
>> problem for some people. Maybe. When I am facilitating an Open Space, I aim
>> to do all I can in the introduction to make it easy for anyone, no matter
>> how shy or lacking in confidence they are, to come forward. Whilst I almost
>> always step outside of the circle, I hang about near the microphone
>> sometimes, or not. I place chocolates in the middle to lure people into
>> declaring their passion and offering to run a session. I look calmly on and
>> simply ‘be’ when no one is coming forward... (sometimes).
>>
>>
>>
>> And then the sponsor says, perhaps people are just too shy, speaking into
>> the microphone is just too daunting, will you offer to speak for people if
>> they write it out first, shall I do this, could they just place the meeting
>> notice on the agenda wall, is Open Space only for confident people, do we
>> need more structure...? (etc.) I feel uncomfortable, I know that people have
>> ideas and questions they would like to discuss and I know some people find
>> speaking to a group (big or small) really, really scary. I want to stay
>> ‘true’ to the principle of passion in OS – but I also want to help... Or am
>> I in danger of intervening too much? Whatever happens is the only thing
>> which could have, and whoever turns up is the right people...
>>
>>
>>
>> I could go on... but I hope you get my gist.
>>
>>
>>
>> What do you do? How do you create the space in which everyone who has a
>> passion, no matter how scared they feel, comes forward with their offer? How
>> do you make that daunting threshold of speaking to a group, just so ‘right’
>> that no one feels too shy to come forward – if they want to come forward...?
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> All the best
>>
>>
>>
>> Jon
>>
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