Law of Two Feet

[Jack Ricchiuto]

The temptation to mediate is real and valid. We just need to be mindful of
the context of our intervention, whether the intervention is quiet holding
the space or overt mediation. For me, it's asking myself if I'm coming from
a place of faith in the people or a place of non-faith. The context of my
actions are therefore more significant than the content of my actions. This
also goes for the temptation I might feel to think I could know best who
should and shouldn't be a member of a community.

Jack

On 2/15/07, Bui K. Petersen <bui at buildconsensus.ca> wrote:
>
>  This is what I was afraid of. I think is a situation where mediation
> would be more effective. In conflict resolution we often say "all behaviour
> makes sense". Empathy and compassion is usually more effective than a 2X4.
>
> I want to add that the scenario I am thinking is not when the person in
> question is a boss but more like a regular member of a community. It would
> be unfortunate if someone chose to leave a community as a result of an OS
> event. But perhaps there are other perspectives out there.
>
> Búi
>
> Harrison Owen wrote:
>
>  "I wonder how empowering it is for the individual left behind?"
>
>
>
> Well, if that "difficult" person was a command and control boss – it is
> possible, though perhaps not likely, that he will learn something. Then
> again, he might go and seek alternative employment. Or – all those folks he
> was intimidating might do the same thing. Sometimes the universe has to hit
> you on the side of the head with a 2X4 just to get your attention. Painful,
> but effective.
>
>
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> Harrison
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> -----Original Message-----
> *From:* OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>]
> *On Behalf Of *Bui K. Petersen
> *Sent:* Thursday, February 15, 2007 2:31 PM
> *To:* OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
> *Subject:* Re: Law of Two Feet
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>
> Thanks for the reassurance, Jack.
>
> However, I am not as concerned about the to the topic and the conversation
> as I am with the affect on the "difficult" individual. While it may be
> empowering for people to simply leave an unfruitful conversation, I wonder
> how empowering it is for the individual left behind?
>
> Búi
>
> Jack Ricchiuto wrote:
>
> Bui,
>
> This does happen and can hurt the development of content around an
> otherwise attractive topic. If the self-organizing soil of the group is
> fertile enough, people will continue the conversation in different places
> and in different ways, the way water will flow around rocks to whatever
> openings available. When people with passion are given freedom, good things
> happen no matter what.
>
> Translation: not to worry.
>
> Be well,
>
> Jack
>
> On 2/15/07, *Bui K. Petersen* <bui at buildconsensus.ca > wrote:
>
> As someone who is still just learning and trying to find out how and when
> OST can be used, I am curious about people's experience with the effect the
> Law of Two Feet can have on irritating dominating personalities. Say for
> example that someone is dominating a group and practically annoying everyone
> else with the result of them using their two feet and leaving. How does this
> affect the person left behind? I have some concerns about what could happen
> to this person but before I mention them, I am interested to hear what
> others have experienced.
>
> Curious!
>
> Búi
>
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