happy cycle ~ grief cycle upside down ?

[Seamus McInerney]

Dear Marei,
This evening I had a conversation with my 17 year old son. He was telling 
me how sometimes he cannot believe how good his life is. Especially as so 
many of his peers appear so troubled as teenagers. He feels he should be 
able to give some of his good fortune away to those more needy. When I 
suggested he may believe he does not deserve it in some way, that he is not 
good enough to be given the life he has, he said no at first. But later...

It can often be hard to have experiences that are different from those 
around you, even when those experiences are positive and good. We 
instinctively want to share them just so that in sharing them they grow and 
extend around us. Yet even the joyful discovery of new connections has 
implications for us. Maybe we will change and others will not like what we 
become. Maybe I have out grown my existing friends and relationships and 
will soon be moving on. I am mindful of young people who emigrate to a new 
country or go to the big city to study or get a job. They leave all that is 
familiar behind but the excitement of the new world pushes them forward.

Enjoy the journey.
Shay

At 17:59 07/12/2005, you wrote:
>
>
>Dear friends and collagues,
>
>today I am showing up with a question that might sound funny to some of you.
>But I feel really confused and am hoping for some input that get's me 
>through my emotional mess.
>
>Have you ever experienced that something like the grief cycle happened the 
>other way around?
>
>At the moment I am experiencing wonder after wonder in my life, beautiful 
>coincedences and new connections and I feel shocked by this, finding 
>myself not breathing, like under shock, and I even experience some kind of 
>denial ~ "no, this can't be true, this is to god to be true" ~ and I feel 
>tempted to turn around and try to find the one who is really ment, 
>thinking something like "this cannot be ment to me" ~ as people 
>experiencing a loss may say, "why me?" and fight it.
>
>I experience a mixture of joy and excitement and tension and stress.
>
>I know that when I recently experienced a big loss, being familar with the 
>grief cycle helped me very much with going through the stages and dealing 
>with all the feelings connected with it.
>
>So I am asking: Is anybody out there who can help me understand this version?
>
>Thank you !!!
>
>Warmly, still breathing, but very little, Marei
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