givens and serendipity

Marei Kiele MareiKiele at
Tue Dec 7 02:26:00 PST 2004

 "Thomas Herrmann" <mailto:thomas at> schrieb:
> Hi HO
> Just to clarify, the givens in this school-example are about to define where
> we (I´m part of the board of the school) would like to have help from the
> parents, not to deny conversations. The OS-meeting will be the start of a
> new organization for the parents-involvement so everyone will choose what
> topic they would like to develop further after that day. We don´t see a need
> (and do not trust!) the parents to get involved with developing the pedagogy
> but of course conversations are welcome and we encourage them all the time.
> The school works out of the "Montessori-pedagogy" - quite open spacy!

 > I really would like to know where you all find leaders who are open to any
> change in their organization and who fully trust their employees to take
> charge!!! Please tell me also HOW you find them!!! Maybe I have to leave
> Sweden??!! And how you find out you found them!!
> It happened to me a few times that I thought I found one but at a not very
> timely place I found out I had not.
> Warmest regards
> Thomas

Funny thing, what I sensed in your email, Thomas. It remembered me how much we, ourselves, are connected with what we see outside. From my work with belief systems during the last months I came to the belief that the world I perceive is a reflection of my inner world. And I hope you will forgive me if I use your example to make clear what I mean.

Not trusting parents to get involved with developing the pedagogy... looks a lot like not being fully open to change and not trusting the employees fully to take charge. And like not trusting that the whole system (teachers and parents together) will define perfectly where parents can contribute and where teachers are the experts - the by the parents chosen experts! If the parents don't think the teachers and the board of the scool are capable, but will intervene in a way that you think might be disturbing your work - mmmh, why should they send their kids to this scool? And what a foundation for cooperating is this?

So my answer to your question on HOW to find leaders who are fully open to change would be "search inside". This includes you don't have to leave Sveden :)

The more we have this inner freedom the more often we will meet people outside who are looking for what we offer. And the better we can adress this part in the other which trusts and knows - one may call it 'higher self' or differently - and which is only hidden by a layer of distrust, fear and hindering beliefs.

This dialogue on givens showed me very much how much the way we, the facilitators, want to work and what we offer to a client is connected with what we personally believe to need. And that we all, as Joelle wrote, "keep hoping that there might be some small aspects of life over which we still can exercise control." And I put myself on your list as well Joelle, and join you, Thomas, in again and again catching me where I don't trust others to know best what they want, what is needed and to let go all my planning. Instead I stay with my wanting to make sure I get the result that seemingly would be the best for me.

But refering to all the wonderful stuff on "serendipity" this planned result is obviously not the best that can happen! 

Many regards and thank you listserve community -
it's such a pleasure to be part of this.


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