holdin' space

[McInerney]

What a wonderful expression of the parental role, especially with regard
to teenagers.

Thank you to your vulnerability.
Shay

Judi Richardson wrote:
>
> Mornin'
>
> In our deliberations of actively holding space — and as always
> happens when I am in contemplation — an outward manifestation occurs.
> I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as I
> watch it take place on the screen — speaking to holding space, to my
> stretch away from a traditional parental model — which takes place in
> organizations as we know.  I wondered til this morning if I'd be able to
> place my vulnerability on such a public list.  And, of course <grin>
> with that thought knew that I must!  So, I offer it without editing in
> the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space!
> ***********
> I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a brief
> moment and hold space with me.  A beautiful time has happened in our
> family life.  My young adult sons are going through growth decisions and
> learning.  In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix it, as
> nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called "expert" in
> his life — just quietly serve and hold space.  Setting clear
> boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of those
> boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection and
> confusion.  Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions will be
> catalysts for great growth.  I am not the creator -- not responsible for
> his every emotion.  And then there is my mother heart -- oh my she is
> experiencing great growth.  This is the moment we have been waiting for
> when my sons spread their own wings and fly.  And, to be honest, I cry
> out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when he was
> a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving his
> problems, his saviour in times of need!  To do that now would stunt his
> growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings -- serving none
> of us.  And I need to be present moment to moment in holding that space
> actively..... with great love and a full heart.
>
> with love and great gratitude and in peace,
> Judi
>
> Judith Richardson
> judith at ponoconsultants.com
> Pono Consultants International
> Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration
> (902) 435-0308
> www.ponoconsultants.com
>
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