holdin' space
Judi Richardson
Richarjl at akerley.nscc.ns.ca
Fri May 31 10:02:16 PDT 2002
wonderful to bring those who are also holding the space to my
consciousness I knew you were out there <grin>
>>> shaymarg at indigo.ie 05/28/02 08:02AM >>>
What a wonderful expression of the parental role, especially with
regard
to teenagers.
Thank you to your vulnerability.
Shay
Judi Richardson wrote:
>
> Mornin'
>
> In our deliberations of actively holding space and as always
> happens when I am in contemplation an outward manifestation
occurs.
> I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as I
> watch it take place on the screen speaking to holding space, to
my
> stretch away from a traditional parental model which takes place
in
> organizations as we know. I wondered til this morning if I'd be able
to
> place my vulnerability on such a public list. And, of course <grin>
> with that thought knew that I must! So, I offer it without editing
in
> the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space!
> ***********
> I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a brief
> moment and hold space with me. A beautiful time has happened in our
> family life. My young adult sons are going through growth decisions
and
> learning. In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix it, as
> nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called "expert"
in
> his life just quietly serve and hold space. Setting clear
> boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of those
> boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection and
> confusion. Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions will
be
> catalysts for great growth. I am not the creator -- not responsible
for
> his every emotion. And then there is my mother heart -- oh my she
is
> experiencing great growth. This is the moment we have been waiting
for
> when my sons spread their own wings and fly. And, to be honest, I
cry
> out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when he
was
> a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving his
> problems, his saviour in times of need! To do that now would stunt
his
> growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings -- serving
none
> of us. And I need to be present moment to moment in holding that
space
> actively..... with great love and a full heart.
>
> with love and great gratitude and in peace,
> Judi
>
> Judith Richardson
> judith at ponoconsultants.com
> Pono Consultants International
> Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration
> (902) 435-0308
> www.ponoconsultants.com
>
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