holdin' space

Mon May 27 11:19:14 PDT 2002

Judi Richardson wrote:

> Mornin'
>
> In our deliberations of actively holding space — and as always
> happens when I am in contemplation — an outward manifestation occurs.
> I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as I
> watch it take place on the screen — speaking to holding space, to my
> stretch away from a traditional parental model — which takes place in
> organizations as we know.  I wondered til this morning if I'd be able to
> place my vulnerability on such a public list.  And, of course <grin>
> with that thought knew that I must!  So, I offer it without editing in
> the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space!
> ***********
> I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a brief
> moment and hold space with me.  A beautiful time has happened in our
> family life.  My young adult sons are going through growth decisions and
> learning.  In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix it, as
> nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called "expert" in
> his life — just quietly serve and hold space.  Setting clear
> boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of those
> boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection and
> confusion.  Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions will be
> catalysts for great growth.  I am not the creator -- not responsible for
> his every emotion.  And then there is my mother heart -- oh my she is
> experiencing great growth.  This is the moment we have been waiting for
> when my sons spread their own wings and fly.  And, to be honest, I cry
> out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when he was
> a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving his
> problems, his saviour in times of need!  To do that now would stunt his
> growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings -- serving none
> of us.  And I need to be present moment to moment in holding that space
> actively..... with great love and a full heart.
>
> with love and great gratitude and in peace,
> Judi
>
> Judith Richardson
> judith at ponoconsultants.com
> Pono Consultants International
> Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration
> (902) 435-0308
> www.ponoconsultants.com
>
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Dear Judi,
<br>Thank you . My son is now 31 .Your words brought back memories of the
two great gifts we can give our children,roots and wings. I lived in Dartmouth
for twelve years, Iam so passioate that I am Holding an Open Space on the
topic  in Toronto on October 21. Iknow Ican go much deeper in understanding
what it means.
<br>Audery Coward
<br>Catalysts for Change
<p>Judi Richardson wrote:
<blockquote TYPE=CITE>Mornin'
<p>In our deliberations of actively holding space — and as always
<br>happens when I am in contemplation — an outward manifestation occurs.
<br>I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as
I
<br>watch it take place on the screen — speaking to holding space, to my
<br>stretch away from a traditional parental model — which takes place
in
<br>organizations as we know.  I wondered til this morning if I'd
be able to
<br>place my vulnerability on such a public list.  And, of course
<grin>
<br>with that thought knew that I must!  So, I offer it without editing
in
<br>the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space!
<br>***********
<br>I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a brief
<br>moment and hold space with me.  A beautiful time has happened
in our
<br>family life.  My young adult sons are going through growth decisions
and
<br>learning.  In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix
it, as
<br>nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called "expert"
in
<br>his life — just quietly serve and hold space.  Setting clear
<br>boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of those
<br>boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection and
<br>confusion.  Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions
will be
<br>catalysts for great growth.  I am not the creator -- not responsible
for
<br>his every emotion.  And then there is my mother heart -- oh my
she is
<br>experiencing great growth.  This is the moment we have been waiting
for
<br>when my sons spread their own wings and fly.  And, to be honest,
I cry
<br>out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when he
was
<br>a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving his
<br>problems, his saviour in times of need!  To do that now would
stunt his
<br>growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings -- serving
none
<br>of us.  And I need to be present moment to moment in holding that
space
<br>actively..... with great love and a full heart.
<p>with love and great gratitude and in peace,
<br>Judi
<p>Judith Richardson
<br>judith at ponoconsultants.com
<br>Pono Consultants International
<br>Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration
<br>(902) 435-0308
<br>www.ponoconsultants.com
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