Request Feedback on an OS Theme for a Conference on Fatherhood

[Chris Corrigan]

"J. Paul Everett" wrote:

> Two books would be valuable for men to read.  "The Invisible Partners" by
> John Sanford, Episcopal priest and Jungian analyst, published in 1980.
> "Marriage: Dead or Alive" by Adolph Guggenbuhl-Craig, a Swiss Jungian
> analyst.
>

To add to that, it would be great to have your folks see the movie "Smoke Signals"
which was the first full length feature film produced, made, conceived, directed and
starring Aboriginal actors in North America.  It is all about fathers and fathering,
and it all gets tied together with a poem at the end of the film that had me in
tears for hours acknowledging the truth of what the whole project was about.  The
poem is called "Forgiving our Fathers" and is by Dick Lourie.  It goes like this:

Forgiving Our Fathers
By Dick Lourie

 From the movie "Smoke Signals"

 How do we forgive our fathers?
Maybe in a dream.

Do we forgive our fathers for leaving us too often or forever when we were little?

Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage
Or making us nervous because there never seemed
to be any rage there at all.

Do we forgive our fathers for marrying or not
marrying our mothers?
For divorcing or not divorcing our mothers?

And shall we forgive them for their excesses of
warmth or coldness?

Shall we forgive them for pushing or leaning,
for shutting doors, for speaking through walls,
or never speaking, or never being silent?

Do we forgive our fathers in our age or in theirs
Or in their deaths, saying it to them or not
saying it?

If we forgive our fathers, what is left?

The film was based on the book by Sherman Alexie called The Lone Ranger and Tonto
Fistfight in Heaven

Chris

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