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<p>"J. Paul Everett" wrote:
<blockquote TYPE=CITE>Two books would be valuable for men to read.
"The Invisible Partners" by
<br>John Sanford, Episcopal priest and Jungian analyst, published in 1980.
<br>"Marriage: Dead or Alive" by Adolph Guggenbuhl-Craig, a Swiss Jungian
<br>analyst.
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To add to that, it would be great to have your folks see the movie "Smoke
Signals" which was the first full length feature film produced, made, conceived,
directed and starring Aboriginal actors in North America. It is all
about fathers and fathering, and it all gets tied together with a poem
at the end of the film that had me in tears for hours acknowledging the
truth of what the whole project was about. The poem is called "Forgiving
our Fathers" and is by Dick Lourie. It goes like this:
<p><b><i>Forgiving Our Fathers</i></b>
<br><i>By Dick Lourie</i><i></i>
<p><i> From the movie "Smoke Signals"</i><i></i>
<p><i> How do we forgive our fathers?</i>
<br><i>Maybe in a dream.</i><i></i>
<p><i>Do we forgive our fathers for leaving us too often or forever when
we were little?</i><i></i>
<p><i>Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage</i>
<br><i>Or making us nervous because there never seemed</i>
<br><i>to be any rage there at all.</i><i></i>
<p><i>Do we forgive our fathers for marrying or not</i>
<br><i>marrying our mothers?</i>
<br><i>For divorcing or not divorcing our mothers?</i><i></i>
<p><i>And shall we forgive them for their excesses of</i>
<br><i>warmth or coldness?</i><i></i>
<p><i>Shall we forgive them for pushing or leaning,</i>
<br><i>for shutting doors, for speaking through walls,</i>
<br><i>or never speaking, or never being silent?</i><i></i>
<p><i>Do we forgive our fathers in our age or in theirs</i>
<br><i>Or in their deaths, saying it to them or not</i>
<br><i>saying it?</i><i></i>
<p><i>If we forgive our fathers, what is left?</i>
<p>The film was based on the book by Sherman Alexie called <i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060976241/qid=999838398/sr=2-3/ref=aps_sr_b_1_3/104-0233825-6210339">The
Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven</a></i>
<p>Chris
<p>--
<br>CHRIS CORRIGAN
<br>Consultation - Facilitation
<br>Open Space Technology
<p><A HREF="http://www.chriscorrigan.com">http://www.chriscorrigan.com</A>
<br>corcom@interchange.ubc.ca
<p>RR 1 E-3
<br>1172 Miller Road
<br>Bowen Island, BC
<br>Canada, V0N 1G0
<p>phone (604) 947-9236
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