[OSList] Highly Controversial Group

Sat Jul 27 01:30:13 PDT 2013

Cecilia: I Like what all our friends told you and I understand  how you can
feel.
I had a feeling like that in April 2013 because I was facilitating a big OS
and the organisators  wanted to improve  their image.
But some friends I have told me to open the space conecting my self with my
hart, thinking of my real intention that was to serve that group.
I felt much better, I felt honered to be the person who was going to poen
that space and i was a very good expeirence. The preparation was inside of
me. It worked!
Adriana

2013/7/26 Cecilia Soriano <csoriano2508 at yahoo.com.ar>

>   *THANK YOU!  Christine, James, Harrison, Lisa!*
> That great honor to receive your words, your thoughts, your time, your
> support, your wisdom!
> That's really what I was looking for
>
> Thanks for re-connect me with the valuable...
>
> All value to be heard...
> I wish to create conditions on Thursday to make everyone feel heard...
>
> I take a deep breath and have faith
>
> GRACIAS con profunda emoción!
> Cecilia
>
>  *From:* Lisa Heft <lisaheft at openingspace.net>
> *Sent:* Friday, July 26, 2013 6:39 PM
> *To:* World wide Open Space Technology email list<oslist at lists.openspacetech.org>
> *Subject:* Re: [OSList] Highly Controversial Group
>
> I would add to everyone's wise words -
>
> It is not just the slice of time you have them in a meeting.
> It is also how invitation, relationship-building, messaging, design of
> time... all of the pre-work - supports the success of a dialogue-based
> meeting.
> The higher the conflict, the more time for relationship building before
> the event, the more useful timing, placement and type of / inclusion of
> food is, the more time (ideally) you want for people to be able to name
> their story, feel fully witnessed, and feel heard. Not changed, just heard.
>
> Plus it is good to really look at documentation design - what is the
> capacity and reality of what will be done with the information and ideas
> and relationships generated at the event, after the event.
> As we all know, a single moment does not necessarily change behavior.
> Ideally, this event is designed in to sort of a chain of gatherings,
> actions, events and relationships that are designed over time.
>
> I know you may not be able to change some of those 'must-have's', Ceci.
>
> Like delivery of information (rather than engagement).
>
> Can that happen before people arrive, in any other way.
> Can it happen in a creative way, showing diverse voices.
> What will it do that either confirms peoples' existing positions or makes
> them mad or agitated. Does that help. Does that fit the objective for
> bringing them together.
>
> Is there anything that can be shifted, moved, adjusted - so there is more
> time to unfold into conversation and discovery, so the reflective thinkers
> have voice, not just the quickest responders.
>
> What is the messaging - how is it being described.
> Recommendation: leave any word about anxiety or discomfort out of your
> theme. If you name it, people will hold that.
> What is the nature of invitation. Is invitation / invitation strategy
> about individual outreach, one-on-one communication, so that everyone
> coming in the room has a welcoming person they have already met, even if
> online.
> Pre-registration - can also give you a chance to share information and
> tone - and to gather information to support every individual.
>
> Design of name tags. Can they be just first and last name (large so people
> can see across a small conversation) without any title or organization.
>
> I know you are asking about 'what if x happens in the moment'.
> But there is more than that to support the best possible situations.
>
> And then you prepare yourself. You eat. You sleep. You stay hydrated. You
> use all your tools. You breathe. You welcome.
> You look ahead at some 'what-ifs' such as what if something runs a little
> longer than expected - can you design in a bit more time, are there bowls
> of fruit to pass around if things run a bit late (both for nutrition and
> for a moment of people sharing with each other) to bring in the room if
> running late makes people tired, things like that.
>
> You open the circle mentioning perhaps not the anxiety - but perhaps at
> the 'whatever happens' description you can say that people are welcome to
> name what was, what should be, what isn't - but they also have a chance to
> share thinking about the new story, that begins now, if they wish. Up to
> them.
>
> And then you remember that we are all with you.
> Like a flock of butterflies standing lightly on your shoulders,
> witnessing, believing in you.
> And believing in each of those people, and their passions.
> Perhaps one of us butterflies landing lightly on the shoulder of someone
> in the room who has anger or anxiety. Witnessing for them, as well.
>
> And then you remember you have a peaceful center. Because you do.
>
> And then you take it where it goes. Because you did everything you could
> do to prepare, and now it is time to dance the dance.
> So wear comfortable shoes ;o)
>
> We believe in you,
> Lisa
>
>
>
>
>  *From:* oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org [
> mailto:oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org<oslist-bounces at lists.openspacetech.org>
> ] *On Behalf Of *Cecilia Soriano
> *Sent:* Friday, July 26, 2013 3:40 PM
> *To:* oslist at lists.openspacetech.org
> *Subject:* [OSList] Highly Controversial Group****
> ****
>       Hello everybody!****
>   ****
>  I *have a big challenge and I need your wisdom!*****
>  The next next Thursday, I will be facilitating an OS, with a group of
> 190 Secondary School Principals. Is a highly controversial group in a very
> politicised and complicated context... (ideal for open space isn't it?)***
> *
>   ****
>  But in my practice, I haven´t had the opportunity to meet with groups
> like this...where there is much aggressiveness and the bonds of trust are
> very damaged...****
>  I would like to learn from your experience. and know what warning should
> I take?****
>   ****
>  *Some Context:*****
>  My client told me that there are very opposing groups. And in their
> regular meetings (not in open space) there are people who start to scream
> and insult boycotting all the meeting and not allowing the dialogue... If
> happen a situation like that, at the beginning of the circle, which do you
> recommend to do?****
>   ****
>  In addition to breathe, breathe and hold space... "confidence in people
> and in the process"****
>  In imagie that facing that hypothetical situation... It would be correct
> to give them the space of listening, and then tell them that they can leave
> if they are not comfortable there... Although it would be very important to
> stay to make their contribution...****
>  And then continue with those who want to follow...****
>   ****
>  What do you think about that? Which is your experience in similar cases?
> ****
>   ****
>  Grateful for your comments!****
>  Warm greetings from the Argentine winter.****
>   ****
>  Cecilia****
>   ****
>  *Mobile: 00 54 9 341 6657790*****
>  *skype: cecisoriano*****
>  *www.conversacionesparatodos.com *****
>
>
>
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