[OSList] How do we manage time in an evening+morning shortish OS? (II part of:: How do we invite key and high conflicted people?)

[Lisa Heft]

Hi, Eleder -

What Kári mentions echoes some of my concerns. If the community is so  
conflicted - would it possibly be better for them to have a (or a  
series of) chance(s) to get together not for the outcome objective of  
doing actions but - and again - because there are relationships to  
form and build perhaps as they understand each other across  
differences) - simply explore something they all care about (not  
having to agree on it) and have those conversations and connections be  
the sole objective for this meeting?

You do say 'high' conflict. Why not help them develop the muscles of  
naming and walking towards and walking away and back into  
conversations that matter - as part of the conflict transformation  
process?

And: in order to decide whether action is a necessary part of a  
facilitation design, I always explore with the client - is it action  
they all need? or is it the client's wish that they would do action?  
Are they better served by the dialogue itself? Is everyone capable  
of / free to / supported to / resourced to actually define and do  
actions if they name them? Is this the time for action or can this be  
a part of a chain of opportunities and meetings that build  
interconnection and future behavior change?

...and so on.

All these things are going through my head...hugs and all...

Lisa


On Oct 27, 2012, at 5:14 PM, Kári Gunnarsson wrote:

> Hi Eleder
>
> Big hug back from windy Iceland. I am doing much better and thinking
> about starting a Stammtisch on Open Space every other month here in
> Reykjavík when I find a good place to sit around at for a Monday after
> noon.
>
> About my question, I am still thinking abut the drive for action for
> your group. I have not spoken with the group, but in my mind I see my
> self with several emerging actions, and only having time to post one
> of them in the single action slot, needing so much more time to have
> proper dialog before I would be ready to act with such a broad theme.
> I could also priorities my emerging actions based on the grater need
> if there is a clear introduced need for actions from this time-point.
>
> Kári