[OSList] Peggy plus OST Linkedin Comment

[Pernilla Luttropp]

I have a tendency to get stuck in polarisations, and it is seldom a
productive way forward - if that¹s the way I want to go.
I enjoy reading your reflections on if Open Space Technology is imprisoned
or not and I¹ll try to keep my awareness on not ending up in good/bad,
prison/freedom, structure/chaos, right/wrong etc.

But I do think that OST rises a fundamental and existential question of
wanting to take part in a community, and contribute in any way possible, or
to walk away to another community or to solitude. It is for sure one of the
most fundamental questions in my life and it has sometimes left me in a
shaky/vague/uncertain position. Who can I turn to if I¹m in doubt of if this
community will provide the safety I need in order to explore this
existential matter? At WOSonOS I got the opportunity to try to put these
thoughts into words together with other people who shared their
vulnerability, fears and emotions with me. I¹m very grateful to those of you
who shared this with me. At some other sessions I didn¹t feel that safety or
openness of exploring the questions I raised at that very moment, so I used
my two feet. I later found out that  someone else (thank you Tova) took my
chair and the conversation went on - whenever it starts is the right time.
To me that is the strength of a working community, it¹s not about me and my
needs (it¹s a starting point but not the goal). It¹s about what I bring and
how it is received. To me it¹s about the latin word communicare, to share
and make common. It takes a lot of courage to take a step in to the circle,
at least for me. And it takes a lot of awareness from the community  in
order to stay open to change and soft voices.

Since I left London I¹ve facilitated two Open Spaces, both came out of
politicians need to talk about democracy. They were very different but they
made me notice how hard it can be for some people to leave a circle (or the
event), how hard it can be to be left by others and the courage to stay and
stick to your needs, even if you are only half aware of what they are. It
makes me humble and a bit scared of what I put people through. And being the
person I am, I¹m interested in what makes people stay and leave in order to
talk about the community. Not just to say that it¹s the law.

To create a community were we try to invite these feelings, thoughts and
actions (and everything in between) and at the same time try to put it in to
some kind of organized form, is not an easy task. I don¹t have the answer on
how to do that, and I think there are many answers, but as long as I can
raise questions and someone answers, I¹m happy to be part of this circle and
community.

>From a rainy Stockholm in Sweden
Pernilla Luttropp



Den 2012-10-21 12.22, skrev "Koos de Heer" <koos at auryn.nl>:

> Hi Chris, 
> 
> I am not sure I understand what you mean when you say that the law of two feet
> applies. If it means as much as "This is Open Space, love it or leave it," I
> feel compelled to say that I don't support that.
> 
> Of course I can walk out of a session if I am feeling that I am neither
> learning nor contributing. But if I have the idea that the Open Space
> gathering as a whole could use improvements in the way it is run, referring to
> the law of two feet can become a way to evade a discussion that needs to take
> place. It can take place at a later date, which is what is happening now and
> that is fine. 
> 
> Koos
> 
> 
> Op 20 okt. 2012 om 21:23 heeft Chris Corrigan <chris.corrigan at gmail.com> het
> volgende geschreven:
> 
>> The critique in the article is fine. And the subsequent link Phelim sent
>> along is fine too. Paul's tone is a bit jarring and his argument isn't helped
>> by making a lot of generalized statements. Also he critiques WOSonOS in a way
>> that makes it hard to separate his critique if the event from a critique of
>> the team, even though he later clarifies that he wasn't critiquing the
>> facilitator. It's tricky to make a forceful and powerful critique without it
>> seeming personal.
>> 
>> My response to these posts is that Paul is right in substance. In general my
>> take in things is that the Law of Two Feet applies. If you are not learning
>> or contributing find some way or some where that you can. That's what makes
>> things better. Obviously expecting others to change the way the way a process
>> seems too dependant on them is rational madness.
>> 
>> Chris

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