[OSList] Open Space for Non-Violent Communications

[Allison & Jim Baensch]

Hi Raffi and all,

I'm not sure how pure the Open Space was for the NVC training I spoke of, but it sounded pretty satisfying and open to me, as far as I heard.

My thanking of heaven for the "not-quite-peaceful' etc was because I can find unadulterated positivity and perfect peace a little irksome.
I am pleased enough to think it is a genetic aberration in me, though I know of others with a similar tendency.
And I don't regret this in any of us.

For one thing, I rarely know whether something is positive, peaceful etc until  well after it has happened.
An example:
At the start of May, I discovered I have big-time cancer.
All the medical stuff I thought I'd hate (like tests, chemo and radiotherapy and surgery) were just fine and left me feeling quite bonny.
My relationship with my husband Jim (which was fine before my diagnosis) is now flourishing.
Yet a simple removal of a drain tube, that I was quite looking forward to, so I could leave hospital, traumatised and literally nearly killed me.

How is it possible to tell what is "good" and what is "bad"? 
Besides, I don't want to limit my life to thinking the "right" type of thoughts - that might make me too guarded.
That demonstrates one of my dogmatic moments.
I do like to be respectful of myself and other folks, critters and so on.
And sometimes I catch myself being careless and try to notice and attend to that. 

This explains sort of what I meant by my thanking of heaven for feelings and actions that sometimes rumple the space we are in.
It was a relief to see you say that you can be a "wee bit dogmatic" because I have admired your writing and wise thoughts on the list.
I am pleased you too are capable of a bit of space rumpling in one way or another.

And hope that answers your question a bit.

Cheerio from a late (for me) warm evening in the Yarra Valley in SE Oz.
Allison.


On 06/11/2011, at 1:33 AM, Raffi Aftandelian wrote:

> 
> allison-jan and all greetings--
> thanks for your reply.
> 
> speaking as a purist (being a wee bit dogmatic?)- if that weeklong NVC training was anything like the International Intensives I've heard about, i think things are tweaked a bit so it isn't fully open space. Sure, it's close to the real thing...but... : )
> 
> and allison-jan, please say more about 
> >>I say thank heaven for those who are "not-quite-peaceful and a wee bit dogmatic in the open space community" and every other community.
> 
> greetings from a cold, seattle-esque san diego (time to rename the city San Seattle??),
> raffi
> __________________________
> Hi Raffi and All,
> 
> Sorry for earlier hitting the wrong button and sending a blank reply!
> 
> What I intended to say was that a friend told me she attended a week-long Non Violent Communication training that was fully conducted in Open Space.
> It was held near Melbourne, in Oz, and she found it to be most inspiring both as far as NVC was concerned and as an introduction, for her, to OST.
> 
> She is now right behind my hope of bringing Open Space to the organisation of Ortho-Bionomy, the gentle bodywork we both practise.
> I think both Open Space and Ortho-Bionomy have great similarities.
> 
> On your last point, Raffi...
> I say thank heaven for those who are "not-quite-peaceful and a wee bit dogmatic in the open space community" and every other
>  community.
> 
> Cheerio from a really sunny and warm day in Healesville, SE Australia,
> Allison.
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