(PRESENCE): Response to--> " Showing up & being present"

Erich Kolenaty e.kolenaty at aon.at
Mon Oct 9 05:44:17 PDT 2006


(PRESENCE):  Response to--> " Showing up & being present"Mark,
this really is a gift, thank you so much. It clears up a lot what "presence" 
could mean  in an Open Space.

Erich from lovely Vienna
  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Mark R. Jones
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  Sent: Saturday, October 07, 2006 5:42 PM
  Subject: [OSLIST] (PRESENCE): Response to--> " Showing up & being present"


  Hi.

  I am fascinated that "Presence" is showing up here
  in the Open Space community.

  The topic of "Presence" is noticeably a current and
  relevant subject.  I have had a number of Dharma
  conversations about it in the past six weeks - particularly
  regarding the relationship of "Presence" to the feeling and/
  or experience of "love".

  I hope you don't mind if I share with you the pith of
  my understanding of "Presence" . . .

  ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

  In the Spring of 2001, I had the opportunity to
  meet with the Dalai Lama in India.  I had myself
  noticed, and heard from other people, that when
  they were in the "Presence" of the Dalai Lama,
  they felt unconditionally loved - truly heard,
  seen, and loved.  There was a transformative
  quality of the "Presence" of the Dalai Lama.

  So as part of an assignment that I received from
  him, I determined that I must investigate the
  cultivation of "Presence".

  My exploration of "Presence" led me to the
  following insights ---

  "Presence" is the practice of giving the "Gift"
  of ones awareness, attention, understanding,
  mindfulness, and compassion to one-Self, Others,
  and The Whole.

  To be "Present" is to hear, see, and love
  oneself; as well as to hear, see, and love
  Others and The Whole.

  "Presence" is the intention, invitation, and
  willingness to be available for the experience
  of interconnected relationship.  And it demands
  that we be aware of and responsive to both
  ourselves and to others.

  "Presence" establishes a sense of interconnectedness
  of Self, Others, and The Whole that expresses itself
  as a capacity to trust, the courage to act, and a
  willingness to commit.

  "Presence" is an act of "attunement" that brings one
  into clarity and harmony with what one perceives as
  the higher aspirations, expectations, and needs of
  Self, Others, and The Whole.

  "Presence" is accomplished by: reflecting on ones
  own views, intentions, communications, behaviors,
  and impacts on Others and The Whole; discerning
  and rectifying the "gap" between ones intentions
  and ones impacts; paying attention to the verbal
  and non-verbal communications signals and behaviors
  of Others and The Whole; inquiring into the "gap"
  between the intentions and impacts of Others and
  The Whole - on one Self, Others, and The Whole;
  and using skillful means to achieve clarity and
  equanimity throughout the network of interrelationships.

  In Open Space, the skillful means to achieve this
  clarity and equanimity is accomplished from trust,
  patience, silence, and embodying and continually
  demonstrating "The Law" - taking responsibility for
  what has heart and meaning for you - and holding
  others accountable to do the same.

  In my life, I have felt most loved when I have
  experienced others as being fully "Present" to
  me - unconditionally giving me the "Gift" of
  their awareness, attention, understanding,
  mindfulness, and compassion.  And I have felt
  most loving when I have chosen to give the
  "Gift" of my awareness, attention, understanding,
  mindfulness, and compassion to others.

  When I am most "Present", I am most loving.
  When you are most "Present" to me, I feel most
  loved by you.

  Living in Open Space provides a constant
  opportunity for me to cultivate "Presence"
  as an authentic expression of my love for you.

  "Presence" invokes the opening of space regardless
  of the forms and structures of the interactions - be
  they OST, AI, mediated, moderated, "talking heads",
  pillow talk, Noble Silence . . .

  For me, "Presence" is the practice of Open Space, and
  it is a "Practice of Peace" - collective unconditional love
  and understanding and interconnection.

  "Open Space" can be a practice for cultivating "Presence".
   . . . if we choose to embody it . . .




  Mark R. Jones
  Chief Executive Officer
  The Sunyata Group
  The Integral Wellness Group
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  PO Box 58788
  Renton, Washington
  USA 98058-1788
  Phone:      425-413-6000
  e-Mail:      mark.r.jones at sunyata.ws
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  From: "JL Walker B." <jlwalker at terra.cl>
  Reply-To: OSLIST <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
  Date: Sat, 7 Oct 2006 01:45:05 -0700
  To: <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
  Subject: Re: Showing up & being present

  My two cents on this lovely theme.

  I think this presence has too much sense with what tell us Carl Rogers a 
lot of time ago: authenticity (congruence); empathy and unconditional 
acceptance.

  Also about what Jaime Pedreros and his passion with the Transactional 
Analysis could explain us much better,  that is the "adult of the child" or 
"the small wise person" or the "small teacher" that knows all what's 
happening with his intuition and joy.

  Good weekend for all,
  Johnnie Walker

  -----Mensaje original-----
  De: OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]En nombre de Joanna 
Fletcher
  Enviado el: Friday, October 06, 2006 6:01 PM
  Para: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
  Asunto: Re: Showing up & being present





    This is a concept familiar to me from my  coactive coach training - we 
call it "level 3 listening". It is about  listening to what is going on in 
the space of a relationship, group etc.,  under the surface words and 
emotions, and noticing our own impact on it. Being  present and showing up 
is often challenging because I so easily get on my own  way - messages about 
appropriateness, "shoulds", are loudest and most  distracting.



    In our training sessions there are always  assistants present who have 
themselves been through the course. They have an  executive function, to get 
coffee and water and tissues etc., but their main  job is to "hold the 
 space". They are attending to the space and holding it as  a powerful and 
safe learning area. They are holding all the people in the  space as 
creative, resourceful, and whole. If they leave the room, I notice  the 
impact of their absence immediately. When I am holding space for others, I 
find it requires a very high level of attention and presence - a muscle I 
continue to develop, as a coach, instructor, and  OSer.



    My impact is something I am still  figuring out, but I am sure that it 
has something to do with the way I love  and accept myself, warts and 
weirdness and all. Somehow my blurting out of  unsuitable things gives 
others more confidence to do the same. I can also  bring intentionality to 
the impact I am having. Sorry for the rambling - I am  thrilled to see this 
being discussed here!





    Joanna  Fletcher


    Lion Life  Coaching


    jo at lionlifecoaching.com


    604-340-1855


    www.lionlifecoaching.com









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    From:  OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] On Behalf Of Funda 
Oral
    Sent: October 6, 2006 3:59 PM
    To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
    Subject: Re: FW: Showing up & being  present





    This  kind of presence provides people & myself with some kind of 
comfort and liberty to breathe and to  flow.



    funda






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      From: Jack Ricchiuto <mailto:jack at designinglife.com>



      To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU



      Sent: Friday, October 06, 2006 6:12  PM



      Subject: Re: FW: Showing up & being  present





      Harrison  writes,










        There is yet another level which I might call "Silent Presence." 
Somehow
        this goes beyond, beneath Intellect  and/or emotions. The power of 
this level
        of  presence in terms of grounding/supporting a group is profound, I 
have
        found. Don't ask me how it works, but it  does.





  In my experience, the silence we bring creates space for  consciousness 
which itself is transformative because it expands everyone  into a larger 
space where more is possible. So that explains why my whole  life outside OS 
events is cultivating this consciousness, this silence, this  Presence.


  -- 
  Jack Ricchiuto
  Leadership coach,  facilitator, author

  Just Released! "Mountain Paths: A Guide on the  Journey toward Discovering 
our Potential" - available at www.DesigningLife.com 
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