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<DIV><FONT face=Arial color=#800080 size=2>Mark,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial color=#800080 size=2>this really is a gift, thank you so
much. It clears up a lot what "presence" could mean in an Open
Space.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial color=#800080 size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial color=#800080 size=2>Erich from lovely Vienna</FONT></DIV>
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<A title=mark.r.jones@sunyata.ws href="mailto:mark.r.jones@sunyata.ws">Mark R.
Jones</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Saturday, October 07, 2006 5:42
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> [OSLIST] (PRESENCE): Response
to--> " Showing up & being present"</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px">Hi.<BR><BR>I am fascinated that "Presence" is showing
up here<BR>in the Open Space community.<BR><BR>The topic of "Presence" is
noticeably a current and<BR>relevant subject. I have had a number of
Dharma<BR>conversations about it in the past six weeks —
particularly<BR>regarding the relationship of "Presence" to the feeling
and/<BR>or experience of "love".<BR><BR>I hope you don't mind if I share with
you the pith of <BR>my understanding of "Presence" . .
.<BR><BR>++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++<BR><BR>In the Spring of 2001, I
had the opportunity to <BR>meet with the Dalai Lama in India. I had
myself <BR>noticed, and heard from other people, that when <BR>they were in
the “Presence” of the Dalai Lama, <BR>they felt unconditionally loved — truly
heard, <BR>seen, and loved. There was a transformative <BR>quality of
the “Presence” of the Dalai Lama. <BR><BR>So as part of an assignment that I
received from <BR>him, I determined that I must investigate the
<BR>cultivation of “Presence”.<BR> <BR>My exploration of “Presence” led
me to the <BR>following insights ———<BR> <BR>“Presence” is the practice
of giving the “Gift” <BR>of ones awareness, attention, understanding,
<BR>mindfulness, and compassion to one-Self, Others, <BR>and The
Whole.<BR> <BR>To be “Present” is to hear, see, and love <BR>oneself; as
well as to hear, see, and love <BR>Others and The
Whole.<BR> <BR>“Presence” is the intention, invitation, and
<BR>willingness to be available for the experience <BR>of interconnected
relationship. And it demands <BR>that we be aware of and responsive to
both <BR>ourselves and to others.<BR> <BR>“Presence” establishes a sense
of interconnectedness <BR>of Self, Others, and The Whole that expresses itself
<BR>as a capacity to trust, the courage to act, and a <BR>willingness to
commit.<BR> <BR>“Presence” is an act of "attunement" that brings one
<BR>into clarity and harmony with what one perceives as <BR>the higher
aspirations, expectations, and needs of <BR>Self, Others, and The Whole.
<BR> <BR>“Presence” is accomplished by: reflecting on ones <BR>own views,
intentions, communications, behaviors, <BR>and impacts on Others and The
Whole; discerning <BR>and rectifying the "gap" between ones intentions <BR>and
ones impacts; paying attention to the verbal <BR>and non-verbal communications
signals and behaviors <BR>of Others and The Whole; inquiring into the "gap"
<BR>between the intentions and impacts of Others and <BR>The Whole — on one
Self, Others, and The Whole; <BR>and using skillful means to achieve clarity
and <BR>equanimity throughout the network of interrelationships.<BR><BR>In
Open Space, the skillful means to achieve this <BR>clarity and equanimity is
accomplished from trust,<BR>patience, silence, and embodying and continually
<BR>demonstrating "The Law" — taking responsibility for <BR>what has heart and
meaning for you — and holding <BR>others accountable to do the
same.<BR> <BR>In my life, I have felt most loved when I have
<BR>experienced others as being fully “Present” to <BR>me — unconditionally
giving me the “Gift” of <BR>their awareness, attention, understanding,
<BR>mindfulness, and compassion. And I have felt <BR>most loving when I
have chosen to give the <BR>“Gift” of my awareness, attention, understanding,
<BR>mindfulness, and compassion to others. <BR> <BR>When I am most
“Present”, I am most loving. <BR>When you are most “Present” to me, I
feel most <BR>loved by you.<BR><BR>Living in Open Space provides a
constant<BR>opportunity for me to cultivate “Presence” <BR>as an authentic
expression of my love for you.<BR><BR>“Presence” invokes the opening of space
regardless<BR>of the forms and structures of the interactions — be<BR>they
OST, AI, mediated, moderated, “talking heads”,<BR>pillow talk, Noble Silence .
. .<BR><BR>For me, “Presence” is the practice of Open Space, and<BR>it is a
“Practice of Peace” — collective unconditional love<BR>and understanding and
interconnection.<BR><BR>“Open Space” can be a practice for cultivating
“Presence”.<BR> . . . if we choose to embody it . .
.<BR><BR><BR><BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=5><FONT
face="Monotype Corsiva"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18px"><B><I>Mark R.
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<B>From: </B>"JL Walker B." <jlwalker@terra.cl><BR><B>Reply-To:
</B>OSLIST <OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU><BR><B>Date: </B>Sat, 7 Oct
2006 01:45:05 -0700<BR><B>To:
</B><OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU><BR><B>Subject: </B>Re: Showing up
& being present<BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><FONT
color=#0000ff><FONT face=Arial>My two cents on this lovely
theme.<BR></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><BR></FONT><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT
face=Arial>I think this presence has too much sense with what tell us Carl
Rogers a lot of time ago: authenticity (congruence); empathy and unconditional
acceptance.<BR></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><BR></FONT><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT
face=Arial>Also about what Jaime Pedreros and his passion with the
Transactional Analysis could explain us much better, that is the "adult
of the child" or "the small wise person" or the "small teacher" that knows all
what's happening with his intuition and joy.<BR></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><BR></FONT><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT
face=Arial>Good weekend for all,<BR>Johnnie Walker<BR></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><BR></FONT><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT
face=Arial></FONT></FONT><FONT face=Tahoma>-----Mensaje
original-----<BR><B>De:</B> OSLIST [<A
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]">mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]</A><B>En
nombre de </B>Joanna Fletcher<BR><B>Enviado el:</B> Friday, October 06, 2006
6:01 PM<BR><B>Para:</B> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR><B>Asunto:</B> Re:
Showing up & being present<BR><BR></FONT></SPAN>
<BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><BR> <BR><BR></FONT></SPAN><FONT
color=#000080><FONT size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">This is a concept familiar to me from my
coactive coach training – we call it “level 3 listening”. It is about
listening to what is going on in the space of a relationship, group
etc., under the surface words and emotions, and noticing our own
impact on it. Being present and showing up is often challenging
because I so easily get on my own way – messages about
appropriateness, “shoulds”, are loudest and most
distracting.<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">In our training
sessions there are always assistants present who have themselves been
through the course. They have an executive function, to get coffee and
water and tissues etc., but their main job is to “hold the space”.
They are attending to the space and holding it as a powerful and safe
learning area. They are holding all the people in the space as
creative, resourceful, and whole. If they leave the room, I notice the
impact of their absence immediately. When I am holding space for others, I
find it requires a very high level of attention and presence – a
muscle I continue to develop, as a coach, instructor, and
OSer.<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">My impact is something
I am still figuring out, but I am sure that it has something to do
with the way I love and accept myself, warts and weirdness and all.
Somehow my blurting out of unsuitable things gives others more
confidence to do the same. I can also bring intentionality to the
impact I am having. Sorry for the rambling - I am thrilled to see this
being discussed here!<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=5><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16px">Joanna
Fletcher<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14px">Lion Life
Coaching<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 14px">jo@lionlifecoaching.com<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 14px">604-340-1855<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 14px">www.lionlifecoaching.com<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT color=#000080><FONT
size=4><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT
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<P><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR><BR></SPAN><FONT size=4><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><B>From:</B> OSLIST [<A
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]">mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]</A>
<B>On Behalf Of </B>Funda Oral<BR><B>Sent:</B> October 6, 2006 3:59
PM<BR><B>To:</B> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR><B>Subject:</B> Re: FW:
Showing up & being present<BR></SPAN></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=5><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">This kind of presence
provides people & myself with some kind of comfort and liberty to
breathe and to flow.<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">funda<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT>
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style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px">----- Original Message -----
<BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><B>From:</B></SPAN></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"> Jack
Ricchiuto <A
href="mailto:jack@designinglife.com"><mailto:jack@designinglife.com></A>
<BR></FONT></SPAN></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><B>To:</B></SPAN></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial">
OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU <BR></FONT></SPAN></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><B>Sent:</B></SPAN></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"> Friday,
October 06, 2006 6:12 PM<BR></FONT></SPAN></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=4><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><B>Subject:</B></SPAN></FONT><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 13px"><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"> Re: FW:
Showing up & being present<BR></FONT></SPAN></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=5><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16px"><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=5><FONT
face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 16px">Harrison</SPAN></FONT></FONT><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 12px">
writes,<BR> <BR> <BR></SPAN></FONT>
<BLOCKQUOTE><FONT face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR><BR></SPAN><FONT
size=5><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16px"><BR>There is yet another level
which I might call "Silent Presence." Somehow <BR>this goes
beyond, beneath Intellect and/or emotions. The power of this
level<BR>of presence in terms of grounding/supporting a group is
profound, I have<BR>found. Don't ask me how it works, but it
does.<BR><BR><BR></SPAN></FONT></FONT></BLOCKQUOTE></BLOCKQUOTE></BLOCKQUOTE><FONT
face="Verdana, Helvetica, Arial"><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><BR></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=5><FONT face=Arial><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 16px"><BR>In my experience, the silence we bring creates
space for consciousness which itself is transformative because it
expands everyone into a larger space where more is possible. So that
explains why my whole life outside OS events is cultivating this
consciousness, this silence, this Presence. <BR><BR><BR>-- <BR>Jack
Ricchiuto<BR>Leadership coach, facilitator, author<BR><BR>Just Released!
"Mountain Paths: A Guide on the Journey toward Discovering our
Potential" - available at www.DesigningLife.com <A
href="http://www.DesigningLife.com"><http://www.DesigningLife.com></A>
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