Fear of freedom

Sun Nov 5 02:07:09 PST 2006

Re: Fear of freedom"Truth is, I had to give up "control" as facilitator and accepted that the organization has been the lady's dream for ten years and that she will have to impact upon the founding more than a wide open space would have allowed her to. Once she knows that she is truly in the process of fulfilling something close to her dream, she may be able to let go more. Strange contradiction. "

or she might realize that an organization can be set up and it's not the organization that she dreamed of.

an organization would not start at all....but everybody gets convinced that that's the best thing to happen.

open space means also opening space to any result : any action, any thoughts....it doesn't have to be the result that we dreamed.

"Reminds me of our need, in Israel, for security measures now, if we are ever to move toward a time when we won't need them. However, just as too much "security" costs lives and creates cycles of defensiveness and aggressiveness, my client's re-assertion of control or influence could cost the project its aliveness and lead to withdrawal of some of the people's energy that was born during the first open space, when everything seemed possible. "

yes..i agree, i understand

"At any rate, as someone once said, "It's easier to ride a horse in the direction it's going.." 

wonderful!..at least for a while....

"My job seems to be more "holding" the space of openness as elegantly as possible, such that we won't kill the passion. 

Thanks for your response. Yoav "

i thank you for taking time to write.....and wish all the best, Funda

  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Yoav Peck 
  To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU 
  Sent: Friday, November 03, 2006 8:20 PM
  Subject: Re: Fear of freedom

  Funda, 

  Well, with Kerry's response and a good consultation with Avner Haramati, I met the lady Thursday and "went with her" to the extent that we re-established our partnership and we're moving forward. As Kerry suggested, we will call the Steering committee together to address her plans and to lay the foundation for the organization they/she aspire to. Hopefully, she will allow people to self-express and make a difference there. And then, later, we will open space to the wider community in order to enable people's creativity and commitment to lift the group into implementation. 

  Truth is, I had to give up "control" as facilitator and accepted that the organization has been the lady's dream for ten years and that she will have to impact upon the founding more than a wide open space would have allowed her to. Once she knows that she is truly in the process of fulfilling something close to her dream, she may be able to let go more. Strange contradiction. 

  Reminds me of our need, in Israel, for security measures now, if we are ever to move toward a time when we won't need them. However, just as too much "security" costs lives and creates cycles of defensiveness and aggressiveness, my client's re-assertion of control or influence could cost the project its aliveness and lead to withdrawal of some of the people's energy that was born during the first open space, when everything seemed possible. 

  At any rate, as someone once said, "It's easier to ride a horse in the direction it's going.." 

  My job seems to be more "holding" the space of openness as elegantly as possible, such that we won't kill the passion. 

  Thanks for your response. Yoav 

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  From: OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] On Behalf Of Funda Oral
  Sent: Friday, November 03, 2006 10:54 PM
  To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
  Subject: Re: Fear of freedom

  Dear Yoav,

  What i do more and more now is to respect and listen carefully everybody's opinion, suggestion and fear.

  I don't judge or fight with it.

  If they/ he /she are/is afraid......there must be a good reason for this.

  It's more important to respect and deal with this fear (even if you don't solve it) than to open space.

  I agree that it's a good idea to take yourself out of the relation between this lady and the committee. 

  I also suggest you to show her you really listen to her suggestion and deal with her fear and unsecurity.

  Her letting go of control and opening space are the best ways to start a new and healthy organization where

  everbody would willingly take part...

  Tell her ...this might seem a long and undirect way...but much more healthy and secure for an organization to start

  I wish she sees this and enjoys the ost process.

  let us know what happens.

  good luck

  funda   

    ----- Original Message ----- 

    From: Yoav Peck 

    To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU 

    Sent: Monday, October 30, 2006 3:12 PM

    Subject: Re: Fear of freedom

    Kerry, 

    Thanks for your response. Yes, I have to get myself out of the way here, and letting the Committee decide what to do with the madam's plan and to have her experience a limited-audience re-thinking of her assumptions makes sense. The "document" to be produced by the steering committee might be the way to acknowledge her idea while contextualizing it in what might still be an open-ish process for the large group. Whether it can be a true open space will depend on her willingness to have her plan become an idea rather than the idea for how to move forward. 

    We spent a glorious week in the highlands last summer. What a great country to live in! 

    Thanks again. Yoav

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    From: OSLIST [mailto:OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] On Behalf Of kerry napuk
    Sent: Tuesday, October 31, 2006 1:27 PM
    To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
    Subject: Re: Fear of freedom

    Dear Yoav

    Ah, the insecurity of management!

    How about distributing her plan to the Steering Committee and asking the Committee to deal with it during a half day event?  She will then experience her plan's acceptability to the core group wanting to move the project forward.  Let them deal with it while you step aside. 

    Once the Steering Committee completes it's work, they can distribute their agreed document to all  participants before reconvening an OST event for the 60 people and anyone else interested.  The emphasis of this second event would be to agree the way forward and create action plans to make it happen.

    Good luck.

    Regards

    Kerry Napuk

    Edinburgh

    www.openfutures.com

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