my work of tonight
Ted Ernst
ted at chicagohumanist.org
Tue Mar 21 19:51:03 PST 2006
I think I've written a bit here before about holding space for a
Tantra community. Tonight was the 3rd such meeting and the principal
didn't want to use open space again. I learned this less than 5
minutes before the scheduled opening time. I've very conflicted
inside. I've written a long account of the evening on my blog for
anyone that cares to delve deeper: http://tedernst.com/wp/?p=377
Maybe a more general question to ask would be "What do you do when the
sponsor wants to back out at the last minute?"
peace,
ted
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>From Tue Mar 21 20:46:45 2006
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Hello, all -
Ann said:
Would be happy to collaborate or carry Lisa Hefts' bags...
It's all those hats and tiaras and such that make them so heavy.
.or do you mean the bags under my eyes.?
Oh. Either way, I could use the help ;o)
..or should I say ;:o)
Lisa
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Ah, Ted...
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Ted wrote:
<I think I've written a bit here before about holding space for a
Tantra community. Tonight was the 3rd such meeting and the principal
didn't want to use open space again. I learned this less than 5
minutes before the scheduled opening time. I've very conflicted
inside. I've written a long account of the evening on my blog for
anyone that cares to delve deeper: http://tedernst.com/wp/?p=3D377=20
Maybe a more general question to ask would be "What do you do when the
sponsor wants to back out at the last minute?">
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=20
Sounds like a breathing lesson...
=20
I feel it might have been respectful for the woman to let you know about =
the
change in approach with more time in advance. But I'm not clear on the
culture of the group - maybe it felt to her / the group usually works =
more
casually or spontaneously than that as a rule.
I suppose you could look at it as a control thing....or as someone =
coming
forward to name what holds passion for them (which is not something you =
have
passion for).
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It certainly shifted your role from space-holder to participant, and it
sounds like you kept testing the temperature to see if you felt =
connected
but tried to stay present with your real feelings of not feeling quite
connected.
=20
Great learning for you and for the group. I wonder how everyone felt
afterwards, reflecting on the various approaches to meetings? I wonder =
if it
matters that all are done in Open Space? I wonder if this body work was
something others were yearning for?
=20
It sounds like it might be useful to engage the conversation in advance =
of
the next meeting as to approaches, design, roles and so on...
=20
Oh. Hmmm. To answer your question above: I would say that if it =
happened
to me I would offer to this person what might happen, what might not =
happen,
perhaps ask the group in the beginning (but quickly so in such a short
meeting the time could be spent on whatever is the approach decided =
upon) -
and/or=20
=20
just
let
go
=20
=20
.and if it is a group I want to participate in, decide if I need to =
continue
in the group or not - if it is serving my needs.
=20
Lisa
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<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
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<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><font size=3D2 =
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt'><<i><span style=3D'font-style:italic'>I =
think I've
written a bit here before about holding space for =
a</span></i></span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>Tantra
community. Tonight was the 3rd such meeting and the =
principal</span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>didn't
want to use open space again. I learned this less than =
5</span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>minutes
before the scheduled opening time. I've very =
conflicted</span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>inside.
I've written a long account of the evening on my blog =
for</span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>anyone
that cares to delve deeper: <a =
href=3D"http://tedernst.com/wp/?p=3D377">http://tedernst.com/wp/?p=3D377<=
/a>
</span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D2
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-style:italic'>Maybe a
more general question to ask would be "What do you do when the =
sponsor
wants to back out at the last minute?"></span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>Sounds like a breathing lesson...</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>I feel it might have been respectful for the woman to let you =
know
about the change in approach with more time in advance. But I'm =
not clear
on the culture of the group - maybe it felt to her / the group usually =
works
more casually or spontaneously than that as a rule.</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'><br>
I suppose you could look at it as a control thing....or as someone =
coming forward
to name what holds passion for them (which is not something you have =
passion
for).</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>It certainly shifted your role from space-holder to participant, =
and it
sounds like you kept testing the temperature to see if you felt =
connected but
tried to stay present with your real feelings of not feeling quite =
connected.</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>Great learning for you and for the group. I wonder how =
everyone
felt afterwards, reflecting on the various approaches to meetings? I =
wonder if
it matters that all are done in Open Space? I wonder if this body =
work
was something others were yearning for?</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>It sounds like it might be useful to engage the conversation in =
advance
of the next meeting as to approaches, design, roles and so =
on...</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>Oh. Hmmm. To answer your question above: I would say =
that
if it happened to me I would offer to this person what might happen, =
what might
not happen, perhaps ask the group in the beginning (but quickly so in =
such a
short meeting the time could be spent on whatever is the approach =
decided upon)
– and/or </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>just</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>  =
; let</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt'>  =
; =
go</span></font></p>
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<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
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<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
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<p class=3DMsoPlainText><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
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>From Tue Mar 21 21:04:58 2006
Message-Id: <TUE.21.MAR.2006.210458.0800.>
Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2006 21:04:58 -0800
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To: OSLIST <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
From: Lisa Heft <lisaheft at openingspace.net>
Subject: Re: Conflict in community
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Hi, brother Chris -
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Chris wrote:
<So my question goes to people who have worked in this situation, with
groups that are highly wedded to positions. What are the kinds of
invitations that allow for "airing," generated shared understanding, and
perhaps lead to transformative relationships? >
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One of the best themes I've seen a core planning group come up with in =
an
incredibly high-conflict situation - where people couldn't even breathe =
they
were in a place of such pain, fear and anger - was:
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"Getting Unstuck"
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In the opening I presented it as not a time for solutions, but an =
airing.
Getting more air around it all.
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So that's different than everybody understanding each other exactly, and
certainly different than people changing each other. But it's certainly =
an
opportunity for naming things, for deep listening, for witnessing.
Of course a single event doesn't shift behavior, so much work was done =
by
that group post-Open Space event - they learned communication tools,
adjusted the way they held meetings, kept meeting and so on.
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Lisa
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O p e n i n g S p a c e
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MS"><span
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Hi, =
brother
Chris –</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dblack face=3D"Trebuchet =
MS"><span
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet =
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<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dblack face=3D"Trebuchet =
MS"><span
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<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.25in'><i><font size=3D3
face=3D"Times New Roman"><span =
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt;font-style:italic'><So
my question goes to people who have worked in this situation, with =
groups that
are highly wedded to positions. What are the kinds of invitations =
that
allow for "airing," generated shared understanding, and =
perhaps lead
to transformative relationships? ></span></font></i></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D3 face=3D"Times New Roman"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
12.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>One of the best themes I’ve =
seen a
core planning group come up with in an incredibly high-conflict =
situation –
where people couldn’t even breathe they were in a place of such =
pain,
fear and anger – was:</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'text-indent:.5in'><font size=3D2 =
face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>“Getting =
Unstuck”</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>In the opening I presented it as not =
a time
for solutions, but an airing. Getting more air around it =
all.</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>So that’s different than =
everybody
understanding each other exactly, and certainly different than people =
changing
each other. But it’s certainly an opportunity for naming =
things,
for deep listening, for witnessing…<br>
<br>
</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Of course a single event =
doesn’t shift
behavior, so much work was done by that group post-Open Space event =
–
they learned communication tools, adjusted the way they held meetings, =
kept
meeting and so on…</span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 face=3D"Trebuchet MS"><span =
style=3D'font-size:
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MS"><span
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i s a H e f t</span></font></b></p>
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