Learning to expand our NOW

[Spady's]

Masud,
Sorry for the delay in my response.  I am responding to your question below
because I want to apologize to you and to the list (in case others did not
understand as well) for using a description that is obviously not universal.
"Baited response" refers to a situation where the person asking the question
is hoping (consciously or subconsciously) to get some sort of response/rise
out of the person whom which they are communicating.

My interpretation of your frustration with Therese's lack of respons (even
though it was only a day), is that you were anticipating some response from
her in the first place.  Maybe I'm wrong and I'm sorry if this offended you
in some manner.

>From my feedback I would hope that you would step back and re-think your
judgements and how you responded to this situation and learn something from
it.  As someone else pointed out, it starts with you...

Best wishes,
Judy
----- Original Message -----
From: "Masud Sheikh" <masheikh at COGECO.CA>
To: <OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
Sent: Friday, April 22, 2005 5:47 PM
Subject: Re: Learning to expand our NOW


> Hi Judy,
> You correctly pointed out that I tend to be judgmental. But I did not
> understand what you meant by "you were obviously waiting for a baited
> response from her". To start off, I do not understand what is a "baited
> response".
>
> But Judy, my request was for help - and it was genuine. What would you
> would like me to learn from your feedback?
> Masud
>
> <ejespady at mydurango.net> wrote:
>
>>Okay, I have to pipe in a bit on this one...
>>
>>Masud, I find it extremely ironic that the posting you made to Therese
> implies that she was being judgmental and then in this post you instantly
> jump to conclusions and "judge" her...hmmmm...  IMHO you cannot factually
> conclude that her lack of response was some sort of avoidance on the
> issue.  As Lisa has pointed out, there could be a zillion reasons why she
> didn't respond within a day (hardly enough time to even make a
> conclusion)...I think you read way too much into this as you were
> obviously waiting for a baited response from her.
>>
>>Just my 2 cents worth...
>>
>>Judy Spady
>>  ----- Original Message -----
>>  From: Masud Sheikh
>>  To: OSLIST at LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
>>  Sent: Friday, April 22, 2005 9:28 AM
>>  Subject: Learning to expand our NOW
>>
>>
>>  Dear all,
>>
>>  In the interest of expanding my "NOW", I request a favour/favor (being
> Canadian, I can use both spellings):
>>
>>  Yesterday, I had a conflict with Therese Fitzpatrick, when I posted the
> following note:
>>
>>  ">Funda, such an event would not be negative...it could be wonderful
> and life affirming.
>>
>>  > And it could unleash new, positive initiatives in the world.
>>
>>  Please forgive me for reacting, Therese.
>>
>>  "Would not be negative....." - Is that not highly judgmental, Therese -
> an opinion expressed as fact?
>>
>>  Masud"
>>
>>  Therese's lack of response makes it evident that my "NOW" did not
> contain enough space for her to respond. For those of you who can have
> space for my views, as well as hers, can you please suggest an alternative
> way of posing my comment/question?
>>
>>  My best wishes
>>
>>  Masud
>>
>>  There is something called learning at a rather small level of
> organisation. At a much higher gestalt level, learning is called
> evolution - Gregory Bateson
>>
>>
>
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