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"...I have experienced that there is a very thin line between a
facilitator and a space invador."<br>
<br>
What a great observation and insight. Such a useful idea to
consider. <br>
<br>
Regarding silence at the opening, I like to wait till they all
assemble and quiet down completely before starting. They always seem
to, it's a little spooky. Because of this I often coach the Host to
refrain from calling them to order but rather, to just wait till
they become silent. <br>
<br>
<br>
Based on this conversation here about silence, next time I
facilitate, I plan to experiment with coaching the Host to wait just
a little longer, well past "the beginning" of that self-organized,
collective silence...<br>
<br>
<br>
<div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 6/21/15 6:14 AM, Michael M Pannwitz
via OSList wrote:<br>
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<blockquote cite="mid:55868E92.1060407@gmail.com" type="cite">I have
experienced that there is a very thin line between a facilitator
and a space invador. Best take on this for me is to control the
only thing that I can control (somewhat) and that is my behavior.
Of course, as facilitator, I can lavish all my control before the
event on having great food, usable markers, an elegant way to
quickly produce the documentation... and other such sturctural
matters.
<br>
<br>
The rest, it seems, is taken care of by the force of
selforganisation, much better, is my experience, than anything I
could have dreamt up. Including limiting or expanding silence.
<br>
<br>
cheers, see you in Krakow
<br>
mmp
<br>
<br>
On 21.06.2015 04:41, Harold Shinsato via OSList wrote:
<br>
<blockquote type="cite">Thanks Adriana!
<br>
<br>
It could be a wonderful cultural protocol if everyone agrees to
it. If
<br>
everyone has been invited and accepts such a protocol. Asking
for a
<br>
moment of silence can often calm things down when they're
getting too
<br>
heated, and I've been in a number of circles where such a
protocol has
<br>
been adopted and really helps. I can imagine having some bells
and
<br>
singing bowls available for session conveners to bring to their
circles
<br>
as an optional facilitation tool to invite silence when someone
in the
<br>
circle senses the need. It sounds like it could be a wonderful
helpful
<br>
tool in some communities - and I can imagine in the Peace Center
- it
<br>
might be very welcome. I plan to offer it as something to think
about to
<br>
our team.
<br>
<br>
At the post Open Space meeting yesterday where we debriefed the
event,
<br>
there was a participant who noticed that there was not enough
listening
<br>
in the circles he had attended. I had witnessed one of the
circles, and
<br>
I noticed the same thing. Not enough listening. My sense was
that if I
<br>
had really meditated enough before the event - as Harrison so
strongly
<br>
recommends - I could have helped bring more spaciousness. That's
my best
<br>
sense of what could have helped. And I also sense that this
participant
<br>
had a *lot* to offer in helping to bring an awareness of the
need for
<br>
silence. He doesn't need it to come from the facilitation team.
He can
<br>
help teach it. In any case, I'm very grateful he has been
invited to
<br>
participate in the organizing team for the event when we hold it
again
<br>
next year.
<br>
<br>
And I can also see where this need for silence can be abused.
<br>
<br>
At the World Open Space on Open Space in London in 2012 - I was
in a
<br>
circle and waiting patiently in a somewhat heated circle for
some space
<br>
to speak. I had been quiet for some time, until finally there
was the
<br>
slightest pause. The moment I opened my mouth, someone came from
another
<br>
session that I believe was entirely silent the whole time. I
think they
<br>
had only written their thoughts on paper. One of the
participants came
<br>
out of that session, burst into ours, and flashed a "QUIET" sign
a foot
<br>
in front of my face! It was so intense, I felt the need to leave
the
<br>
building just so I could calm down. I hope I never see such
behavior
<br>
again - and I certainly don't want to do anything to encourage
such
<br>
behavior of silencing people.
<br>
<br>
Harold
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
On 6/15/15 2:10 PM, Lourdes Adriana Diaz-Berrio Doring wrote:
<br>
<blockquote type="cite">Harold: In some groups where I
participated, but it was not Open Space
<br>
it was a workshop with some ritual we had a talking stick and
also a
<br>
bowl. When some one needed silence they took the bowl and the
meaning
<br>
of this is that they where asking everybody to wait in
silence...until
<br>
they let the bowl in the middle of the circle again.
<br>
I don;t Know if this is appropriated in an OS circle, in any
moment.
<br>
Some people like and appreciate silence and other people have
a very
<br>
hard time with it.
<br>
When I was teaching at university the feedback of the students
was
<br>
like this
<br>
"Teacher I just loved yous dinamics, yous should do more of
them!"
<br>
In the same group I received another feed back
<br>
Teacher I hate the dynamics, why did you do so much of it!"
<br>
Thanks for the links that Herman sheared with us!
<br>
Adriana
<br>
<br>
</blockquote>
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