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<div class="moz-cite-prefix">THANK YOU Andrea for sharing. <br>
I'm moved. About your very serious topic. About your courage to do
something. About your openness. Keep on.<br>
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And thanks to Lisa - even as an experienced "open spacer", you
made me think and reflect - what could be better?<br>
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Thanks to all of you "open spacers" around the world" Thank you
for being here.<br>
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Lise, Copenhagen<br>
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Den 23-03-2014 18:29, Lisa Heft - skrev:<br>
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Andrea -
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<div>My heart goes out to you and your community.</div>
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<div>Some first thoughts:</div>
<div>- anything involving grief and loss is best served by an
overnight in a facilitated gathering - as people often tell
their story on Day 1 and seek witness to that story, with Day 2
offering a slightly different bit of 'breathing room' opened up
by overnight reflection, 'percolation', integration of the day's
experiences. So a 2-day gathering may allow for people to feel
space, story, expansion, grief, connection and more.</div>
<div>- remember that if you are the facilitator you are holding
space for others, and you hold a certain role (in your own eyes
and in others' eyes) - so decide whether you best serve by
finding someone else to facilitate so that you can be a
participant</div>
<div>- think about documentation design - dialogue is more than
the time one was in a conversation - it is also reflection
afterwards, reading about others' conversations, sharing
knowledge across the system / community, looking back over
multiple conversations to see patterns or ideas... Open Space
events easily include people sharing responsibility for
documenting their conversations and pooling those into a
co-created Book of Proceedings that can be used post-event by
each individual in their own way as well as any group that
wishes to pore over it for ideas for future conversations or
next steps</div>
<div>- pre-work for any face-to-face gathering is so important -
take the time to find the best site you can (at least double the
size of the expected number of participants), remember how food
fuels community and thinking, share ideas for invitation and be
sure to explore what (resources, relationships, choice of time
or place) helps others actually access or feel included in an
open invitation</div>
<div>- remember this is not the only action and that one gathering
is not a solution - think about how this fits into the context
and chain of actions, gatherings, imaginings</div>
<div>- don't forget to invite young people rather than talk about
them</div>
<div>- don't feel you need to do this event so quickly you do not
have enough time and support for making it a useful, inclusive,
supported event</div>
<div>- (this should be up at the top): Take very good care of
yourself, and know that we have you and your community in our
thoughts</div>
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<div>Lisa</div>
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<div><b>Lisa Heft</b><br>
Consultant, Facilitator, Educator<br>
President Emerita, Open Space Institute US<br>
Fellow, Columbia University Center for International Conflict
Resolution<br>
<b>Opening Space</b></div>
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<div>On Mar 23, 2014, at 9:59 AM, Andrea Chiou <<a
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-webkit-line-break: after-white-space;">Hi all - first
time posting here, though I’ve been reading from this list
for probably 1/2 year or more.
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<div>I’m happy that I can have confidence with the support
of this group - as I have seen, as recently as today,
all the support that is so freely and lovingly given -
especially to slightly jittery new facilitators...</div>
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<div>The context for this email is:</div>
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<div>My son’s high school here in Fairfax County VA, has
been experiencing a high number of suicides - six in the
past 2 years, two in one week alone in February. There
have also been others at nearby schools. Recently, the
school sponsored a large gathering of administrators and
specialists inviting the parents to come listen. IT was
a one-way information feed. I described it in a blog
post here. h<a moz-do-not-send="true"
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<div>As I mention in the post, my only suggestion that I
wrote on the ‘card’ they provided to parents for ideas
was: conduct an open space…</div>
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<div>I also suggested this later on a community Facebook
group that was established by parents to further the
discussion and collaboration around the issues of mental
health and stemming suicide at our high school..</div>
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<div>And today: I received THIS:</div>
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<div>Dear Mrs. Chiou,<br>
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I am on the committee planning the upcoming FCPS Summit
on Mental Health. I noticed on the community of
solutions Facebook page that you posted information
about the use of an Open Spaces format for encouraging
discussions and free exchange of information at a
conference. I followed your suggestion and googled it,
listened to the presentation and read the information.<br>
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I'd love to talk to you for a few minutes about the
logistics of this approach. Do you have a number where I
could reach you?<br>
<br>
Mary Ann Panarelli<br>
Director, Intervention and Prevention Services<br>
Fairfax County Public Schools<br>
571-423-4020<br>
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<div>I am floored!! Amazed. Humbled!</div>
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<div>I have not responded yet … :-)</div>
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<div>My experience with Open Space is through Agile Coach
camp and Culture Conference in Philly 2 years ago. And
reading this list and following a few especially agile
folks who are passionate about OS (Dan is one)</div>
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<div>My passion comes from knowing there are voices which
aren’t heard and need to speak. I care about listening,
giving people space to talk. </div>
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<div>My extreme passion in this particular case, comes
about from the urgency of this particular social
problem. My own son is still a student there, and has
grappled himself with depression/lows and occasional
suicidal thoughts. </div>
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<div>So, the question becomes, what do I do next?. Of
course, I will respond to her with my phone number and a
suggested time to speak with her. And I will read the
whole OST guide (I’ve seen that advice numerous times,
but now I need to get going on it).</div>
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<div>What else do you suggest? </div>
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<div>Perhaps I can be more specific with my questions to
you after I finish reading the guide. </div>
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<div>Mean time, I am checking in with you:</div>
<div>I am glad; this is wonderful/scary.</div>
<div>I am afraid; first time.</div>
<div>I am sad; the trend of suicides in our community
affecting our youth isn’t turning around.</div>
<div>I am glad; I have resources, people and ideas; even
though I am not a mental health specialist, I can do
small things to make a big difference.</div>
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<div>I’m IN!</div>
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<div>Thank you for listening!</div>
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<div>Andrea</div>
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