<html><head></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; ">How funny! It seems that Temasek Polytechnic has a different perspective on 'inappropriate' or a very strange filter system! It reached me fine. Thanks Suzanne!<div><br></div><div>Kind regards</div><div>Amanda<br><div>
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<br><div><div>On 18 Feb 2013, at 15:03, Suzanne Daigle wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><blockquote type="cite"><div dir="ltr"><div>Hi all, I posted a response to Tricia's "Sticky dots" email to us early this morning. To my surprise, I then received this alert. Don't know if my message went through and certainly don't know what was unacceptable or inappropriate except maybe what "self organization and Open Space" might invite :-)<br>
<br><font face="Arial"><span style="background-color:rgb(255,255,0)">The following email message has been
<strong>blocked</strong> by automated email security
system:</span><br> <br><font face="Courier New">
<strong>From:</strong> <a href="mailto:sdaigle4@gmail.com" target="_blank">sdaigle4@gmail.com</a><br>
<strong>To:</strong> <a href="mailto:cletaml@tp.edu.sg" target="_blank">cletaml@tp.edu.sg</a><br>
<strong>Subject:</strong> Re: [OSList] Sticky dots Q - San Fran event reflections<br>
<strong>Message:</strong> B512207ab0000.000000000001.0001.mml<br></font><br>Because it may
contain <strong>unacceptable language</strong>, or <strong>inappropriate
material</strong>.<br><br><font color="#400080"><font size="4">Temasek
Polytechnic</font><br><strong>Email Security
Team</strong></font></font><font color="#400080"> </font><br><br></div><span style="background-color:rgb(255,255,0)"><b>So here is what I wrote and I hope it will be acceptable and appropriate to whoever: </b></span><br>
<br><div><div>Dear Tricia,<br><br></div>Thank you for sharing this with us
all as you have. What a gift! I love how you just let it rip describing
it. All the details, your feelings along the way, and your reflections
and retrospective. I will let others comment as I do not think I could
ever make one suggestion of anything that you should have done
differently. For me, it's not the point. And yes I will be longish
too...<br>
<br><div><b>On January 22nd (not even a full month ago)</b>, you came onto this list and said: "I am an OST newbie who is hoping to facilitate an Open Space for my main
client's annual meeting in a few weeks and I would like to get your
thoughts on incorporating hands on skill transfer into an Open Space. I
did do some book reading on OST and just attended the OST meeting in NYC
this weekend, but have never hosted an Open Space. <b>Then... you added</b> I do not provide facilitation for this organization. I am one of a
number of project managers who work on teams to conduct market research
and strategy consulting projects for their clients in the life sciences
arena. They have agreed to my participation in the
facilitation of the meetings and I have referenced OST, but we have not
yet discussed details on meeting design and I am pretty sure they are
not familiar with OST. This meeting will be a small group of only the US
folks - 14 in total. We will be meeting for 2.5 days. On an ongoing
basis, we are all remote workers across the US and in Europe and Japan
and only see each other when we travel to a client's location." <br></div><br></div><div>I
remember thinking as I read this then: "Wow this may turn out to be a
bit of a challenge but you go girl. Why a challenge? Because I
interpreted that you were working with peer facilitators and
consultants. And what I also know is how very different is the way of
facilitating Open Space than traditional facilitation. Taking from the
French word "faciliter" it can mean making things easier for others or
"plus facile" translated literally "more easy". Well for me therein
lies the sticky wicket, whether in facilitation or leadership, making
things easier for others, smoother, more predictable, coordinating,
helping, managing, controlling, inspiring, synthesizing, doing project
management, guiding strategy, taking care of, having it all together,
are all the words of our profession. Yes most often that's what project
managers, consultants and leaders get paid for. I spent a lifetime doing
this with what I thought were good intentions. Making things easier for
others. I got successful at it, was promoted and recognized. <b>And yet inside myself I never felt all that good about it.</b>
I really only felt happy when everyone was working together as equals,
with everyone jumping in and letting it rip. When stuff was happening in
all its messiness, with folks doing the most amazing things, going
beyond anything anyone could dream of. I had had sparks of this in my
career but had never been able to connect the dots...until I met Open
Space. This stuff of self-organizing and an invitation for me to
bravely and vulnerably unleash my own leadership with tons of room for
others to unleash theirs without knowing where it would lead was a huge
leap. <br>
<br><b>Harrison said: </b><span style="font-size:11pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:rgb(31,73,125)">You can’t open space if your space ain’t open! </span>Well I might disagree a tad. <br>
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I did open space even when my space wasn't yet open. I had to start
somewhere and jump right in. Cause it was only in the doing of it,
jumping on the court, not sitting in the bleachers that I got my courage
and learning. <br>
</div><div><br>It was easier said than done. I had a lifetime of
"unlearning to do"! And it was painful and scary, still is, though a
lot less. . After all, it confronted everything I had done and what
folks typically described as success...an empty success really. Yes Open
Space confronts a lot of the stuff that we've been doing in leadership
and facilitation...it is quite confronting to see how much gets done,
how energized and passionate people get to be, how productive we all
become when we simply <span><em>"Sit in a circle</em>, create a bulletin board, <em>open</em> and <em>market place</em>, and go to work". All that effort, all that work, all that preparation, leading and guiding for naught!<br>
<br></span></div><div><span>And whether consciously or unconsciously,
that's what people start getting when they participate in Open Space
(whether you are facilitating or participating). I didn't get this at
first Tricia, all I can say is I did what you did. I just jumped right
in, faulting myself a lot for the things I was doing wrong that I could
have done better but really in the end, it didn't much matter cause I
was opening space and learning to unlearn a little bit more every day. </span><br>
<br>When I started in Open Space, I jumped in just like you... . I
talked about it all the time...still do. Doing it for free, for pay, for
a few bucks or many more bucks. I made a commitment then, early on that
I would do one Open Space a month, whether I sponsored it myself or was
invited. My journey in Open Space started a short 4 years ago! I have
lost count how many Open Spaces I have facilitated, co-facilitated or
attended. And now this year, I and others are hosting the World Open
Space in St. Petersburg Florida. <br>
<br>So Tricia, you did nothing wrong. I feel as if you were drawn into this
and gave your heart and soul to it. You invited others on the basis of
what you experienced in New York. You jumped right in and I applaud you
for trusting your intuition and for courageously asking us for help and
for sharing. In my book, you did nothing wrong and you did everything
right. <br><br></div>Thank you Tricia, I am so glad you are here. Maybe we will see you in Florida! Suzanne<br><div><br>
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