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</o:shapelayout></xml><![endif]--></head><body lang=EN-GB link=blue vlink=purple><div class=WordSection1><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'>Suzanne, thank you for sharing this special story. Wonderful, it helps me once again to stand up and shine.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'>Harrison, congratulations with your birthday. Wish you a very good next year and many more to come.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'>Tonnie<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><a name="_MailEndCompose"><span style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D'><o:p> </o:p></span></a></p><p class=MsoNormal><b><span lang=NL style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Tahoma","sans-serif"'>Van:</span></b><span lang=NL style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Tahoma","sans-serif"'> oslist-bounces@lists.openspacetech.org [mailto:oslist-bounces@lists.openspacetech.org] <b>Namens </b>Suzanne Daigle<br><b>Verzonden:</b> zondag 2 december 2012 20:22<br><b>Aan:</b> World wide Open Space Technology email list<br><b>Onderwerp:</b> Re: [OSList] The Joys of Grief -- With Thanks to Harold<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>A special Happy Birthday wish with a story that says: “Don’t judge a book by its cover!”<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>December 2<sup>nd</sup> is a special day for someone we know. It’s Harrison’s birthday and we are all very grateful that he popped into this world on this little ole planet of ours, if only to remind us all how wonderfully precious life is and how much there is to enjoy in the doing and non-doing, moment by moment, in wonder and in awe of it all. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>Open Space Technology has been a great gift to so many, opening up spaces inside ourselves and with others, spaces where people can come together to make a difference – in our families, our communities, in countries and in the world. Unbelievable what happens by simply sitting in a circle, united on something we care about, with a law and a few principles which are really just the laws of nature and life! Magic happens every time. The experience is unique and predictable, joyous and intense, always generative, purposeful and creative. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>No gift big enough, no birthday wish loud enough to express the gratitude we feel for this great life gift that Open Space has been for all of us around the world.<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>So on this anniversary date, a day when we want to say a heartfelt Happy Birthday to our dear friend Harrison, I offer this paying it forward Birthday Story as a gift hoping it will invite a “ heartfelt conversation” that people can have with their dads not even waiting for a birthday day – a conversation I can now only have in spirit. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>Many of you know this already because I have spoken of this coincidence before. <b>My late father and Harrison share the same birthdate</b> and same penchant for gin martinis. Before he died, my French Canadian dad read <u>A User Guide to Open Space Technology</u> in Italian, a language that he had been teaching himself. He loved the book and we had some good chats and quite a few arguments about it too.<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>Today something happened; a bit of synchronicity that brings a touch of sadness and joy to my day. It’s something I wanted to share with all of you knowing that in the vulnerability of my story, it may bring you closer to people in your life. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>About 8 to 10 years ago, my dad sent me a book titled: <b><u>Machiavelli for Women</u> </b>by Harriet Rubin. Wikipedia describes <b>Machiavellianism</b> (or <b>machiavellian mask</b>) is, according to the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxford_English_Dictionary" title="Oxford English Dictionary"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>Oxford English Dictionary</span></a>, "the employment of cunning and <a href="http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/duplicity" title="wikt:duplicity"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>duplicity</span></a> in statecraft or in general conduct", deriving from the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Italian_Renaissance" title="Italian Renaissance"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>Italian Renaissance</span></a> diplomat and writer <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Niccol%C3%B2_Machiavelli" title="Niccolò Machiavelli"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>Niccolò Machiavelli</span></a>, who wrote <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Prince" title="The Prince"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>Il Principe</span></a> (The Prince) and other works. The word has a similar use in modern <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychology" title=Psychology><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>psychology</span></a> where it describes one of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dark_triad" title="Dark triad"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>dark triad</span></a> personalities, characterised by a duplicitous interpersonal style associated with <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynicism_%28contemporary%29" title="Cynicism (contemporary)"><span style='color:windowtext;text-decoration:none'>cynical</span></a> beliefs and pragmatic morality.<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>I was hurt when I got this book in the mail from dad. I did not read it or even mention a word about it; simply stuffed it in the back of a giant bookshelf in my garage<b>. I should have known to never judge a book by its cover. </b><o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'> Like many children I had a conflicted relationship with my dad. As a medical doctor who loved science and his profession, he found little use for the mega corporations of this world. In his eyes, they were the arch enemy. Working in manufacturing and corporate leadership, I often felt that I bore the brunt of all that was wrong with corporate politics, that I myself was too manipulatory, too nice and too controlling – the stuff that I then felt was good leadership and management. Dad often felt outrage at what he saw and so often, he wanted me to join his fight if only in words. It was not my way. And yet, I shared his views on many issues while still seeing the great stuff that happens in the workplace. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>When Open Space came into my life, it was a veritable tsunami, hugely transformative, painful at times though more often joyful. It also got me a relationship with my dad. I can only imagine the conversations we would have today as I step into a bigger calling of leadership with others more and more. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>So the point of my story is that this book was not an endorsement of Machiavellian ways, it was an acknowledgement by my dad of the high regard he had for me and what he saw was possible when women and others step into their leadership, one that is not about war and power, fighting and winning. Quite the contrary. The stories, the quotes, the leaders are inspiring in the way of the Open Space work that we do. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>On this special birthday day, I quote this passage on page 20 from Harriet Rubin’s book that came from Nelson Mandela’s inaugural speech which I interpret was also my dad’s message to me and the message that Harrison conveys to us in this community, time and time again:<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, our darkness, that most frighten us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be?... Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>In closing, I add this last tidbit. After reading the first few chapters of this fateful book, I started fanning the pages, stopping when I suddenly recognized my dad’s handwriting. Under the chapter heading “<u>On the use of Men as Weapons</u>”, my father had scrawled these words in brackets <b>(Except your dad).</b> It was the only page on which he had written anything. Needless to say, tears poured down my face. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>And in the end, on this special birthday day, I know it’s the universe telling me and us once again to be opening space everywhere and anywhere, all the time! Otherwise, we will be limited to judging a book by its cover, never knowing the greatness of others and what we can do together. <o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>So Harrison, expect a Birthday Hug in Florida at WOSonOS 2013 if I don't see you before then.<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'>Suzanne<o:p></o:p></p><div><p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></p><div><p class=MsoNormal>On Sat, Dec 1, 2012 at 11:32 PM, Christy Lee-Engel <<a href="mailto:cdleee@gmail.com" target="_blank">cdleee@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></p><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>Dear HO and Harold and all,</span><o:p></o:p></p><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>Oh, yes. </span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>This vividly reminds me of the first real Open Space I ever came to: the Practice of Peace at the Whidbey Institute in 2003. Tova Averbuch and Chris Corrigan offered a session called Grief as an Act of Peacemaking; Grief in the Facilitator. I recall Tova speaking at the end about a light net (bright, and also not heavy) (of relationships and connections) that holds and supports us in as we go through the grief process.</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>(here are the notes for that session: </span><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#003300'><a href="http://pop.bigmindcatalyst.com/cgi/bmc.pl?node=5541&range=first" target="_blank">http://pop.bigmindcatalyst.com/cgi/bmc.pl?node=5541&range=first</a>)</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>(and here's the conference site in general: <a href="http://pop.bigmindcatalyst.com/cgi/bmc.pl?node=1" target="_blank">http://pop.bigmindcatalyst.com/cgi/bmc.pl?node=1</a>)</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>Our time together during those few days seemed to me to be especially intense, and maybe that happened partly because it brought together so many people who were living in and opening space in places of high conflict. Many sessions touched on and explored great sorrow and pain and seemingly unbridgeable differences; others unfolded into profound sweetness, connection, humor, joy; and (of course!) a lot of them contained all of the above.</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>Harrison, you write "</span>To the extent that OST is self-organization at work, it is equally and also Grief Work at work." <span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>and I experience that as true. And I also experience it as Joy Work and Anger Work and Fear Work and Gratitude Work and etc, etc - all the deep emotions, as Harold pointed out. When the space is open and held, then we all get to have our whole full experiences of whatever it is, whenever it is, wherever it is. In particular, the griefwork scours us and tenderizes us, and somehow helps us to bear the poignancy of being alive. Or Something Like That. ;-)</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>And, oh, a tiny bit early </span><b><span style='font-size:13.5pt;font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:red'>Happy Birthday, Harrison!</span></b><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>(somehow I think you will appreciate the surprise harmony of sending happy birthday blessings attached to this particular topic!) </span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><o:p> </o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#000099'>thanks and love, Christy</span><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='font-family:"Verdana","sans-serif";color:#003300'><br clear=all></span><span style='color:#003300'>Christy Lee-Engel, ND, LAc</span><span style='font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#003300'><o:p></o:p></span></p><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:#003300'>Director, Bastyr University <a href="https://www.facebook.com/BastyrSpiritualityScienceMedicine" target="_blank">Center for Spirituality, Science, and Medicine</a></span><span style='font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#003300'><o:p></o:p></span></p><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:#003300'>Acupuncture and Naturopathic Medicine practice: </span><span style='font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#003300'><a href="http://corechiropracticseattle.com/" target="_blank"><span style='font-family:"Times New Roman","serif"'>Core Chiropractic and Wellness</span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p></div><div><p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:#003300'>clinic: <a href="tel:206.708.7172" target="_blank">206.708.7172</a><br>cell: <a href="tel:206.399.0868" target="_blank">206.399.0868</a></span><span style='font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#003300'><o:p></o:p></span></p></div></div><div><div><div><p style='margin:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt'><i><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#003300'><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p><p style='margin:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt'><i><span style='color:#CC33CC'>"Throw yourself completely into the aliveness of your life. It's pretty risky. You could lose yourself. There's nothing to hold onto."</span></i><i><span style='font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";color:#222222'> </span><span style='color:#CC33CC'>- Yun-men</span><o:p></o:p></i></p></div></div></div><p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></p><div><div><div><p class=MsoNormal>On Sat, Nov 24, 2012 at 8:44 AM, Harrison Owen <<a href="mailto:hhowen@verizon.net" target="_blank">hhowen@verizon.net</a>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></p></div></div><blockquote style='border:none;border-left:solid #CCCCCC 1.0pt;padding:0cm 0cm 0cm 6.0pt;margin-left:4.8pt;margin-right:0cm'><div><div><div><div><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Harold – the best part of your message came at the end, and for me it was the most important therefore deserving its own special note… Something about the “Joys of Grief.”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Harold said: “As you said in Wave Rider, OST has a deep connection to the grieving process that Elisabeth Kübler-Ross described as a part of facing death. Which for me is fascinating given how much joy I always experience - but it is almost always accompanied other deep emotions as well.”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>You have put your finger on an important point, which may seem paradoxical or even contradictory, but really is neither. The truth is, grieving (or more properly The Grief Work Process) is fundamentally joyful, even triumphant, at least that is the intent which is realized only when the process comes to completion. Simply put, it is the way we as human beings move from loss to renewal, from ending to new beginning, from the encounter with death to the experience of new life. Of course, if the process is aborted along the way, the final results are inevitably dismal and painful. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Obviously what I have said above can be viewed a total nonsense, or worse, but stick with me, and I think I can get you there… But first something about the connection to Open Space. It will come as no surprise that I find Open Space to be nothing more than self organization at work. In a word, Open Space works because self organization works. And, self organization is itself a process.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>The process of self organization can be described in infinite, complex detail, but reduced to essentials, the steps are as follows: Order, Chaos, New and more complex order. It goes like this. Once upon a time there was this organization, a fine human system that lived a comfortable productive life. All seemed right with the world, but one day that world changed, and what was once a comfortable fit became increasingly challenging. The poor organization did all that it could, going this way and that -- seeking a path. But to no avail – and comfortable order dissolved into PAINFUL chaos. But there is, or at least there can be a next chapter. Through the alchemy of self organization new and more complex order appears, and life goes on. But the question abides. How do we get from here to there? How do we deal with the pain? The answer, I think, is the Grief Work Process.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Elisabeth Kübler-Ross made history when she identified and described the essential steps we all go through in the face of Death, our own or that of another. In my work it became clear that groups of people (organizations) go through exactly the same process when faced with ending. And that ending can come in all sorts of flavors: the end of a project, the end of a way of life, the ending of a company – but the response is identical in all situations. At the moment of ending, which I have characterized as an “Oh Shit Moment,” there is Shock and Anger. This is followed by Denial, then Memories (Stories of how it used to be), Despair – the bitter/sweet instant of letting it all go. Then we come to Open Space, intense silence with nothing there and everything potential. The process comes to an end when two magic words are spoken, “I wonder if…” I wonder if I/we can build a new company, find a new career, meet a new life partner. When wonder and imagination come together, there you have Vision, and the cycle is complete.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Obviously I have covered a lot of territory with very few details. If you want more check out my book “Wave Rider.” But hopefully I have said enough so that at the least you get the function and flavor of Grief Work. To be sure, it begins at a very painful moment, but the end of the story is all about joy. Functionally, Griefwork is the means by which we as human beings navigate the painful parts of self-organization. Things end, and that is always painful. But when they re-organize (self-organize) life goes on, and Griefwork gets us there. I find it to be hardwired into our humanity. We don’t have to think about it at all – works all by itself. Each step is necessary, and none can be skipped, no matter how much we might like to move directly from ending to new beginning.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>Another way of looking at Grief Work – It is what human self-organizing systems do as a major part of the adaptive process. And here is the connection to Open Space Technology: To the extent that OST is self-organization at work, it is equally and also Grief Work at work. Knowing this, and being acutely sensitive to what is going on, can be extraordinarily helpful to our understanding of what is happening with our clients, and what they may be doing/saying/manifesting during the time in Open Space. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US> <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal style='mso-margin-top-alt:auto;mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto'><span lang=EN-US>A related factor is that Griefwork, like all other aspects of self organization, function best when there is sufficient time/space (open space) to move around in. Things shut down when arbitrary control is imposed – and that is sadly what happens often in the everyday world of organizations. Most obviously, nobody wants to talk about dying/ending. And those who do are often viewed as strange, weird, pessimists, or macabre. Definitely a no-no! And when there is such conversation it can only be entered into under controlled circumstance – quietly and in moderation. Is it any wonder then that when space is suddenly opened, the unspeakable is spoken? 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