<html><head></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; ">I love the ritualising of story and personal/collective mythology...thanks for refreshing memory Tova <div><br></div><div>When I've used a similar process, we occasionally have a bit of a 'wake' to finish off the storytelling session....what people need to let go might be written down on a piece of paper, collected and burned in a ritual of letting go - maybe even the ashes buried and a tree planted...using the fertility of our collective experiences and wisdom to prepare that 'rich nutrient environment' for opening the space into our future together....</div><div><br></div><div>I also invite discernment around holding on to what you're not yet ready to let go - and bring that also into the new space that's opening now</div><div><br></div><div>Best wishes for a great learning experience, Craig</div><div><br></div><div>Cheers</div><div>Brendan<br><div><br></div><div><br><div><div>On 19/09/2012, at 7:23 AM, Craig Gilliam wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><blockquote type="cite"><div bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><div>Tova: Thanks! I like it. Craig<br><br>Sent from my iPhone</div><div><br>On Sep 18, 2012, at 2:39 PM, "Tova Averbuch" <<a href="mailto:tova.averbuch@gmail.com">tova.averbuch@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<br><br></div><div></div><blockquote type="cite"><div><meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 12 (filtered medium)"><style><!--
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</o:shapelayout></xml><![endif]--><div class="WordSection1"><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D">Because you are describing row emotions (anxiety? Confusing? Rage? ????) If it is possible I would choose to meet with few more people just to have a better sense of what is going on, be more grounded and sense more clearly what is needed and what are the relationships. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D"><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D">As for the story telling I had a wide invitation in mind (not an AI one)something like : “as a way of bringing yourself, bringing your voice to here. As a way of making room for this process of… (the question of the ost) let us start with a story telling circle. We are calling for stories that you feel moved to tell, stories that want to be told. Sad stories and glad stories, funny stories and mad stories…. All are invited and welcome to show up and be heard and stay with us as a rich and fertile ground “ or something </span><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:Wingdings;color:#1F497D">J</span><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D">The point I am trying to make is to invite with patience , with vast time and space (it may take few hours) and it is best if it is an evening before the OST with a talking stick and deep listening. This will also help you and all that are there to recognize and appreciate the emotions, narratives and motivations in the room<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D">Hope it is helpful<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D">Tova<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D"><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D"><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif";color:#1F497D"><o:p> </o:p></span></p><div><div style="border:none;border-top:solid #B5C4DF 1.0pt;padding:3.0pt 0cm 0cm 0cm"><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Tahoma","sans-serif"">From:</span></b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Tahoma","sans-serif""> <a href="mailto:oslist-bounces@lists.openspacetech.org">oslist-bounces@lists.openspacetech.org</a> [mailto:oslist-bounces@lists.openspacetech.org] <b>On Behalf Of </b>Craig Gilliam<br><b>Sent:</b> Tuesday, September 18, 2012 7:32 PM<br><b>To:</b> World wide Open Space Technology email list<br><b>Subject:</b> Re: [OSList] Craig<o:p></o:p></span></p></div></div><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><div><p class="MsoNormal">Tova: thanks for your response. I like the story telling. What or how might the story telling be framed? Possibly, tell a story when you exp. this organization at best or .. . Thanks, Craig <br><br>Sent from my iPhone<o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt"><br>On Sep 18, 2012, at 11:06 AM, "Tova Averbuch" <<a href="mailto:tova.averbuch@gmail.com">tova.averbuch@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<o:p></o:p></p></div><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><div><div><p class="MsoNormal">One more thing you can consider , depending how much time you have , is to start with stories that want to be told. Story telling session may open the hearts, minds and flow of energy in what seems to be challenging post traumatic/stuck (?) situation. It also gives voice to every individual and creates common ground that is both complex and reach. If this session happened to go well it has a profound healing effect.<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal">Sounds like an important and meaningful<span class="apple-style-span"> pease of work that is ahead </span><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="apple-style-span">Best </span><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="apple-style-span">Tova Averbuch</span><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="apple-style-span">Holon, Israel</span><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" dir="RTL" style="text-align:right;direction:rtl;unicode-bidi:embed"><span lang="HE">נשלח מה-</span><span dir="LTR">iPad</span><span dir="RTL"></span><span dir="RTL"></span><span lang="HE"><span dir="RTL"></span><span dir="RTL"></span> שלי</span><span dir="LTR"><o:p></o:p></span></p></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:12.0pt"><br>W<span lang="HE" dir="RTL">ב-18 בספט 2012, בשעה 06:07</span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span>, Michael Herman <<a href="mailto:michael@michaelherman.com">michael@michaelherman.com</a>> <span lang="HE" dir="RTL">כתב/ה</span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span><span dir="LTR"></span>:<span lang="HE" dir="RTL"><o:p></o:p></span></p></div><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><div><p class="MsoNormal">i'm always partial to harrison's "issues and opportunities" phrasing,<br>craig. i always hear "how" questions as yes-no's in disguise. (i<br>think we tend to hear them not in the detail that gives rise to good<br>conversations, but as "do you know how to...?"<br><br>so i default to something like:<br><br>what are the issues and opportunities for getting past, getting going,<br>and creating a future we all want to be part of?<br><br>my first, fast take on it, anyway.<br><br>good luck! m<br><br><br>--<br><br>Michael Herman<br>Michael Herman Associates<br>312-280-7838 (mobile)<br><br><a href="http://MichaelHerman.com/">http://MichaelHerman.com</a><br><a href="http://OpenSpaceWorld.org/">http://OpenSpaceWorld.org</a><br><br><br><br>On Mon, Sep 17, 2012 at 9:24 PM, Craig Gilliam<br><<a href="mailto:wcraiggilliam@hotmail.com">wcraiggilliam@hotmail.com</a>> wrote:<br><br><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">Last minute, I was asked by the leader to come into an organization that is<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">suffering some difficult decisions, consequences of decisions and trauma.<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">They are described as angry, hurt, frustrated, feeling helpless, etc. . .<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">an amalgamation of emotions.<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">As the leader and I spoke, I realized, this is ripe for open space<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">conversation or some hybrid thereof. But there is not time or context for a<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">committee to develop the question. Consequently, I asked the leader for a<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">question that would frame the conversation.<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">HIs goal is to help him and the group get some handles so they can move<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">forward. There will be 50 to 60 people present. They are invited to<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">engage--<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">The questions he offered were something like: (He qualified it with, "I am<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">not certain how to get it down to one question, but let's talk about it.)<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">Morale and vision:<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">· How do we let go of the hurts of the past?<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">· Where are we going?<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">· What can we expect in the future?<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">What question do you hear or comes to your mind from these that might help<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">invite and create space for this conversation? (The way the previous<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">questions are framed, to me, they feel like they are pointing in the wrong<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">direction.)<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">Would the following question be to broad?<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">Morale and vision:<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">To move into your future in a positive way, what conversations will be most<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">helpful to you?<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal">Thanks,<o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><blockquote style="margin-top:5.0pt;margin-bottom:5.0pt"><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> 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