<html><body><div style="color:#000; background-color:#fff; font-family:verdana, helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12pt"><div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">Ho said: "</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; ">Show me a situation where there is no conflict, and I
will show you a situation where nobody cares</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">".<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">I like this a lot!
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">(This is not a
surprise, as I am from Southern Europe, where conflicts are genelly strongly expressed (and frequently almost immediately forgotten) - and this, the Greeks thought, was
the essence of democracy!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">In some other
cultures, conflicts are frequently avoided as if they were a kind of plague...
I suspect (with no strong evidence) that this is the cause of many organizational
(and community) “learning disabilities”.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">So my question is:
can we assume that this idea of "no conflict implies no care" is a
general principle?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">If so, shouldn’t
we not try to cultivate a culture with less "conflict avoidance"?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; "><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; ">Artur <o:p></o:p></span></div></div><div><span style="font-size: 12pt; "><br></span></div><div><span style="font-size: 12pt; "> </span></div><div><br></div> <div style="font-family: verdana, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt; "> <div style="font-family: 'times new roman', 'new york', times, serif; font-size: 12pt; "> <div dir="ltr"> <font size="2" face="Arial"> <hr size="1"> <b><span style="font-weight:bold;">From:</span></b> Harrison Owen <hhowen@verizon.net><br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">To:</span></b> 'World wide Open Space Technology email list' <oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> <br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sent:</span></b> Saturday, July 28, 2012 12:36 PM<br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Subject:</span></b> [OSList] Conflict and Caring<br> </font> </div> <br>
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--></style><div><div class="yiv1690044974WordSection1"><div class="yiv1690044974MsoNormal">Caring and Conflict seem almost like polar opposites – but as Marie suggests, they are integrally related, I think. I had a neighbor who was described as “the most even tempered man in town – Always mad!” It was kind of a joke, but after knowing him for 40 years I came to see that his anger was actually a manifestation of the deep caring he felt, but could not fully express. Because of an odd combination of social pressures and norms he never had the space to be the caring person he was. Sad! So I think it is true: Show me a situation where there is no conflict, and I will show you a situation where nobody cares.</div><div class="yiv1690044974MsoNormal"> </div><div class="yiv1690044974MsoNormal">Harrison </div><div class="yiv1690044974MsoNormal"> </div><div class="yiv1690044974MsoNormal">Harrison Owen</div><div
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