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lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:#003300'>Matilda,
Phelim – what a touching story. I’m in tears. Thank you so much for sharing it
with us. Truly grand…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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lang=EN-GB style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:#003300'>Sarah,
our younger daughter, was also born at home, in August 1992 on a mountain slope
in <st1:country-region w:st="on">Switzerland</st1:country-region> overlooking
the Midlands and facing the <st1:place w:st="on">Alps</st1:place>, in front of a
fire burning, and only a little later, the sun rose dark red in front of us. She
was a double leo. It was a wonderful experience, albeit a lot shorter than
yours. But already for Andrea who was born two years earlier, sitting, but in a
spontaneous, normal way (according to Leboyer principles), my readiness to
embrace whatever was happening and to have a good look at it while relaxing
profoundly was enough to make everything go well. I had first met Open Space in
1989, so a portion of it was with me already then.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
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face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> Galina Tsarkova
[mailto:galatsarkova@gmail.com] <br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Gesendet:</span></b> Sonntag, 22. Januar 2012
23:20<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>An:</span></b> World wide Open Space Technology
email list<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Betreff:</span></b> Re: [OSList] An open
space birth.</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>2012/1/20 Phelim McDermott <<a href="mailto:phelim@mac.com">phelim@mac.com</a>><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Dear open space friends,<br>
<br>
Matilda and I have been a little absent from the list and just wanted to check
in with you all as to what's been happening and our extraordinary start to the
year.<br>
<br>
For the end of last year I had been working on an Opera at the Met in New York.
Matilda became pregnant in April and because of this work commitment if we
wanted to be together for the birth we had to have it in New York. Because of
the show timing was also an issue. Although we knew that whenever it happened
was the right time, we had also been talking to our baby in the womb and
encouraging it that if it could just hold off a little while it would get to
hear the opera and that if it came during rehearsals it would probably miss the
chance of hearing the baroque music that's supposed to be so good for your baby
in utero! On 31st, Dec 2011 The Enchanted Island opened. Matilda was there on
opening night and we were greatly relieved that things were happening in the
order we had hoped for.<br>
<br>
We then imagined we might even get a bit of a break for preparation before
anything else happened. However, two days later on the evening of the Monday
Matilda's first contractions began. (Whenever it starts is the right time.) We
met our Doula (birthing companion) briefly then went for a meal at the Italian
restaurant on the corner of 8th and C, (It's amazing how quickly your food
arrives if you tell them your wife's having contractions). Then we went back to
our East Village apartment and put up the birthing pool we had hired, hoping
that the midwife’s assurance that it was like approximately 8 big men drinking
beer in your kitchen was accurate and it wasn't going to crash through the
floor. Then we went to bed and tried to get some sleep. Matilda being Matilda
there wasn't much of that, nor for the next four nights.<br>
<br>
Next morning We gathered around the empty birthing pool. This was our circle.
Increasing our numbers with some toy monkeys and an elephant who had been given
as a gift for the baby we opened the space for our birth. We made An invitation
for this new life to come into the world. The principles were up on our
apartment walls and we posted sessions that could happen at any time. They
included “Music and dancing”, “Wise Teachers”, “Love and welcome”, “Filling the
pool” etc..<br>
<br>
Now if you go through the principles and think about it you’ll realise how
pertinent they are for a genuine birth. Especially when you are hundred miles
from home and dealing with all the things that come with setting up for the
holding of space for the entry of a new life into this world.<br>
<br>
Whenever it starts is the right time.<br>
Whoever comes are the right people.<br>
When it's over it's over. (and when not over it's not over of course!)<br>
Whatever happens is the only thing that could have. Wherever it happens is the
right place.<br>
<br>
Law of two feet/mobility.<br>
<br>
Be prepared to be surprised!<br>
<br>
Amazed at how marginalised the midwifing community is in the USA compared to
Europe we had watched the great film “The business of being born” and had been
given a recommendation by our UK midwife of a midwife in the States. We
discovered it was not only the midwife in this film but that she was living two
streets away from us in the East village opposite a restaurant called
“Matilda”!<br>
<br>
During our pre birth work we had been doing a lot of studying, finding out about
midwifery and had been amazed by Michel Odent's and also Ina May Gaskin's work.
Lots of the literature could easily be interchangeable with work on
creativity/opening space. For example: Odent's advice that he usually
turns up at a birth and says: “Do you mind if I go take a nap in the room down
the corridor.” Also “the best place for an obstetricians hands are in his
pockets” etc.. All this work is about space.. space.. opening space.. Holding
space. Its about trusting in emergence, whilst holding off on intervention.<br>
<br>
Over the next four days with the help of our amazing Midwife Cara and our Doula
Angelique we went on an extraordinary roller coaster of physical and emotional
experience. They were both fantastic at holding and creating a safe space for
us both and they allowed me to support Matilda in following herself mentally
and physically.<br>
<br>
It was an incredibly challenging birth because of what turned out to be our
little son's position against Matilda's back, so it was very long and although
it looked like we may have to go to hospital at the later stages, our wonderful
Midwife and Doula and their team of helpers who appeared in various guises
throughout the three days pulled us through and our home birth happened as we
had hoped. Others who helped were Pat an astonishing acupuncturist who turned
up on the Thursday night who just happened to be nearby and gave Matilda
"liquid hips”! and Miriam a midwife colleague of Cara's who appeared
because she had texted Cara to meet for a coffee just when we needed support
because it looked like the baby’s heart was slowing. She walked through the
door to see the babies head crowning. Truly whoever comes are the right people!
She then helped getting the baby out fast with Cara to speed things up as his
heart was slowing. We stood Matilda up and the baby was born not in the pool
but in front of our sofa. (Wherever it happens is the right place.)<br>
<br>
As well as them, Matilda was of course amazing and inspiring. Doing it all
without painkillers and using only myself, a birthing pool, the open space
principles and repeated playings of "The Bare Necessities" to get her
through.<br>
<br>
At 8.47am on the 6th Jan 2012 the baby was born. Because of his difficult route
his head was squished into a rather dramatic lopsided horn, (“be prepared to be
surprised” and “whatever happens is the only thing that could have”), which
quickly disappeared. Riddley Wilbur McDermott (Whoever comes are the right
people.) is now doing very well. He is particularly beautiful.<br>
<br>
Here's a photo of him:<br>
<br>
<a
href="http://clusterform.tumblr.com/post/16137649871/riddley-wilbur-mcdermott-libatique-73-lens-kodot"
target="_blank">http://clusterform.tumblr.com/post/16137649871/riddley-wilbur-mcdermott-libatique-73-lens-kodot</a><br>
<br>
Our birth has now happened. (when it's over it's over) But the space that has
opened where our baby boy now exists is astounding, scary, exhilarating and
profoundly humbling. We love him.<br>
<br>
For our new family it is of course just beginning... (When it's not over
it's not over.)<br>
<br>
<br>
Lots of love<br>
<br>
Phelim X<br>
<br>
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