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    Great sharings from all around...<br>
    <br>
    This might also help... something I read in a book about llama care.
    Llamas don't like to be touched normally, but if you do it often
    enough they become desensitized and won't mind being touched and
    handled. The same is true for a lot of things humans don't feel
    comfortable about - at first. It's one of the reasons Lisa's
    training was so valuable for me - getting experience walking and
    talking in the circle "desensitizes" to the discomfort so one can
    spend more time tuning into the energy of the room and being what
    they need from me as a facilitator. That's also a lot easier when I
    already feel I have a relationship with the theme and the people
    because of strong pre-work (another thing Lisa emphasizes).<br>
    <br>
    It has also helped knowing a lot of the people in the room - getting
    a chance to talk make eye contact even before getting into the
    circle, and having some friendly faces to help remember it's all
    good.<br>
    <br>
    And the trick that Harrison mentioned is also something that Dale
    Carnegie put in his "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
    classic. If you feel nervous, just admit it and move on. The
    transparency puts people at ease and you stop having to fight
    wondering whether anyone is noticing that you are nervous.<br>
    <br>
        Harold<br>
    <br>
    <br>
    <br>
    On 11/18/10 9:42 PM, Lisa Heft wrote:
    <blockquote
      cite="mid:DB6E8392-9250-4F13-8341-7AC7B0D395B7@openingspace.net"
      type="cite">Hello, dear Eleder - once again you ask great
      questions.
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      <div>Everyone has shared so wonderfully.</div>
      <div>The only things I would add are:</div>
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      <div>In my Open Space Learning Workshop one of the things folks do
        is practice walking and talking in that circle.</div>
      <div>And yes - others have mentioned as you have their concern
        with having their backs to someone as they speak.</div>
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      <div>What they have found is similar to what was mentioned here -
        if you look a few people ahead and keep moving (slowly,
        breathing, present) you are indeed never having your back to
        anyone for very long. If you turn your head as you move you are
        including people behind you as you travel, as well. If your
        voice is loud enough or you have a microphone everyone can hear
        you even if you are not facing everyone.</div>
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      <div>Of course this is all different if some people in your circle
        have any hearing differences such as deafness or other hearing
        loss - so it is always good to ask on registration forms who has
        any access / ability / mobility issues they would like to bring
        to event coordinators' attention. Then you have this extra info
        if you need it for some individuals, and can give them extra eye
        contact or some notes as well.</div>
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                                                          <div><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#0000ff" size="4"><span class="Apple-style-span"
                                                          style="font-size:
                                                          14px;"><b><span
class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: medium;
                                                          font-weight:
                                                          normal;">
                                                          <div><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#811107" size="1"><span class="Apple-style-span"
                                                          style="font-size:
                                                          9px;"><i><font
class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span"
                                                          style="font-style:
                                                          normal;"><font
class="Apple-style-span" size="3"><span class="Apple-style-span"
                                                          style="font-size:
                                                          12px;">
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">It is
                                                          true that
                                                          having too
                                                          small a circle
                                                          and towering
                                                          over people is
                                                          hard for them
                                                          - so do make a
                                                          nice big
                                                          circle with
                                                          room in
                                                          between each
                                                          chair. And if
                                                          it is too
                                                          small on the
                                                          inside I see
                                                          no problem
                                                          with walking
                                                          the outside of
                                                          the circle
                                                          (though when I
                                                          have done this
                                                          some of my OS
                                                          colleagues
                                                          have *gasped*
                                                          !.  But it is
                                                          so I do not
                                                          close everyone
                                                          in too
                                                          tightly, in
                                                          those
                                                          instances.</span></font></div>
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                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
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                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">I
                                                          have also
                                                          learned from
                                                          my workshop
                                                          participants
                                                          that if you
                                                          have any
                                                          nervousness
                                                          about looking
                                                          people in the
                                                          eye, try
                                                          instead....looking
                                                          at the tops of
                                                          their heads
                                                          (!).</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
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                                                          0px; font:
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                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">It
                                                          often feels
                                                          like you are
                                                          looking at
                                                          them - try it.</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
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                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">But I
                                                          think you will
                                                          become more
                                                          and more
                                                          comfortable as
                                                          you practice,
                                                          sort how you
                                                          like to say
                                                          things, and
                                                          experience
                                                          yourself doing
                                                          it more and
                                                          more.</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
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                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">Sometimes
                                                          if it is a
                                                          tense event to
                                                          come - I may
                                                          set up the
                                                          circle and
                                                          then walk, it,
                                                          before any
                                                          participants
                                                          arrive. And I
                                                          envision the
                                                          participants
                                                          and their
                                                          listening
                                                          faces, and I
                                                          smile and
                                                          welcome them
                                                          before they
                                                          get there.</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
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                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">Mostly
                                                          - Suzanne said
                                                          it so well: it
                                                          is of course
                                                          not about you.
                                                          It is about
                                                          them. So if
                                                          you focus on
                                                          them and on
                                                          making your
                                                          voice and the
                                                          instructions
                                                          something they
                                                          can hear and
                                                          that invites
                                                          them, then
                                                          once you begin
                                                          you are in
                                                          partnership
                                                          with them -
                                                          and they can
                                                          feel it...</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">And
                                                          the other
                                                          'mostly' is:
                                                          remember you
                                                          are in your
                                                          walking, your
                                                          breathing,
                                                          your
                                                          explaining -
                                                          creating a
                                                          container that
                                                          is open and
                                                          welcoming and
                                                          has tools and
                                                          a process - so
                                                          that they can
                                                          do their best
                                                          work.</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">You
                                                          are with your
                                                          walk, your
                                                          voice, your
                                                          instructions,
                                                          your
                                                          breathing...
                                                          weaving that
                                                          open and
                                                          inviting
                                                          container. And
                                                          in your
                                                          walking you
                                                          are invoking
                                                          (calling in)
                                                          energy.  </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
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                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">And
                                                          you know how
                                                          to do that,
                                                          dear Eleder -
                                                          just....
                                                          breathe....
                                                          and ... go....
                                                          and be amazed,
                                                          as I know you
                                                          are....</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"><br>
                                                          </span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;">Lisa</span></font></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><span
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
                                                          style="color:
                                                          rgb(0, 0,
                                                          255);
                                                          font-size:
                                                          14px;
                                                          font-weight:
                                                          bold;"><br>
                                                          </span></div>
                                                          <div
                                                          style="margin:
                                                          0px; font:
                                                          10px
                                                          'Trebuchet
                                                          MS'; color:
                                                          rgb(155, 44,
                                                          1);"><font
                                                          class="Apple-style-span"
color="#000000"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:
                                                          medium;"></span></font><span
class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 255); font-size: 14px;
                                                          font-weight:
                                                          bold;">Lisa
                                                          Heft</span></div>
                                                          </span></font></span></font></i></span></font></div>
                                                          </span></b></span></font></div>
                                                          <div>Consultant,
                                                          Facilitator,
                                                          Educator</div>
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      Harold Shinsato<br>
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