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<div>Thanks Toke. A well-worn favorite always next to my
computer. Chris Corregan wrote a companion piece a few years ago
to the 81 of Heider's - The Tao of Holding Space.
http://chriscorrigan.com/parkinglot/?page_id=1519</div>
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<div>Gail</div>
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<blockquote type="cite" cite>Hi practitioner friends of all
kinds</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>i just found this wisdom by John Heider
and the Tao</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> about Being a midwife again after
many year hiding in my MacBook file somewhere since early
90ties</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Being a
Midwife</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>The wise leader
does not intervene unnecessarily. </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>The leader's
presence is felt, but often the group runs
itself.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Lesser leaders
do a lot, say a lot, have followers, and form
cults.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Even worse ones
use fear to energize the group and force to overcome
resistance.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Only the most
dreadful leaders have bad reputations.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Remember that
you are facilitating anothers person's process. It is not your
process. </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Do not intrude.
Do not control. Do not force your own needs and insights into the
foreground.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>If you do not
trust a person's proces, that person will not trust
you.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Imagine that you
are a midwife; you are assisting at someone else's
birth. </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Do good without
show or fuss. </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>Facilitate what
is happening rather than what you think ought to be
happening. </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>If you must take
the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in
charge.</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><i><b>When the baby is
born, the mother will rightly say: "We did it
ourselves!"</b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font
face="Arial"><i><b> </b></i></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Arial"><b>- John Heider, The
Tao of leadership</b></font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>This and the question</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><b>What if hosting conversations that
matter is the kind of leadership that allows everybody to learn
?</b></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>were for me both very helpful in becoming
pregnant and part of </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>giving birth to the art of hosting
practice in the end of the 90ties</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>in the spirit of gratitude for life,
friends and learning </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite>- and sharing this memory this bright
spring morning in Columbus on our way to Denmark....</blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite> </blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Handwriting - Dakota"
size="-1" color="#3423FF">Toke</font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><font face="Helvetica" size="-1"
color="#000000">Words from the heart</font></blockquote>
<blockquote type="cite" cite><a
href=
"http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html"
><font face="Helvetica" size="-1"
color="#000000"
>http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html</font
></a></blockquote>
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<div>Gail West<br>
ICA<br>
3F, No. 12, Lane 5, Tien Mou West Road<br>
Taipei, Taiwan 111<br>
8862) 2871-3150<br>
SKYPE gwestica</div>
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