<html><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; ">Hi practitioner friends of all kinds<div><br></div><div>i just found this wisdom by John Heider and the Tao</div><div> about Being a midwife again after many year hiding in my MacBook file somewhere since early 90ties</div><div><br></div><div><!--StartFragment-->
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Being a Midwife</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>The wise leader does
not intervene unnecessarily. </b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>The leader’s presence is felt, but often the group
runs itself.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Lesser leaders do a
lot, say a lot, have followers, and form cults.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Even worse ones use
fear to energize the group and force to overcome resistance.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Only the most
dreadful leaders have bad reputations.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Remember that you
are facilitating anothers person’s process. It is not your process. </b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Do not
intrude. Do not control. Do not force your own needs and insights into the
foreground.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><b><i><br></i></b></font></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>If you do not trust
a person’s proces, that person will not trust you.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Imagine that you are
a midwife; you are assisting at someone else’s birth. </b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Do good without show or
fuss. </b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be
happening. </b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>If you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet
still free and in charge.</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><font class="Apple-style-span" face="Arial"><b><i><br></i></b></font></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b>When the baby is
born, the mother will rightly say: ”We did it ourselves!”</b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><i><b> </b></i><i><b><o:p></o:p></b></i></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="DA" style="font-family:Arial"><b>- John Heider, The
Tao of leadership</b><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</div><div><br></div><div>This and the question</div><div><br></div><div><b>What if hosting conversations that matter is the kind of leadership that allows everybody to learn ?</b></div><div><br></div><div>were for me both very helpful in becoming pregnant and part of </div><div>giving birth to the art of hosting practice in the end of the 90ties</div><div><br></div><div>in the spirit of gratitude for life, friends and learning </div><div>- and sharing this memory this bright spring morning in Columbus on our way to Denmark....</div><div><br></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(52, 35, 255); font-family: 'Handwriting - Dakota'; font-size: 13px; ">Toke</span><br><br><div apple-content-edited="true"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0; "><div style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; "><div style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><div>Words from the heart</div><div><a href="http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html">http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html</a></div><div><br></div></div></span><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"></div></span><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"> </div><br></body></html>*
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