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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Thank you Toke. Hello all.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>I just returned from hosting in <st1:City
w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Indianapolis</st1:place></st1:City> where there
were these wicked questions present and nibbling at the edges: What is the most
meaningful harvest we can imagine from a large scale café? What core purpose
does it serve? <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>I loved what one of the participants named
and received it as a gift – “we are not looking for an answer. We are looking
for a journey.”<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>This speaks to me another form of your question
below about everybody learning. What if learning is what we do – sometimes applied
to particular projects etc. But the core is supporting the capacity and ongoing
process to learn. What if this learning is just the flow of life, in us,
through us, around us that enables imagining and manifesting the next level of
system that serves?<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Thank you for the stirrings.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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color=green><span style='color:green'>tenneson@berkana.org</span></font></a></span></font><font
size=2 color=green><span style='font-size:10.0pt;color:green'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=green face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:green'>801 785 2276</span></font><font
color=navy><span style='color:navy'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:green'><a href="http://www.berkana.org"><font
color=green><span style='color:green'>www.berkana.org</span></font></a></span></font><font
color=navy><span style='color:navy'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=green face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:green'><a href="http://www.artofhosting.org"><font
color=green><span style='color:green'>www.artofhosting.org</span></font></a></span></font><font
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style='font-size:12.0pt;color:navy'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><em><i><font size=2 color=green face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:green'>And those who were seen
dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.</span></font></i></em><font
color=navy><span style='color:navy'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=green face=Arial><span style='font-size:
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Tahoma;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> Toke Paludan
Møller [mailto:toke@interchange.dk] <br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Monday, April 06, 2009 6:52
AM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> AoH List; World Cafe network;
OpenSpaceList list<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> [AoH] being a
midwife........</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Hi practitioner friends of all kinds<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>i just found this wisdom by John Heider and the Tao<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'> about Being a midwife again after many year hiding in my MacBook
file somewhere since early 90ties<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Being
a Midwife</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>The
wise leader does not intervene unnecessarily. </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>The
leader’s presence is felt, but often the group runs itself.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Lesser
leaders do a lot, say a lot, have followers, and form cults.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Even
worse ones use fear to energize the group and force to overcome resistance.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Only
the most dreadful leaders have bad reputations.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Remember
that you are facilitating anothers person’s process. It is not your
process. </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Do
not intrude. Do not control. Do not force your own needs and insights into the
foreground.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>If
you do not trust a person’s proces, that person will not trust you.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Imagine
that you are a midwife; you are assisting at someone else’s birth. </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Do
good without show or fuss. </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>Facilitate
what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>If
you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and
in charge.</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'>When
the baby is born, the mother will rightly say: ”We did it ourselves!”</span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><i><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic'> </span></font></i></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=3 face=Arial><span lang=DA style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold'>- John Heider, The Tao of leadership<u1:p></u1:p></span></font></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>This and the question<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-weight:bold'>What if hosting conversations that
matter is the kind of leadership that allows everybody to learn ?</span></font></b><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>were for me both very helpful in becoming pregnant and part of <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>giving birth to the art of hosting practice in the end of
the 90ties<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>in the spirit of gratitude for life, friends and learning <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>- and sharing this memory this bright spring morning in <st1:City
w:st="on">Columbus</st1:City> on our way to <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place
w:st="on">Denmark</st1:place></st1:country-region>....<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><span class=apple-style-span><font
size=2 color="#3423ff" face="Handwriting - Dakota"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Handwriting - Dakota";color:#3423FF'>Toke</span></font></span><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Helvetica><span
style='font-size:10.5pt;font-family:Helvetica;color:black'>Words from the heart<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face=Helvetica><span
style='font-size:10.5pt;font-family:Helvetica;color:black'><a
href="http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html">http://web.me.com/tokemoller/Toke.wordsfromtheheart/Coming_alive.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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