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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Hi, Niko –</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>(Niko wrote: </span></font><i><font
size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
font-style:italic'>I am working with my family in a cafe and this morning some
issues came up to do with the manager and i can tell he has stuff going on and
I want to like open the space in the situation but I cant see an opening. What
do I do???????)</span></font></i></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Without knowing the particular situation,
here is what I would recommend:</span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>B r e a t h e</span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>Appreciate that you cannot know why someone thinks or acts in ways
that surprise you</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>(ways that feel comfortable –or- ways that feel
uncomfortable).</span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'> </span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>Appreciate that there may be some challenges they are encountering
in their lives – professionally, personally, physically, who can say.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'> </span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>Know that they (and you) are doing the best they (and you) can.</span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'> </span></font></p>
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face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black'>Do kind things during the day – for yourself and for the
others.</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Lisa</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>___________________________</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 color=blue face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue;font-weight:bold'>L
i s a H e f t</span></font></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=blue face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue'>Consultant,
Facilitator, Educator</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=blue face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue'>O p e n i n
g S p a c e</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'><a
href="mailto:lisaheft@openingspace.net"><font color=black><span
style='color:black'>lisaheft@openingspace.net</span></font></a></span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'><a
href="http://www.openingspace.net"><font color=black><span style='color:black'>www.openingspace.net</span></font></a>
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