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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>Bui – I never said that I would use
the 2X4, although I must confess that there have been times when I was sorely
tempted. My point was simply that there are times when the universe speaks to
us in terms that are quite unmistakable and perhaps painful. Had the ruler of
the universe consulted with me, I might have had some alternate suggestions,
but I wasn’t consulted.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>My real point is about the role of the
facilitator in Open Space, or at least my experience and understanding of that
role over the past 20 years. I have been in some pretty hot situations but I
have never found it necessary to intervene in any way. My job was to remain
unattached and “hold that space.” And in every instance the
community rose to the occasion and dealt with the hurts, pains, conflicts. Of greater
importance they all learned from that experience. First of all they learned
that they could do it – no need for outside assistance. They also learned
that they had the responsibility because nobody (certainly not me) was going to
come in and save them. </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>I confess there are times when it gets very
interesting. White knuckle so to speak, but the folks have always come through,
as long as they had the space to work in. And my job was to make sure they had
the space. If you want something of the flavor of what I am talking about you
might check out my write up of a small gathering of 50 Palestinians and
Israelis – who were definitely not peaceniks. See –</span></font></p>
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12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'><a
href="http://openspaceworld.com/opening_space_for_peace.htm">http://openspaceworld.com/opening_space_for_peace.htm</a>
</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span style='font-size:
12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>Harrison</span></font></p>
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<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=2 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Harrison Owen</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>7808 River Falls Drive</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Potomac, Maryland 20854</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Phone </span></font><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>301-365-2093</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=2 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Skype hhowen</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=3 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Open Space Training</span></font> <a
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Arial'>www.openspaceworld.com</span></font></a> </p>
<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=3 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Open Space Institute</span></font> <a
href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/"><font face=Arial><span style='font-family:
Arial'>www.openspaceworld.org</span></font></a></p>
<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=3 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Personal website</span></font> <a
href="http://www.ho-image.com/"><font face=Arial><span style='font-family:Arial'>www.ho-image.com</span></font></a>
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<p align=center style='text-align:center'><font size=3 color=black face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>OSLIST</span></font><font
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 color=black
face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:windowtext'>-----Original
Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On
Behalf Of </span></b>Bui K. Petersen<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Thursday, February 15, 2007
6:07 PM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: Law of Two Feet</span></font></p>
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face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=black
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>This is what I was afraid
of. I think is a situation where mediation would be more effective. In conflict
resolution we often say "all behaviour makes sense". Empathy and
compassion is usually more effective than a 2X4.<br>
<br>
I want to add that the scenario I am thinking is not when the person in
question is a boss but more like a regular member of a community. It would be
unfortunate if someone chose to leave a community as a result of an OS event.
But perhaps there are other perspectives out there.<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Harrison Owen wrote: </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
.5in'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>“I wonder how empowering it is for the individual left
behind?”</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>Well, if that
“difficult” person was a command and control boss – it is
possible, though perhaps not likely, that he will learn something. Then again,
he might go and seek alternative employment. Or – all those folks he was
intimidating might do the same thing. Sometimes the universe has to hit you on
the side of the head with a 2X4 just to get your attention. Painful, but
effective.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>Harrison</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color=red face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
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<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=2
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Harrison
Owen</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=2
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>7808
River Falls Drive</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=2
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Potomac,
Maryland 20854</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=2
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Phone
301-365-2093</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=2
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Skype
hhowen</span></font></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=3
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Open
Space Training</span></font> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.com/"><font
face=Arial><span style='font-family:Arial'>www.openspaceworld.com</span></font></a>
</p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=3
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Open
Space Institute</span></font> <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.org/"><font
face=Arial><span style='font-family:Arial'>www.openspaceworld.org</span></font></a></p>
<p align=center style='margin-left:.5in;text-align:center'><font size=3
color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>Personal
website</span></font> <a href="http://www.ho-image.com/"><font face=Arial><span
style='font-family:Arial'>www.ho-image.com</span></font></a> </p>
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color=black face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial'>OSLIST:
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style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'> </span></font></p>
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face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:windowtext'>-----Original
Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST [<a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a>]
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of </span></b>Bui K. Petersen<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Thursday, February 15, 2007
2:31 PM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> <a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: Law of Two Feet</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:1.0in'><font size=3 color=black
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:1.0in'><font size=3 color=black
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>Thanks for the
reassurance, Jack.<br>
<br>
However, I am not as concerned about the to the topic and the conversation as I
am with the affect on the "difficult" individual. While it may be
empowering for people to simply leave an unfruitful conversation, I wonder how
empowering it is for the individual left behind?<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Jack Ricchiuto wrote: </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
1.0in'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Bui,<br>
<br>
This does happen and can hurt the development of content around an otherwise
attractive topic. If the self-organizing soil of the group is fertile enough,
people will continue the conversation in different places and in different
ways, the way water will flow around rocks to whatever openings available. When
people with passion are given freedom, good things happen no matter what. <br>
<br>
Translation: not to worry.<br>
<br>
Be well,<br>
<br>
Jack</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:1.0in'><span class=gmailquote><font
size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>On
2/15/07, <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Bui K. Petersen</span></b> <<a
href="mailto:bui@buildconsensus.ca">bui@buildconsensus.ca </a>> wrote:</span></font></span>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0in;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
1.0in'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>As someone who is still just learning and trying to find out how and
when OST can be used, I am curious about people's experience with the effect
the Law of Two Feet can have on irritating dominating personalities. Say for
example that someone is dominating a group and practically annoying everyone
else with the result of them using their two feet and leaving. How does this
affect the person left behind? I have some concerns about what could happen to
this person but before I mention them, I am interested to hear what others have
experienced.<br>
<br>
Curious!<br>
<br>
Búi</span></font></p>
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