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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Hi Bui,</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>My experience is that the ‘person’
slowly being left behind is generally counselled by the compassionate people in
the session who are being affected but not enough to get up and leave. Those
that leave also learn a lesson about their level of tolerance. Hopefully people
give a few warnings that they are not enjoying the tone/direction and give the ‘person’
an opportunity to correct their course – I use a picture of ‘darth vader’
with a red cross through him to indicate the ‘space invader’ and often
see people pointing towards the image when someone is dominating the session –
most people have a laugh and the person corrects themselves pretty quickly and choses
to either stay or leave (and usually return a little later) depending on how they
respond to their now enlightened state regarding their overly passionate approach
to the topic.</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Cheers, Tan</span></font></p>
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color:windowtext'>-----Original Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On
Behalf Of </span></b>Bui K. Petersen<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Friday, 16 February 2007
10:07 AM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: Law of Two Feet
[Sec=Unclassified]</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:36.0pt'><font size=3 color=black
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>This is what I was afraid
of. I think is a situation where mediation would be more effective. In conflict
resolution we often say "all behaviour makes sense". Empathy and
compassion is usually more effective than a 2X4.<br>
<br>
I want to add that the scenario I am thinking is not when the person in
question is a boss but more like a regular member of a community. It would be
unfortunate if someone chose to leave a community as a result of an OS event.
But perhaps there are other perspectives out there.<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Harrison Owen wrote: </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
36.0pt'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>“I wonder how empowering it is for the individual left
behind?”</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:36.0pt'><font size=3 color=red
face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:red'>Well, if
that “difficult” person was a command and control boss – it
is possible, though perhaps not likely, that he will learn something. Then
again, he might go and seek alternative employment. Or – all those folks
he was intimidating might do the same thing. Sometimes the universe has to hit
you on the side of the head with a 2X4 just to get your attention. Painful, but
effective.</span></font></p>
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face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:windowtext'>-----Original
Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST [<a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a>]
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of </span></b>Bui K. Petersen<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Thursday, February 15, 2007
2:31 PM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> <a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATEEDU</a><br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: Law of Two Feet</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:72.0pt'><font size=3 color=black
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>Thanks for the
reassurance, Jack.<br>
<br>
However, I am not as concerned about the to the topic and the conversation as I
am with the affect on the "difficult" individual. While it may be
empowering for people to simply leave an unfruitful conversation, I wonder how
empowering it is for the individual left behind?<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Jack Ricchiuto wrote: </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
72.0pt'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>Bui,<br>
<br>
This does happen and can hurt the development of content around an otherwise
attractive topic. If the self-organizing soil of the group is fertile enough,
people will continue the conversation in different places and in different
ways, the way water will flow around rocks to whatever openings available. When
people with passion are given freedom, good things happen no matter what. <br>
<br>
Translation: not to worry.<br>
<br>
Be well,<br>
<br>
Jack</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:72.0pt'><span class=gmailquote><font
size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>On
2/15/07, <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Bui K. Petersen</span></b> <<a
href="mailto:bui@buildconsensus.ca">bui@buildconsensus.ca </a>> wrote:</span></font></span>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-right:0cm;margin-bottom:12.0pt;margin-left:
72.0pt'><font size=3 color=black face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:
12.0pt'>As someone who is still just learning and trying to find out how and
when OST can be used, I am curious about people's experience with the effect
the Law of Two Feet can have on irritating dominating personalities. Say for
example that someone is dominating a group and practically annoying everyone
else with the result of them using their two feet and leaving. How does this affect
the person left behind? I have some concerns about what could happen to this
person but before I mention them, I am interested to hear what others have
experienced.<br>
<br>
Curious!<br>
<br>
Búi</span></font></p>
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