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This is what I was afraid of. I think is a situation where mediation
would be more effective. In conflict resolution we often say "all
behaviour makes sense". Empathy and compassion is usually more
effective than a 2X4.<br>
<br>
I want to add that the scenario I am thinking is not when the person in
question is a boss but more like a regular member of a community. It
would be unfortunate if someone chose to leave a community as a result
of an OS event. But perhaps there are other perspectives out there.<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Harrison Owen wrote:
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size="3"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">“I wonder how empowering it is
for the
individual left behind?”<br>
<br>
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style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Arial; color: red;">Well, if that
“difficult”
person was a command and control boss – it is possible, though perhaps
not likely, that he will learn something. Then again, he might go and
seek
alternative employment. Or – all those folks he was intimidating might
do
the same thing. Sometimes the universe has to hit you on the side of
the head
with a 2X4 just to get your attention. Painful, but effective.</span></font></p>
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style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Tahoma; color: windowtext;">-----Original
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<b><span style="font-weight: bold;">From:</span></b> OSLIST
[<a class="moz-txt-link-freetext" href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a>] <b><span
style="font-weight: bold;">On
Behalf Of </span></b>Bui K. Petersen<br>
<b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sent:</span></b> Thursday,
February 15, 2007
2:31 PM<br>
<b><span style="font-weight: bold;">To:</span></b>
<a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a><br>
<b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Subject:</span></b> Re: Law of
Two Feet</span></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in;"><font color="black"
face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Thanks
for the
reassurance, Jack.<br>
<br>
However, I am not as concerned about the to the topic and the
conversation as I
am with the affect on the "difficult" individual. While it may be
empowering for people to simply leave an unfruitful conversation, I
wonder how
empowering it is for the individual left behind?<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
Jack Ricchiuto wrote: </span></font></p>
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color="black" face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span
style="font-size: 12pt;">Bui,<br>
<br>
This does happen and can hurt the development of content around an
otherwise
attractive topic. If the self-organizing soil of the group is fertile
enough,
people will continue the conversation in different places and in
different
ways, the way water will flow around rocks to whatever openings
available. When
people with passion are given freedom, good things happen no matter
what. <br>
<br>
Translation: not to worry.<br>
<br>
Be well,<br>
<br>
Jack</span></font></p>
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style="font-size: 12pt;">On
2/15/07, <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Bui K. Petersen</span></b>
<<a href="mailto:bui@buildconsensus.ca">bui@buildconsensus.ca </a>>
wrote:</span></font></span>
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color="black" face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span
style="font-size: 12pt;">As someone who is still just learning and
trying to find out how and
when OST can be used, I am curious about people's experience with the
effect
the Law of Two Feet can have on irritating dominating personalities.
Say for
example that someone is dominating a group and practically annoying
everyone
else with the result of them using their two feet and leaving. How does
this
affect the person left behind? I have some concerns about what could
happen to
this person but before I mention them, I am interested to hear what
others have
experienced.<br>
<br>
Curious!<br>
<br>
Búi<br>
<br>
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