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<DIV><SPAN class=590201208-07102006><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff size=2>My two
cents on this lovely theme.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=590201208-07102006><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=590201208-07102006><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff size=2>I
think this presence has too much sense with what tell us Carl Rogers a lot of
time ago: authenticity (congruence); empathy and unconditional
acceptance.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=590201208-07102006><FONT face=Arial color=#0000ff
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006>Also about what Jaime Pedreros and his passion with the
Transactional Analysis could explain us much better, that is the "adult of
the child" or "the small wise person" or the "small teacher" that knows all
what's happening with his intuition and joy.</SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006>Good weekend for all,</SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006>Johnnie Walker</SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial><FONT color=#0000ff><FONT size=2><SPAN
class=590201208-07102006> </SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><FONT face=Tahoma
size=2>-----Mensaje original-----<BR><B>De:</B> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]<B>En nombre de </B>Joanna
Fletcher<BR><B>Enviado el:</B> Friday, October 06, 2006 6:01 PM<BR><B>Para:</B>
OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR><B>Asunto:</B> Re: Showing up & being
present<BR><BR></DIV></FONT>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy">This is a concept familiar to me from my
coactive coach training – we call it “level 3 listening”. It is about
listening to what is going on in the space of a relationship, group etc.,
under the surface words and emotions, and noticing our own impact on it. Being
present and showing up is often challenging because I so easily get on my own
way – messages about appropriateness, “shoulds”, are loudest and most
distracting.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy">In our training sessions there are always
assistants present who have themselves been through the course. They have an
executive function, to get coffee and water and tissues etc., but their main
job is to “hold the space”. They are attending to the space and holding it as
a powerful and safe learning area. They are holding all the people in the
space as creative, resourceful, and whole. If they leave the room, I notice
the impact of their absence immediately. When I am holding space for others, I
find it requires a very high level of attention and presence – a muscle I
continue to develop, as a coach, instructor, and
OSer.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy">My impact is something I am still
figuring out, but I am sure that it has something to do with the way I love
and accept myself, warts and weirdness and all. Somehow my blurting out of
unsuitable things gives others more confidence to do the same. I can also
bring intentionality to the impact I am having. Sorry for the rambling - I am
thrilled to see this being discussed here!<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: navy"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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<P class=MsoAutoSig><FONT face=Papyrus color=navy size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: navy; FONT-FAMILY: Papyrus">Joanna
Fletcher<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoAutoSig><FONT face="Bodoni MT" color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt; COLOR: navy; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT'">Lion Life
Coaching<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt; COLOR: navy; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT'">jo@lionlifecoaching.com</SPAN></FONT></st1:PersonName><FONT
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<P class=MsoAutoSig><FONT face="Bodoni MT" color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt; COLOR: navy; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT'">604-340-1855</SPAN></FONT><FONT
color=navy><SPAN style="COLOR: navy"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
<P class=MsoAutoSig><FONT face="Bodoni MT" color=navy size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 11pt; COLOR: navy; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT'">www.lionlifecoaching.com<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT face=Tahoma size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold; FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">From:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
face=Tahoma size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">
<st1:PersonName w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName> [mailto:<st1:PersonName
w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <B><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">On Behalf Of </SPAN></B>Funda Oral<BR><B><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Sent:</SPAN></B> October 6, 2006 3:59 PM<BR><B><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">To:</SPAN></B> <st1:PersonName
w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR><B><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Subject:</SPAN></B> Re: FW: Showing up & being
present</SPAN></FONT><o:p></o:p></P></DIV>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt">This
kind of presence provides people & myself with some kind of
comfort and liberty to breathe and to
flow.</SPAN></FONT><o:p></o:p></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt">funda</SPAN></FONT><o:p></o:p></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt">----- Original Message -----
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<P class=MsoNormal style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4"><B><FONT face=Arial
size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">From:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt"> <A title=jack@designinglife.com
href="mailto:jack@designinglife.com">Jack Ricchiuto</A>
<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">To:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt"> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</A>
<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">Sent:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt"> Friday, October 06, 2006 6:12
PM<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal><B><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold; FONT-SIZE: 10pt">Subject:</SPAN></FONT></B><FONT
size=2><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt"> Re: FW: Showing up & being
present<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
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style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></FONT></P></DIV>
<P class=MsoNormal><st1:place w:st="on"><FONT face=Arial size=3><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">Harrison</SPAN></FONT></st1:place>
writes,<o:p></o:p></P>
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class=e>There is yet another level which I might call "Silent Presence."
Somehow </SPAN><BR><SPAN class=e>this goes beyond, beneath Intellect
and/or emotions. The power of this level</SPAN><BR><SPAN class=e>of
presence in terms of grounding/supporting a group is profound, I
have</SPAN><BR><SPAN class=e>found. Don't ask me how it works, but it
does.</SPAN><BR><BR><BR></SPAN></FONT><o:p></o:p></P></DIV></DIV></DIV></DIV></BLOCKQUOTE></DIV></SPAN>
<P class=MsoNormal><FONT face=Arial size=3><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><BR
clear=all>In my experience, the silence we bring creates space for
consciousness which itself is transformative because it expands everyone
into a larger space where more is possible. So that explains why my whole
life outside OS events is cultivating this consciousness, this silence, this
Presence. <BR><BR><BR>-- <BR>Jack Ricchiuto<BR>Leadership coach,
facilitator, author<BR><BR>Just Released! "Mountain Paths: A Guide on the
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