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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;color:navy'>This is a concept familiar to me from my coactive coach
training – we call it “level 3 listening”. It is about
listening to what is going on in the space of a relationship, group etc., under
the surface words and emotions, and noticing our own impact on it. Being
present and showing up is often challenging because I so easily get on my own
way – messages about appropriateness, “shoulds”, are loudest
and most distracting.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;color:navy'>In our training sessions there are always assistants present
who have themselves been through the course. They have an executive function,
to get coffee and water and tissues etc., but their main job is to “hold
the space”. They are attending to the space and holding it as a powerful
and safe learning area. They are holding all the people in the space as
creative, resourceful, and whole. If they leave the room, I notice the impact
of their absence immediately. When I am holding space for others, I find it
requires a very high level of attention and presence – a muscle I
continue to develop, as a coach, instructor, and OSer.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;color:navy'>My impact is something I am still figuring out, but I am
sure that it has something to do with the way I love and accept myself, warts
and weirdness and all. Somehow my blurting out of unsuitable things gives
others more confidence to do the same. I can also bring intentionality to the
impact I am having. Sorry for the rambling - I am thrilled to see this being
discussed here!<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:Papyrus;color:navy'>Joanna Fletcher<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoAutoSig><font size=2 color=navy face="Bodoni MT"><span
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Tahoma;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> <st1:PersonName
w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName> [mailto:<st1:PersonName w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of </span></b>Funda Oral<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> October 6, 2006 3:59 PM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> <st1:PersonName w:st="on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: FW: Showing up &
being present</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt'>This
kind of presence provides people & myself with some kind of
comfort and liberty to breathe and to flow.</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt'>funda</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='background:#E4E4E4'><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font size=2><span
style='font-size:10.0pt'> <a href="mailto:jack@designinglife.com"
title="jack@designinglife.com">Jack Ricchiuto</a> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-weight:bold'>To:</span></font></b><font size=2><span style='font-size:
10.0pt'> <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU"
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></font></b><font size=2><span style='font-size:
10.0pt'> Friday, October 06, 2006 6:12 PM<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></font></b><font size=2><span
style='font-size:10.0pt'> Re: FW: Showing up & being present<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><st1:place w:st="on"><font size=3 face=Arial><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'>Harrison</span></font></st1:place> writes,<o:p></o:p></p>
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<span class=e>There is yet another level which I might call "Silent
Presence." Somehow </span><br>
<span class=e>this goes beyond, beneath Intellect and/or emotions. The power of
this level</span><br>
<span class=e>of presence in terms of grounding/supporting a group is profound,
I have</span><br>
<span class=e>found. Don't ask me how it works, but it does.</span><br>
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In my experience, the silence we bring creates space for consciousness which
itself is transformative because it expands everyone into a larger space where
more is possible. So that explains why my whole life outside OS events is
cultivating this consciousness, this silence, this Presence. <br>
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-- <br>
Jack Ricchiuto<br>
Leadership coach, facilitator, author<br>
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Just Released! "Mountain Paths: A Guide on the Journey toward Discovering
our Potential" - available at <a href="http://www.DesigningLife.com">www.DesigningLife.com</a>
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