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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Hmmmm…on any given day I would find myself
happy being a butterfly… happy to sit and learn from others… happy to be in an
organized group… happy to flit and float. On other days, joining in anything
appears to be an effort and my desire to be with myself is strong. Does this
mean I do not follow what has passion and meaning? Perhaps I find what has
heart and meaning is LIFE itself in all its many shades and colors, all its
offerings.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>From a most contented butterfly </span></font><font
size=2 color=navy face=Wingdings><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:
Wingdings;color:navy'>J</span></font><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Nancy<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=navy face=Arial><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Tahoma;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On
Behalf Of </span></b>Tree Fitzpatrick<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Tuesday, August 15, 2006
5:36 PM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Re: Advanced Butterfly
Behavior</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><font size=3
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt'>Once again, I have to
weigh in and thank one of our masters, HO. Yes, yes, yes, the butterfly
is the essence of OS and any butterfly behavior resides fully within this thing
we call OS.<br>
<br>
More and more (lately I have felt completely out of control) I am quite
conscious of BEING a butterfly in each moment of my life. <br>
<br>
I recently attended the National Conference on Dialogue and Deliberation.
Today, in my mailbox, I was invited to give feedback about the
conference. To my puzzlement, I learned, in the survey questions, that
many people reported that this conference, NCDD, was the best conference they
had ever been to. For me, it was a draining challenge to endure it:
many wonderful people (some of our own dear oslisters like Peggy and Lisa
Heft!) offered excellent breakout sessions. The plenary sessions were
thoughtfully and skillfully designed and, for the most part,
well-executed. The organizers wove art and beauty into our days together.
But I could not bring myself to go to any sessions. And when I did force
myself to stumble into one or two, I felt bullied and bruised, although
certainly no one was bullying me. Certainly, I was free in every single
moment of my experience of this NCDD event to be a butterfly and, most
definitely, I knew this.<br>
<br>
I got lucky at this particular conference. I had a best buddy who also
eschewed most of the formality of the event, although he had slightly different
reasons than me.<br>
<br>
Finally, after what seemed like an eternity to me, on the afternoon of the
second day, there was a ninety minute OS. All day on that second day, I could
feel the fresh air rising. By the time it finally came to open the space
(which was done by a fine OS newbie Matthew Blom), I was feeling downright
joyful and oxegenated. I was giddy. I was happy. I felt at
home. During the long time it took for people to announce their sessions,
I found myself criss-crossing the ballroom, almost as if I were dancing:
it felt so good to finally have permission to do what I had been doing all
along. I didn't listen to any of the agenda topics because I didn't need
to: I knew I would continue to be a butterfly.<br>
<br>
My butterfly buddy said "You know, it is getting so if it isn't about my work
in the world, I am not really interested" and I said "If it isn't in
OS, I am not interested". . . and we had a fine, butterfly time doing as
we pleased. But it cost me: I want to be respectful, kind and
good. I want to receive the wisdom and knowledge that was surely embedded
in all of the fine workshops offered at NCDD: but pre-set the schedule,
put my opportunities to learn into boxes and I am gone. What my friend
was saying, I believe, is that he is interested in following what has heart and
meaning for him, that it has taken him awhile to get to a place of clear
intentionality, to know who he is, to know what he wishes to do, who he wishes
to serve: once someone reaches such a point, they need to become, I
believe, butterflies.<br>
<br>
Did I have a great time at NCDD? Oh yes, yes, indeed. Because I
found the butterflies. . . or, perhaps, they found me.<br>
<br>
I guess there is a place in the world for conferences like NCDD, to bring
together 400 process activists who are striving to build both their skill base
and their professionalism but if I had been allowed to hang out with those 400
people in OS instead of in boxes, gosh golly, I would have been truly bedazzled
instead of just having fun with a few butterflies on the side.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=gmailquote><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'>On 8/15/06, <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Harrison
Owen</span></b> <<a href="mailto:hhowen@adelphia.net">hhowen@adelphia.net</a>>
wrote:</span></font></span><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:Arial'>Mark -- I will match you Butterfly to Butterfly. And I win,
if only because I have been doing it longer, at least in an Open Space
environment. I have often thought that the only reason I didn't jettison OS
after the first (successful) run was that it felt so good -- and that was all
about being a Butterfly and enjoying the company of other such critters
(yourself, for example) out there in the flower patch. After all, I have a
notoriously short attention span, and doing something for 20 years is simply
out of character. So nothing I said should be construed as derogatory to that
exalted state and condition. Butterflies forever!</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:Arial'>I guess what I was responding to in Peggy's note was that I
truly didn't see the example she gave as being that of "advanced Butterfly
Behavior." To me it looked pretty much like same old, same old,
(pre-selected group) and truth be told -- "narrow minded and short
sighted." If folks choose such activity, so be it and God love them. But
from where I sit, it radically sub-optimizes the possibilities of Open Space,
simply because it reduces the diversity of the conversation pool. And yes I too
love to sit with one or two "good buddies" (new or old) -- but my
constant experience is that the odd, wayward, interloper
(butterfly) usually adds spice to the occasion. Of course it sometimes
ends it too -- and the two feet take over. However the novelty of a
new face, mind, point of view is almost inevitably a positive (except when
it isn't).</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 face=Arial><span style='font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:Arial'>There is one point on which I really must (I think) take
issue with you. You said, "AND --- All of this occurs "outside"
of the formal process and form of OST. "Butterfly-ness" is
acknowledged by the process, and held by the form of OST. But it is not
the practice-normed form of OST which is essentially --gatherings around
publicly advertised topics and conveners in specific places at specific
times." Actually I would see "butterfly-ness" as the essence of
Open Space and all the rest as a practical accommodation to the needs of
some (many) people for a specific time, place, and topic. Of course the
"time" is a movable feast (starts when it starts) and the topic seems
to mutate, and even the "place" can be a sometime thing. In the very best
of Open Spaces (vibrant, alive, fiercely productive, fun, frivolous, and
seriously engaging) in my experience, the minimal structure of
time/place/topic/ participants breaks down completely and everything is in a
constant flow-state. It is all butterflies! So maybe the "practice-normed
form of OST" is simply practice and preparation for that
wonderful moment when we all learn to fly. Now THAT would be
"advanced Butterfly Behavior!"</span></font><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=q><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'>Harrison Owen</span></font></span><br>
<st1:Street w:st="on"><st1:address w:st="on"><span class=q>7808 River Falls Dr</span></st1:address></st1:Street><span
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<st1:place w:st="on"><st1:City w:st="on"><span class=q>Potomac</span></st1:City><span
class=q>, <st1:State w:st="on">MD</st1:State> <st1:PostalCode w:st="on">20854</st1:PostalCode></span></st1:place><br>
<st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on"><span class=q>USA</span></st1:place></st1:country-region><br>
<span class=q>301-365-2093</span><br>
<span class=q>207-763-3261 (summer)</span><br>
<span class=q>website <a href="http://www.openspaceworld.com" target="_blank">www.openspaceworld.com</a></span><o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><span class=q><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'>Personal Website <a href="http://www.ho-image.com"
target="_blank">www.ho-image.com</a></span></font></span><o:p></o:p></p>
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font-family:Arial'>----- Original Message ----- <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='background:#E4E4E4'><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font
size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'> <a
href="mailto:mark.r.jones@sunyata.ws" target="_blank"
title="mark.r.jones@sunyata.ws">Mark R. Jones</a> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold'>To:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'> <a
href="mailto:hhowen@verizon.net" target="_blank" title="hhowen@verizon.net">Harrison
Owen</a> ; <a href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank"
title="OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU">OSLIST</a> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'> Tuesday, August
15, 2006 1:00 PM<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><b><font size=2 face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></font></b><font size=2
face=Arial><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial'> Re: Advanced
Butterfly Behavior<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-bottom:12.0pt'><span class=e><font size=1
face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;font-family:Verdana'>Hi H (Harrison)
and Peggy.</span></font></span><font size=1 face=Verdana><span
style='font-size:7.0pt;font-family:Verdana'><br>
<br>
<span class=e>Hmmmmmmmmmm . . .</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>There is an element here for me that is implied in Peggy's</span><br>
<span class=e>piece and your response to it that I would like to explore . . .</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>The "butterfly" phenomena in OST has been widely
acknowledged</span><br>
<span class=e>by you and others. As a dedicated "butterfly"
myself, I find</span><br>
<span class=e>that I do have some reflections on the topic that Peggy has
raised.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>In my "butterfly-ness", I assemble, attract, and/or am
attracted</span><br>
<span class=e>to people with which I typically have very intense, personal, and</span><br>
<span class=e>private conversations with. These conversations occur in
both 1:1</span><br>
<span class=e>and group forms. H, over the years, you and I have had these types
</span><br>
<span class=e>of interactions with each other -- in the midst of OS events.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>In my "butterfly-ness", I discern who I want to
be in conversation </span><br>
<span class=e>with -- The Law of Two Feet -- and then act upon that
discernment. </span><br>
<span class=e>As you know H, I rarely actually attend "called" (posted)
sessions.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>Yet, I feel welcome to play in Open Space -- not negatively
judged </span><br>
<span class=e>for my discernment -- my exercise of The Law of Two Feet.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>In my "butterfly-ness", I learn to hear, see, and love
other people.</span><br>
<span class=e>And perhaps others learn to hear, see, and love me and each
other.</span><br>
<span class=e>I acquire and refine insights and discover connections. </span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>Unfortunately, I rarely document my learnings within the formal </span><br>
<span class=e>mechanisms of OST. And my "public" sharings do
not contain the </span><br>
<span class=e>richness of the private details that I have discovered.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>Yet, I feel that there is some common good that comes of it.</span><br>
<span class=e>Some mutual sense of interconnection, compassion, and
understanding</span><br>
<span class=e>is established. Some of the insights are returned to the
public</span><br>
<span class=e>forum. And, interpersonal relationships are established and/or</span><br>
<span class=e>reinforced.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>AND --- All of this occurs "outside" of the formal
process and form</span><br>
<span class=e>of OST. "Butterfly-ness" is acknowledged by the
process, and held </span><br>
<span class=e>by the form of OST. But it is not the practice-normed form
of OST</span><br>
<span class=e>which is essentially -- gatherings around publicly advertised
topics </span><br>
<span class=e>and conveners in specific places at specific times.</span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>If in the two examples that Peggy gave, the participants had
simply</span><br>
<span class=e>"butterflyed" their intention to meet together -- there
would have </span><br>
<span class=e>been no public declaration and no public outrage and judgment,
and</span><br>
<span class=e>possibly no public sharing. The "sessions" would
have occurred outside</span><br>
<span class=e>of the formal process and form of OST. </span><br>
<br>
<span class=e>But I suspect that the session participants chose to try to in
some way </span><br>
<span class=e>to "honor" the formal process and form of OST by
attempting to use some </span><br>
<span class=e>of the OST mechanisms of "public" declaration.
This partial revelation </span><br>
<span class=e>of intent created a public stir regarding what was in all
likelihood </span><br>
<span class=e>a space in which very personal and private conversations could
occur.</span><br>
<br>
<br>
<span class=e>Peggy's inquiry provokes me to ponder: </span><br>
<span class=e> * What ways does and can the formal process and form of OST
more deeply</span><br>
<span class=e> embrace and benefit from
"butterfly-ness"?</span><br>
<span class=e> * Does the formal process and form of OST fundamentally
reject "private"</span><br>
<span class=e> conversation and its manifestation in some
forms of "butterfly-ness"?</span><br>
<span class=e> * Is the manifestation of some forms of
"butterfly-ness" as "private"</span><br>
<span class=e> conversation a perversion of OST?</span><br>
<span class=e> * Is acting upon "The Law of Two Feet" as a means
of interpersonal</span><br>
<span class=e> relationship discernment a perversion of OST?</span><br>
<span class=e> * In the cultural norms of OST, am I required to give up my
practice</span><br>
<span class=e> of choosing who I want to interact with?</span><br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
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style='font-size:7.0pt;font-family:Verdana;font-weight:bold'>From: </span></font></b></span><span
class=e><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;font-family:
Verdana'>Harrison Owen <<a href="mailto:hhowen@adelphia.net" target="_blank">hhowen@adelphia.net</a>></span></font></span><font
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<span class=e><b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Reply-To: </span></b>Harrison
Owen <<a href="mailto:hhowen@verizon.net" target="_blank">hhowen@verizon.net</a>></span><br>
<span class=e><b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Date: </span></b>Tue, 15 Aug
2006 08:13:27 -0400</span><br>
<span class=e><b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To: </span></b><<a
href="mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU" target="_blank">OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</a>></span><br>
<span class=e><b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject: </span></b>Re:
Advanced Butterfly Behavior</span><br>
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</span></font><span class=e><font size=1 face=Arial><span style='font-size:
7.0pt;font-family:Arial'>I am not sure that I would see such occurrences as
"advanced butterfly behavior. Narrow minded and shortsighted come to mind.
Folks will do what they will do -- and whatever happens is the only thing that
could have. . . but I really think that the conveners of such groups are
short-changing themselves and all those who come to the session (and maybe all
those who don't, as well). By arbitrarily restricting the diversity of the
group the potential for new and deeper thought/experience is radically reduced.
I must also confess to a certain abhorrence to terms like "culturally
mature" -- and even more with those who think they could make such a
determination. I am reminded of the situation at the recent OS for Imams and
Rabbis. As it happened there were several young students present including a
delightful 19 year old lady from <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place
w:st="on">Indonesia</st1:place></st1:country-region>. On the face of it, I
doubt she would have made anybody's list as "culturally mature." And
given her natural modesty I am sure that she would never have made the
association for herself. But the fact of the matter is that her natural charm,
intelligence and curiosity made her in my eyes (and for others as well) one of
the real stars of the gathering. If nothing else, she was willing to ask
questions that everybody else was assiduously avoiding. Would I do anything to
stop such segregated gatherings? No -- but I guess I would hope that part of
the learning curve for the Culturally Mature was coming to see that there are
really better ways than hiding out in a room, talking to each other.</span></font></span><font
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<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> Peggy Holman <a
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<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> <a
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<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Monday, August 14, 2006 8:26
PM<br>
<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Advanced Butterfly
Behavior<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face="Comic Sans MS"><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:"Comic Sans MS"'><br>
<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>As I mentioned in my last e-mail, now that I</span></font><font
size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Verdana'>�m</span></font><font
size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Verdana'> back
after about a year away from the OS list, I</span></font><font size=1
face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Verdana'>�ve</span></font><font
size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Verdana'>
got a variety of questions, stories and learnings to share over the next
few weeks. This question popped to the top of my list.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
<br>
<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>There is a situation that I have now experienced
twice in long OS gatherings with many experienced OSers. It is a
dynamic that has an important and potentially dissonant energy. I'm
wondering if others have encountered this and what their thoughts are on
it. My suspicion is that we'll see more of it as more people attend
longer OS gatherings and generally develop more experience with OS.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:8.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>My hunch is that this is a phenomenon that deserves
a name, much like bumblebees and butterflies.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:8.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>So, with that preamble, here's the description and
two specific examples:<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:8.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>There's a session that emerges from what is
happening in the mix. The convenor(s) have some very specific
people they wish to meet with and aren't interested in having it open to
whoever wanders in. It is similar to what happens when butterflies
meet but because there is more intentionality and potentially larger
numbers, it is its own thing.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:8.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>Two examples:<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:8.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>At the April Evolutionary Salon:<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>We had an expert in a process who was willing to do
a session but he felt that his work required a targeted group (in his
terms, the "culturally mature"). We were interested in
experiencing this and quietly put the word out to the people we wanted in
the room. When others also came, they were welcomed.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
<br>
<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>At the Practice of Peace in 2003 and in her words:<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><i><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana;font-style:italic'>On the last day of the conference,
I woke up with a clarity of what I should do if I really cared to take
this rare, international opportunity one step further into the future.
I saw a session with specific people (very engaged and personally
interested, committed to the theme I was passionate to explore, with very
"concentrated energy" that I felt was essential for a
breakthrough in clarity and identifying what was next.) <br>
</span></font></i><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>She was fine if others appeared but did not
wish to announce the session. She pulled the post-it for the space
from the time/space grid and then quietly put out the word to the people
she had in mind. Some of them came to the session and others chose
to go to other sessions. A few others appeared during the session and
were welcomed. She created a session report an hour after the
session was over. She had intended to talk about the session and the
experimentation during the closing circle. (For a variety of
unrelated reasons, that closing circle never quite happened, so this
became painful unfinished business for her.)In both cases, there was
some reflection by the hosts after the OS completed. Some saw the
sessions as fine, appropriate butterfly behavior. Others were
disturbed by the lack of transparency, feeling that it was a drag on the
energy field.<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
font-family:Verdana'><br>
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</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>I am reflecting that as participants become very
mature, posting such sessions, complete with a mindful request about who
comes is an ideal for this; also VERY challenging to do!<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.0pt;
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</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
font-family:Verdana'>Thoughts?<br>
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font-family:Verdana'><br>
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<br>
</span></font><font size=1 face=Verdana><span style='font-size:7.5pt;
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