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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Hi, Dear Frank –</span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>You wrote:</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><i><font size=2 color=black
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:black;font-style:italic'><</span></font> I am feeling disillusioned
and frustrated. And my attempts at having conversations about Open Space have
not been very productive….</i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><i><font size=3
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-style:italic'>1) I
could use something like a script sheet to talk about OS with these folks--like
step by step instructions. </span></font></i></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><i><font size=3
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-style:italic'>2) I
could use some list advice on how to function as an OS individual in a non-OS meeting
while maintaining some sense of integrity and respect. ></span></font></i></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Frank, sometimes when I have found myself to
be ‘Mrs. Crankypants’ * I have tried to walk back into the
conference (or whatever) practicing sort of a meditation, if you will, of
appreciation. For the people, for the parts that are marvelous, for the excitement
that <i><span style='font-style:italic'>they</span></i> feel…even if I am
not feeling it. Sometimes I even try to volunteer more for the conference,
to help them do what they do (because if I’m not interested in it myself,
maybe I can help them by serving them). </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Some other times I deliciously and
delightedly use the Law of Two Feet. I go for wonderful walks, butterfly
around into marvelous conversations, take luxurious naps…and periodically
pop back into the conference to see if my feelings or the conference have
changed.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Maybe if you think of the principles of Open
Space, that will help you. </span></font></p>
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10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.25in'><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Whoever comes… </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>So when you post a topic and you are the
only one to come to your group, what are your choices? To be upset –
sure, if you want to – if that serves you in some way. To wait a
little longer and see what happens. To write and write and write, and post
your notes as Breaking News. To disband your little group of one and go
enjoy something else.</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.25in'><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Whatever happens…</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>No matter what you think should, would or
could have happened, what is happening is the only thing. Sometimes it
helps to step away from the would/could/should – which is not what is
currently happening – and step back into the Now.</span></font></p>
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10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.25in'><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Whenever it starts…</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Is this the time it should start, just
because YOU are ready? Maybe you are a visionary ahead of your time…maybe
it is the right method but this is not the time for them to know it…yet…</span></font></p>
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10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.25in'><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>When it’s over…</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>Be there as long as it works for you. Think
of things you can do next – for that community or for yourself…</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'>…just playing with these ideas but see
what you think.</span></font></p>
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10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS"'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><i><font size=3
face="Times New Roman"><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-style:italic'><I
think developing some kind of OST emergency action kit would be a good topic
for an OSonOS.></span></font></i></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Hmmm.
What would go in that kit? Comfortable clothes to help you relax. A
clown nose to help you see the humor. A piece of fruit to give you
nutrition. Oxygen to help you b-r-e-a-t-h-e…</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Oh. You mean
an emergency kit to push Open Space? I mean sell it? I mean use it?</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>You have all
those tools. Ideas, passion, invitation, and maybe a few pieces of paper
to post on the wall if you wish to create some stealth space. </span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>It’s not always
easy being a visionary… </span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>Lisa</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'> </span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=black face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>* For those of
you for whom English is not a first language, ‘crankypants’ is just
a made-up word – ‘cranky’ – if you are using the term
for boats: is tender, tippy (tilting; falling over easily); for people: easily
irritated or annoyed; for roads: full of bends and turns. Of course ‘pants’
is what you wear on the lower half of your body (or maybe, dear reader, you
wear them on your head as a particular style). So saying I’m ‘Mrs.
Crankypants’ is like saying I am all edgy and easily irritated and I have
this little conversation running around in my head that is negative and
withdrawing from the group and making judgments about everything. I
wonder if maybe the best thing to do is use the road definition – as perhaps
around the next bend or turn, things may improve…</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'>___________________________</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue;font-weight:bold'>L
i s a H e f t</span></font></b></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color=blue face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue'>Consultant,
Facilitator, Educator</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:11.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:blue'>O p e n i n
g S p a c e</span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:black'><a
href="mailto:lisaheft@openingspace.net"><font color=black><span
style='color:black'>lisaheft@openingspace.net</span></font></a></span></font></p>
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href="http://www.openingspace.net"><font color=black><span style='color:black'>www.openingspace.net</span></font></a>
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