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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Hi Chris,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>A few thoughts
prompted by your inquiry…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Marshall Rosenburg (<a
href="http://www.cnvc.org/">http://www.cnvc.org/</a>) often makes the
distinction between needs and strategies.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>
</span>He talks about how people’s essential needs are rarely in
conflict, but our strategies for meeting our needs often are.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Perhaps an invitation that affirms the
shared needs of those within the system, observes the conflicting strategies, and
invites inquiry into how people can learn from all the strategies in use—how
does each strategy serve our shared needs and the needs of those we serve?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>How can we learn together to enact a
more integrated strategy that better serves our needs? <span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>It also occurs to me
that folks who are entrenched in dualistic, positional frames of mind often
need a larger “right” to which to attach themselves.<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>In other words, trying to help folks engage
multiplistic thinking when they are attached to dualistic perspectives is
sometimes more difficult than simply expanding the frame of their “rightness”
to include more.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>There’s a
little ditty that goes something like:<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>
</span>“He drew a circle that shut me out, but love and I had the wit to
win.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>We drew a larger circle that
brought him in…” so what is the circle that includes all of their
perspectives and affirms all of their respective “rightness”?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>In my experience, invitations that offer
this context are more likely to engender conversations that transcend positions…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Let me know if/how I
can be of help…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>All the best,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Karen<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>------------------------------------------</span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Karen
Sella</span></font><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:
yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Managing
Partner</span></font><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;
mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'><a
href="http://www.luminacoaching.com">www.luminacoaching.com</a></span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Phone:
206.780.2998</span></font><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;
mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Skype:
luminasella</span></font><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;
mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#487e9c" face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446f7b" face="Book Antiqua"><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:"Book Antiqua";color:#446F7B;mso-no-proof:
yes'>lumina<em><i><font face="Book Antiqua"><span style='font-family:"Book Antiqua"'>
</span></font></i></em>fr. L., <em><i><font face="Book Antiqua"><span
style='font-family:"Book Antiqua"'>light, air, opening</span></font></i></em></span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#487e9c" face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#487e9c" face="Times New Roman"><span
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>-----Original Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST [mailto:</span></font><st1:PersonName><font
size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</span></font></st1:PersonName><font
size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>] <b><span
style='font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of </span></b>Chris Corrigan<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> Monday, March 20, 2006 8:17
AM<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> </span></font><st1:PersonName><font
size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</span></font></st1:PersonName><font
size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'><br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> Conflict in community</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'>Hi Folks:<br>
<br>
An inquiry for you.<br>
<br>
I've had a couple of conversations this week with people involved with local
school boards in the United States. The common themes in these
conversations include high degrees of local conflict, positional politics, an
extreme lack of resources over which no one locally has any control and labour
relations that are best described as toxic. <br>
<br>
IN a conversation today, one man said that he wanted to try Open Space simply
as a way to have all the parts of the system understand each other. I
suggested that this might not bring the peace he was looking for, as people who
would come to that kind of meeting hoping to convince others of their
righteousness would feel at the end of the day that they were either winners or
losers. I thought that result wouldn't necessarily be
transformational. When I asked him if instead we couldn't issue an
invitation to invite people essentially to answer the question "how can we
BE together differently in this system" he balked a little at the notion
of a smaller group of "like minded" individuals. Of course I
don;t see this as starkly black and white, but nevertheless, he thought an
"airing of the issues and a shared understanding" were most
important. <br>
<br>
So my question goes to people who have worked in this situation, with groups
that are highly wedded to positions. What are the kinds of invitations
that allow for "airing," generated shared understanding, and perhaps
lead to transformative relationships? <br>
<br>
By the way, I told him I would do this for less than 1.5 days.<br>
<br>
Thoughts and reflections welcome.<br>
<br>
Chris<br clear=all>
<br>
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CHRIS CORRIGAN<br>
Consultation - Facilitation<br>
Open Space Technology <br>
<br>
Weblog: <a href="http://www.chriscorrigan.com/parkinglot">http://www.chriscorrigan.com/parkinglot</a><br>
Site: <a href="http://www.chriscorrigan.com">http://www.chriscorrigan.com</a><br>
Open Space Resources: <a href="http://tinyurl.com/r94tj">
http://tinyurl.com/r94tj</a> * *
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