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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#000099" face="Trebuchet MS"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";color:#000099'>Christy
wrote: “What, if anything, do you say/do/think when someone says to you,
"oh, I've been to an Open Space Technology meeting before, and I didn't
like it, and wouldn't want to do it again," <br>
<br>
and upon gentle inquiry you discover that what they were told was "Open
Space" was not really so very open? And/or that something was missing (for
example, session summaries weren't posted or shared or compiled in a timely
way, or at all)? <br>
<br>
And especially when the spaces in question were held by really wonderful people
(definitely possessing "good heads and good hearts") whom you like
very much?”<br style='mso-special-character:line-break'>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Hmmmmmm… I imagine
that I would respond with a statement such as “sorry to hear that your
experience was x, especially since I am such a fan of OS and have had mostly positive
experiences attending and convening OS events...” followed by more
inquiry and conversation, depending on my interest and the other person’s
interest in engaging the topic.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>As
I read your email, I found myself asking a lot of questions like:<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>What specifically did
this participant observe—what specifically did (s<span class=GramE>)he</span>
actually see others say/not say or do/not do (e.g. the convener wrinkled his or
her brows, <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>interrupted people two
or three times, and left the room for two hours…)—that led him or
her to his or her interpretations of the event (e.g. the convener is grumpy,
controlling, and shockingly remiss in attending to the event [grin])?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>What are five other
interpretations of the same behaviors (e.g. wrinkling the brows could be
interpreted as the convener is grumpy or having trouble seeing or has a
headache or about to sneeze or concentrating really hard, etc.; interrupting
could be interpreted as the convener is controlling or attempted to open more
space for others by interrupting a few folks who liked the sound of their own
voices a little too much, or didn’t realize that the other person was
still talking, or has a different communication style, etc.; leaving the room…well,
we all know at least one other way that this could be interpreted [grin]…)?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>How did this
participant contribute to his or her experience of the event?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>What did this participant learn about
her/himself?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>How did others
experience the event?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>How did the
convener experience the event?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>What
was the rationale for various decisions to do or not do x (e.g. omit summaries)
and how were the decisions to do or not do x made?<span
style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>This perhaps followed
by more inquiry and more conversation as inspired…and hopefully, more
understanding…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Warm regards,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'>Karen<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=2 color="#487e9c" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:#487E9C'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
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style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>------------------------------------------</span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Karen
Sella</span></font><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:
yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><em><i><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>Managing
Partner</span></font></i></em><font color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;
mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'><a
href="http://www.luminacoaching.com">www.luminacoaching.com</a></span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446d7b" face=Arial><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:Arial;color:#446D7B;mso-no-proof:yes'>206.780.2998</span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#487e9c" face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=1 color="#446f7b" face="Book Antiqua"><span
style='font-size:7.5pt;font-family:"Book Antiqua";color:#446F7B;mso-no-proof:
yes'>lumina<em><i><font face="Book Antiqua"><span style='font-family:"Book Antiqua"'>
</span></font></i></em>fr. L., <em><i><font face="Book Antiqua"><span
style='font-family:"Book Antiqua"'>light, air, opening</span></font></i></em></span></font><font
color="#487e9c"><span style='color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'><o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal><font size=3 color="#487e9c" face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt;color:#487E9C;mso-no-proof:yes'> <o:p></o:p></span></font></p>
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<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>-----Original Message-----<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>From:</span></b> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <b><span style='font-weight:bold'>On
Behalf Of </span></b>Christy Lee-Engel<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b> </span></font><st1:date
Month="1" Day="27" Year="2006"><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'>Friday, January 27, 2006</span></font></st1:date><font
size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> </span></font><st1:time
Hour="20" Minute="30"><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span style='font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:Tahoma'>8:30 PM</span></font></st1:time><font size=2 face=Tahoma><span
style='font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'><br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br>
<b><span style='font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b> How do you respond to
unsatisfying experiences of "open" space?</span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 face="Times New Roman"><span
style='font-size:12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p>
<p class=MsoNormal style='margin-left:.5in'><font size=3 color="#000099"
face="Trebuchet MS"><span style='font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Trebuchet MS";
color:#000099'>Hello dear open space friends,<br>
<br>
What, if anything, do you say/do/think when someone says to you, "oh, I've
been to an Open Space Technology meeting before, and I didn't like it, and
wouldn't want to do it again," <br>
<br>
and upon gentle inquiry you discover that what they were told was "Open
Space" was not really so very open? And/or that something was missing (for
example, session summaries weren't posted or shared or compiled in a timely
way, or at all)? <br>
<br>
And especially when the spaces in question were held by really wonderful people
(definitely possessing "good heads and good hearts") whom you like
very much?<br>
<br>
thank you,<br>
Christy Lee-Engel<br>
Seattle <br>
</span></font>-- <br>
weblog: <a href="http://lifecultivatinglife.blogspot.com">http://lifecultivatinglife.blogspot.com</a>
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