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color=#0000ff size=2>As a former debater (& current trial lawyer) I have one
metaphor I like & use extensively: "stepping into" alternative (and/or
shared) realitie(s). This is what makes peace.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
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<DIV dir=ltr align=left><SPAN class=883574317-01102005><FONT face=Arial
color=#0000ff size=2>Best,</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV dir=ltr align=left><SPAN class=883574317-01102005><FONT face=Arial
color=#0000ff size=2>John</FONT></SPAN></DIV><BR>
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<FONT face=Tahoma size=2><B>From:</B> OSLIST
[mailto:OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU] <B>On Behalf Of </B>Lynda
Klau<BR><B>Sent:</B> Saturday, October 01, 2005 10:33 AM<BR><B>To:</B>
OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR><B>Subject:</B> Re: OSLIST Digest - 29 Sep
2005 to 30 Sep 2005 (#2005-268)<BR></FONT><BR></DIV>
<DIV></DIV><FONT face="Times New Roman"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14px">Hi
All,<BR><BR>For language beyond debate<BR><BR>Two alternatives come to
mind:<BR><BR>Courageous Conversations -- also the title of more than one
book<BR><BR>Conversations at the Edge-- a phase David Whyte —the poet and
corporate speaker-- likes to
use<BR> which
I like very much<BR><BR><BR><BR>Best,<BR>Lynda<BR><BR><FONT
color=#fe0000><B><I>Lynda Klau, Ph.D.<BR></I></B></FONT></SPAN></FONT><B><FONT
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Evolution<BR></FONT></SPAN></FONT></B><FONT size=2><SPAN
style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><FONT face="Times New Roman"><BR>Executive &
Life Coaching, Speaking/ Training, Clinical Psychologist<BR><BR>phone:
212-595-7373<BR>E-mail: <U>lynda@drlyndaklau.com <BR></U>website:<U><A
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style="FONT-SIZE: 12px"><B><I>By the time the sun rises tomorrow<BR>The world
could look entirely
different.<BR></I></B></SPAN></FONT></FONT></FONT><B><I><FONT
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face="Times New Roman"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14px"><BR><BR><BR>On 10/1/05 2:00
AM, "OSLIST automatic digest system" <LISTSERV@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU>
wrote:<BR><BR><FONT color=#0000ff>> There are 4 messages totalling 845 lines
in this issue.<BR>> <BR>> Topics of the day:<BR>> <BR>>
1. Alternatives to Debate/Was Re: Open Space in the European
Community<BR>> 2. Cross Cultural Facilitation (2)<BR>>
3. Estonian Open Space Institute founded and Murphy's Laws ab out
Open Space<BR>> Technology (OST)<BR>>
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<BR>> Date: Fri, 30 Sep 2005 13:41:22 +0300<BR>> From:
Funda <fundaoral@ttnet.net.tr><BR>> Subject: Re:
Alternatives to Debate/Was Re: Open Space in the European <BR>>
Community<BR>> <BR>> I like the word and the concept of "dialogue"<BR>>
<BR>> "dialogue & delibaration" is also meaningful ( Sandy
Heierbacher uses these <BR>> words on Peggy's message)<BR>> <BR>>
Funda<BR>> <BR>> ----- Original Message ----- <BR>> From: "Diana
Larsen" <dlarsen@futureworksconsulting.com><BR>> To:
<OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU><BR>> Sent: Thursday, September 29,
2005 10:29 PM<BR>> Subject: Alternatives to Debate/Was Re: Open Space in the
European Community<BR>> <BR>> <BR></FONT><FONT color=#008000>>> Hi
All,<BR>>> <BR>>> Time to stop lurking, I guess. ;-)<BR>>>
<BR>>> When the purpose of a gathering (or that part of a gathering) is to
<BR>>> explore ideas more than it is to make decisions, I create an
additional <BR>>> flip chart poster with four continua. As I open space
(notice the lower <BR>>> case) for groups, I extend the invitation to
focus on:<BR>>> - inquiry rather than advocacy<BR>>> - discussion
rather than debate<BR>>> - conversation rather than argument<BR>>> -
understanding rather than defending<BR>>> <BR>>> Participants have
come to me to say that it helped them for me to make <BR>>> this
distinction in the kinds of possible discourse. They hadn't thought <BR>>>
about the fact that they had options to choose from when they interacted
<BR>>> on topics about which they felt passion.<BR>>> <BR>>>
Peace!<BR>>> Diana<BR>>> <BR>>> Diana Larsen<BR>>>
www.futureworksconsulting.com 503-288-3550<BR>>> <BR>>>
I'll be at the Pacific Northwest Software Quality Conference in Portland
<BR>>> OR USA, Oct 10-12, 2005. They are ready to accept registrations!
Sign up <BR>>> now for a great conference:<BR>>> <A
href="http://www.pnsqc.org">http://www.pnsqc.org</A><BR>>> <A
href="http://www.pnsqc.org/conference05/workshops.php">http://www.pnsqc.org/conference05/workshops.php</A><BR>>>
<BR>>> Other Upcoming Events:<BR>>> - Open Workshop with Diana
Larsen, Esther Derby & Ken Schwaber<BR>>> "The Secrets of
Agile Teamwork: Beyond Technical Skills"<BR>>>
Dec. 6-8, 2005, Portland OR USA<BR>>>
<A
href="http://www.futureworksconsulting.com/events.html">http://www.futureworksconsulting.com/events.html</A><BR>>>
<BR>>> <BR>>> On Sep 29, 2005, at 9:29 AM, Harrison Owen
wrote:<BR>>> <BR></FONT><FONT color=#ff0000>>>> Very good point!
I have just been invited to facilitate a gathering of <BR>>>>
200<BR>>>> Rabbis and Imams from around the world -- on the question
"Issues and<BR>>>> Opportunities for enabling peace between Jews and
Muslims" (At least I <BR>>>> think<BR>>>> that is the
question). And that nasty word "debate" came up in our<BR>>>>
discussions of how to write the invitation. I can certainly understand
<BR>>>> how<BR>>>> it jumps up -- given everybody's history.
But it really is a bummer. We <BR>>>> do<BR>>>> need to think
of some alternatives. "Engaged Conversation" might head in <BR>>>>
a<BR>>>> more fruitful direction. And other possibilities would be
wonderful.<BR>>>> <BR>>>> Harrison<BR>>>>
<BR>>>> Harrison Owen<BR>>>> 7808 River Falls
Drive<BR>>>> Potomac, Maryland 20845<BR>>>> Phone
301-365-2093<BR>>>> <BR>>>> Open Space Training
www.openspaceworld.com<BR>>>> Open Space Institute
www.openspaceworld.org<BR>>>> Personal website <A
href="http://mywebpages.comcast.net/hhowen/index.htm">http://mywebpages.comcast.net/hhowen/index.htm</A><BR>>>>
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Sat, 1 Oct 2005 11:21:31 +0800<BR>> From:
Brendan McKeague <mckeague@iprimus.com.au><BR>>
Subject: Cross Cultural Facilitation<BR>> <BR>>
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quoted-printable<BR>> <BR>> G'day folks in the OS global community<BR>>
A new client has asked me about facilitating a=20<BR>> one-day OS for a group
of stakeholders and others=20<BR>> about the creation of a refuge/hostel
for=20<BR>> indigenous women - she has only minor concerns=20<BR>> about
using Open Space having recently=20<BR>> experienced her first event with me
- her major=20<BR>> concern is about using a non-Aboriginal white=20<BR>>
male as the facilitator - see honest and=20<BR>> forthright comments below -
and this event would=20<BR>> be in a different part of the country from
where=20<BR>> I live and where I'm not known locally in the=20<BR>>
indigenous community - any thoughts on this=20<BR>> query? Any stories of
this sort of cross-cultural/gender scenario?<BR>> Cheers<BR>>
Brendan<BR>> We have an opportunity with the new site being=20<BR>> built
in ----- to devote some of our resources to=20<BR>> responding to the plight
of indigenous=20<BR>> families. Having a different focus away from
the=20<BR>> mainstream site gives our service an opportunity=20<BR>> to
explore, with the assistance of indigenous=20<BR>> stakeholders, a different
way of responding to=20<BR>> women and children from indigenous
families=20<BR>> escaping violence. I don=92t know what this
will=20<BR>> look like and it will be difficult and we won=92t=20<BR>>
always get it right. It will be a process of=20<BR>> learning and
experimenting with new ways of responding to families.<BR>> <BR>> This is
like a leap into the unknown for us=20<BR>> because it will change our
service. It has not=20<BR>> been undertaken by any other service to
my=20<BR>> knowledge, so there is no blue print to how we=20<BR>> should
proceed. Having said this, I do think it=20<BR>> is possible and I
believe it will have a positive=20<BR>> impact on our service as a
whole.<BR>> There would be about 35-40 people invited to this=20<BR>>
gathering which would represent all of the key=20<BR>> groups that would have
an interest in a=20<BR>> mainstream organisation taking on and providing
a=20<BR>> service to Aboriginal women and children.<BR>> There has been a
positive reaction so far to the=20<BR>> proposal from Aboriginal
organisations but I am=20<BR>> sure we will face some
resistance/perhaps=20<BR>> hostility? (I will probably know this before
we=20<BR>> enter an open space) =96 and in a sense that is one=20<BR>> of
the reasons why I think an Open Space forum=20<BR>> will be good so that we
can hear and respond to people=92s concerns.<BR>> One of my concerns Brendan
is how they will=20<BR>> receive you as a facilitator of this process.
I=20<BR>> am confident about you holding the space for us=20<BR>> to
discuss these issues but I also don=92t want to=20<BR>> set you up in the
process either. I am worried=20<BR>> that there might be some hostility
to a man=20<BR>> facilitating the process and not a woman (you may=20<BR>>
be the only man there). I would love your=20<BR>> thoughts around this
and whether you have done=20<BR>> anything similar before. Part of me
says be=20<BR>> courageous and go with what you think will work=20<BR>>
and another part of me is scared stiff!<BR>> <BR>> *<BR>> *<BR>>
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<BR>> <html><BR>> <body><BR>> G'day folks in the OS global
community<br><BR>> A new client has asked me about facilitating a
one-day OS for a group of<BR>> stakeholders and others about the creation of
a refuge/hostel for<BR>> indigenous women - she has only minor concerns about
using Open Space<BR>> having recently experienced her first event with me -
her major concern<BR>> is about using a non-Aboriginal white male as the
facilitator - see<BR>> honest and forthright comments below - and this event
would be in a<BR>> different part of the country from where I live and where
I'm not known<BR>> locally in the indigenous community - any thoughts on this
query? Any<BR>> stories of this sort of cross-cultural/gender
scenario?<br><BR>> Cheers<br><BR>> Brendan<BR>>
<dl><BR>> <dd>We have an opportunity with the new site being
built in ----- to<BR>> devote some of our resources to responding to the
plight of indigenous<BR>> families. Having a different focus away
from the mainstream site<BR>> gives our service an opportunity to explore,
with the assistance of<BR>> indigenous stakeholders, a different way of
responding to women and<BR>> children from indigenous families escaping
violence. I don=92t know<BR>> what this will look like and it will
be difficult and we won=92t always get<BR>> it right. It will be a
process of learning and experimenting with<BR>> new ways of responding to
families.<BR>> <dd> <BR>> <dd>This is like a leap
into the unknown for us because it will change<BR>> our service. It
has not been undertaken by any other service to my<BR>> knowledge, so there
is no blue print to how we should proceed. <BR>> Having said this, I
do think it is possible and I believe it will have a<BR>> positive impact on
our service as a whole. <br><BR>> <BR>> <dd>There would be
about 35-40 people invited to this gathering which<BR>> would represent all
of the key groups that would have an interest in a<BR>> mainstream
organisation taking on and providing a service to Aboriginal<BR>> women and
children.<BR>> <dd>There has been a positive reaction so far to the
proposal from<BR>> Aboriginal organisations but I am sure we will face
some<BR>> resistance/perhaps hostility? (I will probably know this before we
enter<BR>> an open space) =96 and in a sense that is one of the reasons why I
think an<BR>> Open Space forum will be good so that we can hear and respond
to people=92s<BR>> concerns. <br><BR>> <BR>> <dd>One of my
concerns Brendan is how they will receive you as a<BR>> facilitator of this
process. I am confident about you holding the<BR>> space for us to
discuss these issues but I also don=92t want to set you up<BR>> in the
process either. I am worried that there might be some<BR>>
hostility to a man facilitating the process and not a woman (you may be<BR>>
the only man there). I would love your thoughts around this
and<BR>> whether you have done anything similar before. Part of me
says be<BR>> courageous and go with what you think will work and another part
of me is<BR>> scared stiff! =20<BR>>
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Sep 2005 22:29:49 -0700<BR>> From: Wendy Farmer-O'Neil
<wendy@xe.net><BR>> Subject: Re: Cross Cultural Facilitation<BR>>
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7bit<BR>> <BR>> Hi Brendan,<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> I
can't comment specifically on the cross-cultural experience beyond my<BR>>
anti-racism training but I have worked in the battered women's movement
for<BR>> ten years and the concerns are valid. That said, I think that
there will be<BR>> fewer problems with OST than there would be with other
processes as your<BR>> goal is to be as invisible as possible anyway.
There is also the potential<BR>> benefit in the end of being a positive
model that they don't get to see very<BR>> often. <BR>> <BR>>
<BR>> <BR>> I would suggest, for yourself, you may want to spend a
little time<BR>> evaluating your cultural competence (I have a tool for this
that you could<BR>> probably adapt if you want) and gender analysis so that
you are sure you are<BR>> comfortable going in there-and fully aware of what
you are likely to face.<BR>> Bottom line is that they have no reason to trust
you and many probably<BR>> won't. If you do choose to go ahead, I think
that you need to be as<BR>> authentic and upfront as possible when you open
the circle. If you think<BR>> about this from an appreciative angle, if
you open by addressing your power<BR>> and privilege and by acknowledging
that they have no reason to trust you,<BR>> you can then move right on to why
that's okay-maybe even a good thing,<BR>> because this isn't about you
anyway-it's about them. This is their space,<BR>> their time, their
wisdom. You're just there to hold the space so that they<BR>> can get
to work on what has heart and meaning for them. Look to your<BR>>
sponsor for guidance on language and metaphor that will speak to the
group.<BR>> Your honesty and vulnerability could make the difference.<BR>>
<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> Just my two-cents worth.<BR>> <BR>>
Contact me off-list if you want the cultural competence tool or other
info<BR>> on connecting with white privilege.<BR>> <BR>>
Cheers,<BR>> <BR>> Wendy<BR>> <BR>> wendy@xe.net<BR>> <BR>>
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On Behalf Of Brendan<BR>> McKeague<BR>> Sent: September 30, 2005 8:22
PM<BR>> To: OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<BR>> Subject: Cross Cultural
Facilitation<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> G'day folks in the OS
global community<BR>> A new client has asked me about facilitating a one-day
OS for a group of<BR>> stakeholders and others about the creation of a
refuge/hostel for indigenous<BR>> women - she has only minor concerns about
using Open Space having recently<BR>> experienced her first event with me -
her major concern is about using a<BR>> non-Aboriginal white male as the
facilitator - see honest and forthright<BR>> comments below - and this event
would be in a different part of the country<BR>> from where I live and where
I'm not known locally in the indigenous<BR>> community - any thoughts on this
query? Any stories of this sort of<BR>> cross-cultural/gender
scenario?<BR>> Cheers<BR>> Brendan <BR>> <BR>> We have an
opportunity with the new site being built in ----- to devote some<BR>> of our
resources to responding to the plight of indigenous families.
Having<BR>> a different focus away from the mainstream site gives our
service an<BR>> opportunity to explore, with the assistance of indigenous
stakeholders, a<BR>> different way of responding to women and children from
indigenous families<BR>> escaping violence. I don't know what this will
look like and it will be<BR>> difficult and we won't always get it right.
It will be a process of<BR>> learning and experimenting with new ways
of responding to families. <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> This
is like a leap into the unknown for us because it will change our<BR>>
service. It has not been undertaken by any other service to my
knowledge,<BR>> so there is no blue print to how we should proceed.
Having said this, I do<BR>> think it is possible and I believe it will
have a positive impact on our<BR>> service as a whole. <BR>> <BR>>
There would be about 35-40 people invited to this gathering which would<BR>>
represent all of the key groups that would have an interest in a
mainstream<BR>> organisation taking on and providing a service to Aboriginal
women and<BR>> children. <BR>> <BR>> There has been a positive reaction
so far to the proposal from Aboriginal<BR>> organisations but I am sure we
will face some resistance/perhaps hostility?<BR>> (I will probably know this
before we enter an open space) - and in a sense<BR>> that is one of the
reasons why I think an Open Space forum will be good so<BR>> that we can hear
and respond to people's concerns. <BR>> <BR>> One of my concerns Brendan
is how they will receive you as a facilitator of<BR>> this process. I
am confident about you holding the space for us to discuss<BR>> these issues
but I also don't want to set you up in the process either. I<BR>> am
worried that there might be some hostility to a man facilitating the<BR>>
process and not a woman (you may be the only man there). I would love
your<BR>> thoughts around this and whether you have done anything similar
before.<BR>> Part of me says be courageous and go with what you think will
work and<BR>> another part of me is scared stiff! <BR>> <BR>> * *
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class=3DSection1><BR>> <BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font
size=3D2 color=3Dnavy face=3DArial><span =<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:<BR>> 10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Hi =<BR>>
Brendan,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>I can’t comment specifically
=<BR>> on the<BR>> cross-cultural experience beyond my anti-racism
training but I have =<BR>> worked in<BR>> the battered women’s
movement for ten years and the concerns are<BR>> valid. That said,
I think that there will be fewer problems with =<BR>> OST than<BR>> there
would be with other processes as your goal is to be as invisible =<BR>>
as<BR>> possible anyway. There is also the potential benefit in the
end of =<BR>> being<BR>> a positive model that they don’t get to
see very often. =<BR>>
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>I would suggest, for yourself, you
=<BR>> may<BR>> want to spend a little time evaluating your cultural
competence (I have =<BR>> a tool<BR>> for this that you could probably
adapt if you want) and gender analysis =<BR>> so that<BR>> you are sure
you are comfortable going in there—and fully aware of =<BR>>
what<BR>> you are likely to face. Bottom line is that they have no reason to
trust =<BR>> you<BR>> and many probably won’t. If you
do choose to go ahead, I =<BR>> think that<BR>> you need to be as
authentic and upfront as possible when you open the<BR>> circle. If
you think about this from an appreciative angle, if you =<BR>> open<BR>>
by addressing your power and privilege and by acknowledging that they =<BR>>
have no<BR>> reason to trust you, you can then move right on to why
that’s =<BR>> okay—maybe<BR>> even a good thing,
because this isn’t about you =<BR>>
anyway—it’s<BR>> about them. This is their
space, their time, their wisdom. =<BR>> You’re<BR>>
just there to hold the space so that they can get to work on what has =<BR>>
heart and<BR>> meaning for them. Look to your sponsor for guidance
on language =<BR>> and<BR>> metaphor that will speak to the
group. Your honesty and =<BR>> vulnerability<BR>> could make the
difference.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Just my two-cents =<BR>>
worth…<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Contact me off-list if you want
the<BR>> cultural competence tool or other info on connecting with white
=<BR>>
privilege.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Cheers,<o:p></o:p></span></font></p>=<BR>>
<BR>> <BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>Wendy<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D2 color=3Dnavy
face=3DArial><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy'>wendy@xe.net<o:p></o:p></span></font=<BR></FONT><FONT
color=#008000>>> </p><BR></FONT><FONT color=#0000ff>> <BR>>
<div><BR>> <BR>> <div class=3DMsoNormal align=3Dcenter
style=3D'text-align:center'><font =<BR>> size=3D3<BR>> face=3D"Times
New Roman"><span style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'><BR>> <BR>> <hr
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class=3DMsoNormal><b><font size=3D2 face=3DTahoma><span
=<BR>> style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;<BR>>
font-family:Tahoma;font-weight:bold'>From:</span></font></b><font
=<BR>> size=3D2<BR>> face=3DTahoma><span
style=3D'font-size:10.0pt;font-family:Tahoma'> =<BR>>
<st1:PersonName<BR>> w:st=3D"on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName> [<A
href="mailto:<st1:PersonName">mailto:<st1:PersonName</A> =<BR>>
w:st=3D"on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU]<BR>>
<b><span style=3D'font-weight:bold'>On Behalf Of
</span></b>Brendan =<BR>> McKeague<br><BR>>
<b><span style=3D'font-weight:bold'>Sent:</span></b>
September 30, 2005 =<BR>> 8:22 PM<br><BR>> <b><span
style=3D'font-weight:bold'>To:</span></b> <st1:PersonName
=<BR>>
w:st=3D"on">OSLIST</st1:PersonName>@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU<br><BR>>
<b><span style=3D'font-weight:bold'>Subject:</span></b>
Cross Cultural<BR>>
Facilitation</span></font><o:p></o:p></p><BR>>
<BR>> </div><BR>> <BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font
size=3D3 face=3D"Times New Roman"><span =<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:<BR>>
12.0pt'><o:p> </o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal><font size=3D3 face=3D"Times New
Roman"><span =<BR>> style=3D'font-size:<BR>> 12.0pt'>G'day folks
in the OS global community<br><BR>> A new client has asked me about
facilitating a one-day OS for a group of<BR>> stakeholders and others about
the creation of a refuge/hostel for =<BR>> indigenous<BR>> women - she has
only minor concerns about using Open Space having =<BR>> recently<BR>>
experienced her first event with me - her major concern is about using a<BR>>
non-Aboriginal white male as the facilitator - see honest and forthright<BR>>
comments below - and this event would be in a different part of the =<BR>>
country<BR>> from where I live and where I'm not known locally in the
indigenous =<BR>> community -<BR>> any thoughts on this query? Any stories
of this sort of =<BR>> cross-cultural/gender<BR>>
scenario?<br><BR>> Cheers<br><BR>> Brendan
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>We have an opportunity with the new site =<BR>>
being built<BR>> in ----- to devote some of our resources to responding to
the plight of<BR>> indigenous families. Having a different focus
away from the =<BR>> mainstream<BR>> site gives our service an opportunity
to explore, with the assistance of =<BR>> indigenous<BR>> stakeholders, a
different way of responding to women and children from<BR>> indigenous
families escaping violence. I don’t know what =<BR>> this
will<BR>> look like and it will be difficult and we won’t always
get it<BR>> right. It will be a process of learning and
experimenting with new =<BR>> ways<BR>> of responding to families.
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>This is like a leap into the unknown for us
=<BR>> because it<BR>> will change our service. It has not been
undertaken by any other =<BR>> service<BR>> to my knowledge, so there is
no blue print to how we should =<BR>> proceed. Having<BR>> said
this, I do think it is possible and I believe it will have a =<BR>>
positive<BR>> impact on our service as a whole.
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>There would be about 35-40 people invited to
=<BR>> this<BR>> gathering which would represent all of the key groups
that would have an<BR>> interest in a mainstream organisation taking on and
providing a service =<BR>> to<BR>> Aboriginal women and children.
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
<p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>There has been a positive reaction so far to
=<BR>> the<BR>> proposal from Aboriginal organisations but I am sure we
will face some<BR>> resistance/perhaps hostility? (I will probably know this
before we enter =<BR>> an<BR>> open space) – and in a sense that
is one of the reasons why I =<BR>> think an<BR>> Open Space forum will be
good so that we can hear and respond to =<BR>> people’s<BR>>
concerns. <o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>>
<BR>> <p class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'margin-left:.5in'><font size=3D3
=<BR>> face=3D"Times New Roman"><span<BR>>
style=3D'font-size:12.0pt'>One of my concerns Brendan is how they will
=<BR>> receive<BR>> you as a facilitator of this process. I am
confident about you =<BR>> holding<BR>> the space for us to discuss these
issues but I also don’t want to =<BR>> set you<BR>> up in the
process either. I am worried that there might be some =<BR>>
hostility<BR>> to a man facilitating the process and not a woman (you may be
the only =<BR>> man<BR>> there). I would love your thoughts
around this and whether you =<BR>> have done<BR>> anything similar
before. Part of me says be courageous and go with =<BR>>
what<BR>> you think will work and another part of me is scared
stiff! =<BR>>
<o:p></o:p></span></font></p><BR>> <BR>>
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Oct 2005 08:41:32 +0300<BR>> From: Mikk Sarv
<mikk@ilm.ee><BR>> Subject: Estonian Open Space Institute founded and
Murphy's Laws ab out Open <BR>> Space Technology (OST)<BR>> <BR>> Dear
friends!<BR>> <BR>> Yesterday gathered first time the initiative group of
Estonian Open Space<BR>> Institute and decided to get it launched. For
beginning there is more Open<BR>> Space part than Institute - we decided to
start as unformal group for<BR>> beginning. Our next meeting is the 4th of
November and our dream or ambition<BR>> is to organise next year on the first
week of June in Tallinn, Estonia the<BR>> European OSonOS.<BR>> <BR>>
Our first contribution to the Open Space world is th Murphy's Laws about<BR>>
Open Space Technology, put into words by Arno Baltin with additions from<BR>>
Jyri Bachman and Jaago Piller, translated into English by Toomas Niit.
You<BR>> are much welcomed to contribute to the work with your amendments and
new<BR>> parts.<BR>> <BR>> Mikk Sarv<BR>> <BR>> Murphy's Laws
about Open Space Technology (OST)<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> 1. If
anything can go wrong, it will.<BR>> <BR>> 1.1. If it does not go wrong,
it is Open Space (OS).<BR>> <BR>> 3. When the paying part is an eager user
of the OS, nothing much comes out<BR>> of it.<BR>> <BR>> 4. When the
participants come unwillingly, there will be a powerful and<BR>> uhibited
discussion.<BR>> <BR>> 5. When the discussion is fruitful, it will let to
go wrong.<BR>> <BR>> 6. If OST produces something new, the participants do
not recognize it as a<BR>> result of OST.<BR>> <BR>> 7. If the opener
of space is very considerate, it makes the participants to<BR>> struggle
against.<BR>> <BR>> 7.1. If the opener of space is unconciderate, the
result is the same.<BR>> <BR>> 8. When it feels that it's over, it is just
starting.<BR>> <BR>> 9. When everybody is present, somebody is still
missing.<BR>> <BR>> 10. If you haven't got anything to learn from the
discussion or to add to<BR>> it, your feet are like planted into the ground
and you feel that you can't<BR>> use them.<BR>> <BR>> 10.1. When you
finally can get your feet moving, the discussion is becoming<BR>>
interesting.<BR>> <BR>> 10.2. When the discussion becomes interesting, the
time is over.<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> 11. When you start an important topic,
only the butterflies come into the<BR>> group.<BR>> <BR>> 11.1. When
the last butterfly leaves, you'll understand that the topic wasn'<BR>> t
significant at all.<BR>> <BR>> 12. A bee does not feel being a bee before
meeting a butterfly.<BR>> <BR>> Jüri Bachman's addition:<BR>> <BR>>
<BR>> 13. When the right people are present, someone still leaves - these are
the<BR>> right people who do.<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> 13. 1. The right
people are there when we aren't. When we aren't, they are<BR>> there. When we
arrive, they are about to leave.<BR>> <BR>> 14. If during the OST the
impetus calms down, the flame goes out, or the<BR>> pessimism takes over, it
fires a new passion.<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> (and from Jaago
Piller):<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> 15. Laughter discharges the lost
energy.<BR>> <BR>> 15.1. The loss of energy discharges from
laughter.<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> Welcome to everybody!<BR>>
<BR>> (And a note to Arno Baltin: Translation during the prime-time
television<BR>> without open space will cost you 5** EEK + two dark beers in
a closed<BR>> space).<BR>> <BR>> Toomas Niit<BR>> <BR>> Murphy's
grandfather in Estonia<BR>> <BR>> September 30, 2005<BR>> <BR>> 2:15
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