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<DIV>Resonating with much you say here Lisa. I did a very powerful OS last year
with a large faith-based social service organization. We explored some issues
that historically polarized some in the community but/and in open space, people
felt for the first time heard and honored for their differences. The outcome
exceeded the client's expectations, I think, because there was deeper listening
than ever before.</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>A Tibetan teacher I heard recently said that best way to organize any
dynamic system is to give it space. One of my teachers once said that in
Japanese, the word for hell translates literally as "no space." I am still
awe-struck by the suggestion. It suggestions the notion of harmony as giving
everyone enough space to be who they are. That's what listening does, and
listening is how I respond to pain and joy in all of its expressions. </DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>As for Harrison, I'm counting on him being here at least for another 45
years because that's how long I expect to be here.</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Jack</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>~~~~~~~~~~</DIV>
<DIV>jack ricchiuto</DIV>
<DIV>two.one.six/three.seven.three/seven.four.seven.five</DIV>
<DIV><A href="http://www.designinglife.com/">www.designinglife.com</A> / <A
href="http://www.appreciativeleadership.org">www.appreciativeleadership.org</A>
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<DIV>------------Original Message------------</DIV>
<DIV>From: Lisa Heft <lisaheft@openingspace.net></DIV>
<DIV>To: OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU</DIV>
<DIV>Date: Sun, May-22-2005 8:50 PM</DIV>
<DIV>Subject: Re: an attempt at an answer</DIV>
<DIV>Hey, Raffi -</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Of course I support you on doing anything that has heart and meaning
for</DIV>
<DIV>you.</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>But I echo what I think are Funda's words - if you do not feel</DIV>
<DIV>community, be community.</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>To me, the OSLIST feels very much like a community - lots of people
I</DIV>
<DIV>richly enjoy, some people I do not agree with (and still, I usually</DIV>
<DIV>enjoy them), a few people who make me crazy (mostly crazy-good,</DIV>
<DIV>sometimes crazy-have-to-take-a-breath), lots of support for my
different</DIV>
<DIV>ways of being, a sense of connection, a sense of shared values even</DIV>
<DIV>through different cultures and experiences, also education,</DIV>
<DIV>enrichment...</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>If you feel that Harrison might step aside in order to enable
something</DIV>
<DIV>else or someone else to come forth, could it be (this is just a
guess)</DIV>
<DIV>that you are creating the feeling that he is in the way of /
preventing</DIV>
<DIV>something? (hmmm - if so, sounds like you give him a lot of
power...</DIV>
<DIV>;o) )</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>If this community / our Open Space is a circle, and every one of us</DIV>
<DIV>(both list 'talkers' and list 'witnesses', both the
multiply-experienced</DIV>
<DIV>and the very-new-to-OST) is in the circle, holding the principles
and</DIV>
<DIV>law in mind, is this not community? Can anybody be in the way
of</DIV>
<DIV>anything different happening when each of us has a choice to do or
act</DIV>
<DIV>or watch or listen or leave or return?</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>And hmm. So some people love every word you say and some feel
prickly</DIV>
<DIV>or whatever. Do you want a community that just always says 'oh
raffi</DIV>
<DIV>every word you say is like a jewel', or do you want difference and</DIV>
<DIV>diversity and learning through the struggles and joys of
communicating</DIV>
<DIV>the challenging stuff? I suspect that you are committed to
the</DIV>
<DIV>learning. And so are so many of us who hold space on this list.
So I</DIV>
<DIV>hope you stay, and if you leave, I'll know that you are using the Law
of</DIV>
<DIV>Two Feet (if you are neither learning nor contributing...) because
you</DIV>
<DIV>are committed to being fully engaged and need to find that in
another</DIV>
<DIV>setting/community. And that is something I salute in you...</DIV>
<DIV> </DIV>
<DIV>Warmly,</DIV>
<DIV>Lisa</DIV>
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<DIV>___________________________</DIV>
<DIV>L i s a H e f t</DIV>
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<DIV>2325 Oregon</DIV>
<DIV>Berkeley, California</DIV>
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