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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Marei,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Not only aggression but every feeling teaches
me how important and sensible is the way we communice.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Everytime i say ok now i have to communicate...I
then have to find the best way to do it..the best way is </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>when i am able to say what is correct for me (my
truth) but without causing a damage ...(blaming,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>criticizing so on)..politely,
respectfuly....</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>I am getting better and better in doing
this.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>I observe that we (both woman and man) were
taught to talk when we needed to make war ( to defend ourselves or to
attack)</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>or to hide ourselves (lie, talk to
much.... )....that was what communication meant to be.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Hopefully things are
changing. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial
size=2>Funda </FONT></DIV>
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<A title=MareiKiele@web.de href="mailto:MareiKiele@web.de">Marei Kiele</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Wednesday, April 27, 2005 9:18
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: on OST facilitator
aggression, sexism (and all other garden variety and not so garden variety
"isms"), politicalcorrectness, genocide, Raffi, Therese, Paul, Masud, and
other closet OS listserv fratboys OR the wonders of opening space by pressing
"Delete" in the ever expanding NOW</DIV>
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<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Dear Lucas,</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>you seem to be on an interesting track.
Don't have time right now to get deeper in it.<BR>Probably it's somehow
related with using the power of agression (because there is strength in it) to
build something instead of destroying sth (even though sometimes something has
to be destroyed to get enough space for building sth new.)</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>What about taking the negative label from
"agression"? What about seeing the feeling itself as okay and only looking at
what do I do with it?</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>As a (as I assume) typical female habit I
have tried to live my life without agression for years and years. Every time I
felt agression I would immediately punish myself and change into depression
mode instead (unconsciously, of course; the punishing myself I
did to avoid punishment from my surrounding, as I remember this
is called "internalize" in psychology = unconsciously doing to
oneself what earlier parents or society have done). Now I know that I have cut
off acess to big part of my creative power by censoring myself the way I
did.</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>I would love to hear "positive" examples
from this list of results that where reached with the power of
agression.</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Marei</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2></FONT> </P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2></FONT> </P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New"><FONT
size=2> "Lucas Gonzalez" <</FONT></FONT><A
href="mailto:lgs0a@yahoo.es>"><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2>mailto:lgs0a@yahoo.es></FONT></A><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2> schrieb:<BR></FONT><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2>...<BR>> I don't know if the idea is clear, as I myself am only starting to "get<BR>> it".<BR>> <BR>> So, what about agression and jokes? Could it be that our toxic<BR>> agressive energy is better used as a resource ... to be used somewhere<BR>> else and not within the same place where it was generated? Could it be<BR>> that, whenever we sense agression, we should look around to see if have<BR>> not really invited the whole system into the same room, and we should<BR>> widen things a bit? Maybe gender-related agressiveness is not gender<BR>> related at all?<BR>> <BR>> Does this make any sense? Does it take us anywhere? You all know<BR>> more.<BR>> <BR>> Lucas<BR></P></FONT>*
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