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<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>dear Agneta, dear
Lisa,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>thank you for this great question
and response! </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>This reminds me on an 1day OST
conference with about 70 people from last year. "Something unexpected" and
really wonderful happend at the afternoon. Here briefly the situation: During
the agenda setting phase within a few minutes 27 topics were raised. The session
groups were working very intensive since approx. 4 hours as I saw one person
walking (like an almost invisble butterfly). Then I felt, that he was "looking
for me" ... but in a very shy way. I decided not to go to him and not to ask
him. Maybe 30 minutes later he came to me and said, that he prefere to be a
butterfly ... and he said, that he would have an urgent topic. I said, if you
want, you can raise it now ... in 15 minutes our last time slot will beginn and
we can arrange for you within a few seconds a further session room.
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<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>He said, "NO ... because in a
special kind my issue has also to do with these people here and my desire
would be, that interested people could discuss <U>without me</U> some possible
solutions." I said, that this is a wonderful idea, and I recommended that he
could raise his issue AND let the people at the same time know how he would like
to have the workshop setting. </FONT><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>I
saw how happy he was, and then he said ... "OK, I will invite them to my issue -
then I will only describe my problem and my desire - and then I will leave them
alone." I said, "great ... are you ready?" He said yes and I felt his amazing
courage. </FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>It was exactly the time before
the last time slot should start and therefore (with a little help from the
temble bells) many people listened him ... by standing around him in a circle.
It was a very special - quite - emotional moment. He was very authentic and
everybody could see and feel his grief. Within a few seconds our wonderful
co-facilitators arranged a new session space - and immediately 10 or 12
participants went to this area and sat down. I was surprised to see, that he
went also to this session space. From the distance I could see, that he
introduced into his topic and about 10 minutes later he came to me. He wanted to
share with me, that the group and he made the following arrangement: first the
group works alone and 10 minutes before the session end the group wants to
inform him about their solution ideas. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>Then he went to the bufett. The
group worked very intensive - they used big papers, and they had one person, who
was responsible for the proceeding. Later, the man went back to the group in
order to hear the results. Then they worked together until the closing circle
... "only the talking stick" could stop their conversations :). I was deeply
impressed to see his happy eyes. A few days after the OST somebody told me, that
this man (BTW, he is almost 70 years old) had a deep healing experience during
and after the event. This was a gift for me.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Verdana color=#000080 size=2>Cheers from
Berlin,<BR>Gabriela</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Thursday, April 07, 2005 7:05
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: anonyme posting</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>Hello, dear Agnetta --<BR><BR>You wrote:<BR>< One of the
students asked me a question I really couldn't answer -<BR>yes, I answered,
but I am not satisfied. She asked: what if one made an<BR>OS on a workplace
where they had sexual harassments, and somebody wanted<BR>to post the issue
but didn't dare. Could that person post it<BR>anonymously? If not, why? I
tried to answer her, I talked about passion<BR>and responsibility and possible
problems.and I told her that it was a<BR>very tricky question. What would you
answer?><BR><BR>I have had people not be able to stand in front of the
group to post,<BR>but they have had the courage to write a topic and to appear
at the<BR>designated discussion area when it is time. So they had the passion
and<BR>took the responsibility but just couldn't feel comfortable standing
in<BR>front of the crowd and naming it. So in these instances I
have<BR>announced the issue for them and then given the paper back to them
to<BR>post wherever on the agenda wall.<BR><BR>This is a bit similar but of
course the person had to show up ultimately<BR>for the session to begin
it.<BR><BR>We all know how people have to find a way to name things and be
there<BR>for the conversation, otherwise people would just name sessions
and<BR>never take responsibility to engage - they would just say 'people
should<BR>talk about x' and not be there to help it happen.<BR><BR>And/but
here you have a delicate situation IF the person feels<BR>vulnerable saying
the topic or being in the group or anything, perhaps.<BR><BR>The next best
thing I can think of is to recommend the person find<BR>someone they know who
is not uncomfortable with hosting the subject, and<BR>to ask that person if
they'd like to post/host it.<BR><BR>The other part of my thinking is that I
would try to do the same<BR>thorough pre-work as for every OS event to see
what is the best theme,<BR>sense what the elephant / moose / skeleton (hidden)
issues are, and to<BR>be informed as much as possible in that way when
choosing words to open<BR>the space.<BR><BR>Other than that, I would tell the
person how proud I am that they think<BR>of bringing this issue into
conversation and I support them in doing so<BR>wherever and in whatever way
they can where they might feel safe or<BR>courageous - even if that safety and
courage means they do not post it.<BR>Oftentimes something really important
gets talked about all the way<BR>through an Open Space even if it is not
posted - it just comes up in<BR>many sessions throughout the day...because the
intention is there to<BR>talk about it.<BR><BR>Great question.<BR><BR>What do
others think?<BR><BR>Lisa<BR><BR>___________________________<BR>L i s
a H e f t<BR>Consultant, Facilitator, Educator<BR>O p e n i n
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