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<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Marei says</FONT><FONT face="Courier New"
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<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>"I have been fighting for change a lot - and
as the expression already shows this fight did not lead into peace, but by
making the other person wrong I created resistance and more conflict. In my
current opinion the foundation for change can only be the belief that there
was a good reason for me or another person or a group to act the way we
did. Which led us where we are now. <STRONG>Acting different in the
future can than be reached by inviting, by showing
alternatives, by inspiring people to believe that it is possible to do and
to reach what they have not thought to be possible before</STRONG>.
<STRONG>And by having them decide to change from free
will. "</STRONG></FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" color=#000080 size=2>I agree and <FONT
face="Courier New" color=#000080 size=2>I want to add <EM><STRONG>"not
by showing but by asking alternatives, opening space for free will to
show up" </STRONG> </EM></FONT></P></FONT>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" color=#000080 size=2>For this, we should be engaged
in dialogue, open, ready to listen to each other in order to reach,
discover what we think that is not possible, what we can not even vision
(because of many blocks as mentioned in previous messages)</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" color=#000080 size=2>Funda</FONT><FONT
face="Courier New" color=#000080 size=2> </FONT></P></DIV>
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<A title=MareiKiele@web.de href="mailto:MareiKiele@web.de">Marei Kiele</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Tuesday, December 07, 2004 6:27
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: Practice of Peace in
Sweden--A reflection on the Issue</DIV>
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<P><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2> "Alexander Kjerulf" <</FONT><A
href="mailto:alexander@kjerulf.com>"><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2>mailto:alexander@kjerulf.com></FONT></A><FONT face="Courier New"
size=2> schrieb:<BR>> <BR>> And remember that inner peace isn't the same as complacency. Quite the<BR>> contrary, if you're at peace with yourself and the world, you're much<BR>> more ready and willing to do something about it. Conversely, if your<BR>> worldview is dominated by anger and frustration at the current state of<BR>> the world, you're in a bad position to spread peace.<BR>> <BR>> I found an excellent quote by Patch Adams, that points to this:<BR>> /Change that is deeply effective and positive presents a paradoxical<BR>> challenge. On the one hand, there needs to be an appreciation and<BR>> acceptance of how things are in the here and now. On the other hand,<BR>> there needs to be an active intention to make things better. Nothing<BR>> needs to change, and everything can improve. This is the way to avoid<BR>> the two extremist traps of activist's frustration or pessimistic<BR>> complacency./<BR>> - Patch Adams<BR>> <BR>> Can you accept and appreciate the world as it is right now? Then you can<BR>> start to make it better (to quote the Beatles) :o)<BR></FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Dear Alexander,</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>I want to stress what you wrote with a
quote from Carl Rogers (client-centered psychotherapy):</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>"The odd paradox is that I can change
myself when I accept myself the way I am."</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Just now, during these last weeks, I
get into deeply understanding how valid this is on
every level, including the level of my outer world as well.</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>I have been fighting for change a lot - and
as the expression already shows this fight did not lead into peace, but
by making the other person wrong I created resistance and more
conflict. In my current opinion the foundation for change can only
be the belief that there was a good reason for me or another person or
a group to act the way we did. Which led us where we are now. Acting
different in the future can than be reached by inviting, by
showing alternatives, by inspiring people to believe that it is possible
to do and to reach what they have not thought to be possible before.
And by having them decide to change from free will. </FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>And I agree with you, Anu, and what you
wrote about the all-oneness instead of continuing to fight the battle of mine
and thine. And about really living an open space life. Thanks for your
long piece on peace.</FONT></P>
<P><FONT face="Courier New" size=2>Marei</FONT></P>* *
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