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<font face="Courier New" size=2>"Funda Oral" <fundaokan@superonline.com> schrieb:</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> Dear Marei,</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> This is also a challenge for me.....do the (my) right thing ....only for</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> (my) responsibilities</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> and not for "my ego" or not for (my) physical/psychological needs.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>Dear Funday,</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>I am not sure if I got you right. But I would like to answer your mail by switching things a bit:</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>I believe ALL I do is for meeting my personal needs. And I believe this is what everyone always does. And that is just fine. I believe that all (human) life is about maximum joy and minimum pain. We only have different ways to do this.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>What a person and a community learns during developement is that there are ways to fulfill one's needs and those of others </font><font face="Courier New" size=2><i>at the same time</i></font><font face="Courier New" size=2>. And that this is much more fun and more effective than only taking care for the ego. Win-win-situations they are called nowadays.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>So whenever somebody else askes me to help, support, assist in a process or whatever (s)he is giving me the opportunity to experience me in a way I may like to be in. This is a gift for both sides.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>That's what I ment by "there is no being on a higher level than anybody else". Being aware is maybe a better word than being sensual. Because I did not mean holding back or not being proud or not playing open. To me being aware that whatever I do I do to meet my needs fits perfectly with living and experiencing without holding back but with full engagement and joy.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>And I experience that with this awareness and openess others benefit much more from my being than during the time I thought I was "doing good".</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>This may sound like an ego-trip but there is a difference. Hope I could point that out.</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>Greetings from another sunny day in Germany,</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>Marei</font><br>
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<font face="Courier New" size=2>"Funda Oral" <fundaokan@superonline.com> schrieb:</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> "Seeing us (os-folks) as doing something esp. valuable and deciding who to</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> give it to and who not to I see a big danger in that thought. Even the idea</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> of 'helping others to transform' includes the own judgment that the state</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> they are in now is not okay and they should change. And it seems to include</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> seeing oneself on a 'higher' level. And that is something to be very careful</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> about, too."</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> Dear Marei,</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> This is also a challenge for me.....do the (my) right thing ....only for</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> (my) responsibilities</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> and not for "my ego" or not for (my) physical/psychological needs.</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> Still I must act, talk and live</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> Sometimes it is very dangerous also to say "us (os-folks)" or "me" or</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> "my"....but we also have to say that with responsibility</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> because we exist somehow.</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> And we shape the world with choices and decisions we make or we don't make.</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> And when it's the right time I guess it is also ok "to be proud of</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> something", "to share a success" of course without taking</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> others'space</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> Anyway, it is hard to explain but I just wanted to say;</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> yes to..."being sensual" but without being afraid of living, experiencing,</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> playing your role openely, by being yourself as Harrison mentioned</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> somewhere,</font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> </font><br>
<font face="Courier New" size=2>> finding and defining "your" "my" "our" space again and again</font><br>
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