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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Karen Wrote:</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2><FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3>For this
reason, before stepping aside I *might* have named some of<BR>what I was feeling
swirling throughout the space, perhaps even noting<BR>my own held breath (if it
was held), as a method to make it "okay" for<BR>others to do the same. This is
important, I believe, because as the<BR>individuals in the group "own" their
experience, there will be less<BR>"un-owned stuff" swirling about the group and
causing havoc on others.<BR>Through the acts of noticing and naming, we allow
ourselves to be<BR>present with what's happening, while also remaining
non-attached.</FONT></FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>I guess I didn't make fully clear my actions and
words. In fact I did just what Karen suggests. As a preamble to my
departure, I likened the situation to living on the San Andreas Fault
(earthquake zone in California) For years it is all quiet, and then the last
molecule of rock melts under the pressure and the great tectonic plates shift --
violently. So also living in an organization. Things seem same old/same old --
and then what everybody knows, but nobody says is spoken. The world shifts. And
when that happens disorientation is the automatic result. The temptation is to
run -- but where? Before action it is useful to know where you are and where you
are going -- or you will never know when you get there. After a few more words I
made my departure with the promise to return. Upon my return I passed the stick
with the words, "Where are you and where are you going??</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Harrison</DIV></FONT>
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<A title=karen@modus360.com href="mailto:karen@modus360.com">karen gorrin</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=OSLIST@LISTSERV.BOISESTATE.EDU
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Wednesday, August 25, 2004 6:24
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: Unintend Consequences,
Collateral Damage and Truth Telling</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>There is a saying that goes something like this, "If you
love<BR>something, set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours. If
it<BR>doesn't, it never was." These words feel relevant here.<BR><BR>With the
act of stepping aside, IMHO Harrison truly allowed room for<BR>ALL
possibilities of outcome: the energy of the group and it's<BR>individuals may
have blossomed or contracted, or shifted in any number<BR>of expected or
unexpected ways, perhaps leading to the collapse of<BR>this OST process
altogether, perhaps leading to renewed energy and<BR>focus. By loving so much,
and by trusting so much, Harrison modeled<BR>what it truly means to, "allow
what Must Be to emerge." And so it did.<BR><BR><BR>In other words, people were
lovingly offered space in which to<BR>"metabolize" (or process) their powerful
group experience, taking<BR>whatever path was appropriate for them to do so.
There is tremendous<BR>freedom and creativity in such loving space. In fact, I
might say that<BR>open loving space is really all that actually exists. (A
conversation<BR>for another thread!)<BR><BR>I find that the "gasp-lack of
oxygen" feeling can be a fear response<BR>that arises when powerful,
unfamiliar, or uncomfortable emotions catch<BR>people by surprise. Often, just
the act of naming the emotion, and<BR>normalizing it's existence, makes room
(and makes it "okay") for<BR>people to relax their defensives, own their
experience, and return to<BR>their breath and the present moment.<BR><BR>For
this reason, before stepping aside I *might* have named some of<BR>what I was
feeling swirling throughout the space, perhaps even noting<BR>my own held
breath (if it was held), as a method to make it "okay" for<BR>others to do the
same. This is important, I believe, because as the<BR>individuals in the group
"own" their experience, there will be less<BR>"un-owned stuff" swirling about
the group and causing havoc on others.<BR>Through the acts of noticing and
naming, we allow ourselves to be<BR>present with what's happening, while also
remaining non-attached.<BR><BR>Greeting from rainy and cold
Seattle.<BR><BR><BR>---<BR>karen gorrin | ceo<BR><A
href="http://www.modus360.com">www.modus360.com</A><BR><BR>Modus360 |
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